Was I in the wrong? Neighbour issue?

Ooops, I had a go at mine on Saturday. Fed up with his sodding dog pissing on my fence.

So you created a group. Deliberately excluded them on the basis of ‘well they won’t want to join anyway’ thereby making an assumption about them, which is doubly rude. Of course they don’t want to talk to you. I don’t see how you don’t see that you have created a hostile relationship with people that have gone out of their way to help you in the past. Are you going to apologise and put things right or just post on here and be inactive in your real life?

If it's for your estate then you invite everyone. Not everyone you choose so you can gossip about those who have been deemed unsuitable.

Of course it's rude not to include your next door neighbour. Apologise, explain you wrongly assumed it wasn't their thing and you weren't thinking. Then if they still hold a grudge you can't do much.

But this group will now have factions presumably, those who are pro the exclusion of NDN and those that are not? You created a rod for your back with this selective invitation.

Honestly, I wouldn't sweat it for more than a minute.

If you get a chance to speak to her just explain why you didn't invite them.

Not sure why everyone is being so harsh as if someone didn't invite their best friend to their wedding. It's just a Facebook group. Who cares? It's one less thing to not have a notification popping up for to distract you from something more important in life.

I created a private Facebook group for the 3 streets on the new build estate where I live.

No you didn't, you created a clique and deliberatly excluded neighbours that used to do favours for you. Of course they're annoyed! You can't even claim that you forgot, you considered inviting them and decided against it. You are very much in the wrong.

You have been daft - of course she’s going to feel excluded.
Go round and explain you thought you’d invited her to join but now realise your error and please can you put her on - hopefully she’ll say yes and not slam the door.
In fact I’d take a bunch of flowers too - never fall out with neighbours if you can help it!!

What kind of nasty excuse is that? You were mean. Of course they don’t want to chat. I wouldn’t want to talk again after that either.

Surely you just ask them whether they want to join, while letting them know that you won't be offended if they say no?

From their perspective, it was a deliberate snub so you can't be surprised if they are actively avoiding any interactions with you.

Surely you would have posted something through everyone's doors saying you were setting up a group, here’s the details and the letting them join

if you did it word of mouth then you were mean to exclude them, just because they seem to keep to themselves doesn’t mean they would not join a FB group locally

Go and apologise and give them to the details to join

I didn’t think that she would want to join

🤣🤣🤣

Well that's a shit excuse!!!

I did ask my other next door neighbour to join.

All the more reason for them to be pissed. Consider yourself lucky they stayed in their car….

It’s one thing to choose not to join in, and another to be excluded from a street wide group. Best go around and apologise, say you didn’t want to intrude with it as you felt they liked to keep themselves to themselves (or something), profusely apologise and send them the link. It’s all in your apology though - it was v thoughtless of you and they’re right to be mad.

And if this is a reverse then go and tell the group setter upper that yes you would like the option please.

You didn’t think she’d want to join? Nothing like assuming you know what other people think!

You were mean by excluding them and assuming they wouldn’t want to join. They now are behaving as expected. If most people were frozen out of something they would behave the same way. Why would you expect them to be friendly when you have made them feel excluded from their own area? And groups like this usually end up a bitchfest, so they are probably aware of that too and are assuming it’s aimed at them.

You can be in a Facebook group and still keep yourself to yourself. Being in a Facebook group doesn’t suddenly mandate a sharing or airing of one’s dirty laundry.

Well, she is taking her cues from you - You were rude and didn’t invite them, despite her doing you favours (bin and deliveries) and chatting/engaging with you. I wouldn’t give you the time of day, either, as I would assume you wouldn’t want me to.

The whole idea of street WhatsApp and Facebook groups baffle me.

Quite probably.

I don't understand why you didn't ask them if you've done it for the three streets.I would also have stopped taking in your bin and parcels, they're doing things for you but you've made it clear they aren't part of the group.

this has to be either a joke or a child.

This.

Yes, why didn’t you ask them? We need to know to be able to respond appropriately

This is a reverse

Unless you're missing something out. YABU