Was I in the wrong? Neighbour issue?

So, OP, now that 98% of people who have voted have agreed you were BU, what do you plan to do about it?

If you are doing something like that you invite everyone and let them make the choice whether to join or not. You do not make decision on their behalf based on your own assumptions.

She used to chat to you now doesn’t. Why did you exclude her? I’d knock , apologise and add her- if she still wants..

I’m quiet, keep myself to myself and have a small circle of friends but doesn’t mean I don’t want to know what’s going on. I still joined the local facebook page. Keeps me up to date with what is going on in the area. I’ve posted once when my parcel was delivered to the wrong place and replied only a couple of times to things I can help with but I’m mainly quiet in the back ground.

YABU. You should have invited them like everyone else and let them decide what they wanted to do. This could get petty, so drop a note round to apologise, say that you misread the situation, that you should not have presumed that they wouldn't be interested, that they are very welcome to join and that you will send an invite out later that day and that you hope that they join..

Yeah you should have invited them. Up to them if they want to join or not.

didn’t think that she would want to join as I think her and her OH like to keep themselves to themselves.

You just didn't think full stop.

You're making choices for them that suit you, you say in your first post that they no longer speak to you, which means they did previously, maybe they thought it was you that didn't want to interact, backed up by you not inviting them to the group.

Just because they seem to, in your words, keep themselves to themselves it doesn't mean they don't want to keep up with what's going on in their area, or at times offer information.

You should have invited them and let them decide what they wanted to do.

If you are creating a "neighborhood" group all in the neighborhood should be invited. It would be up to them if they wanted to participate. Not speaking to you is childish but I can't say as I blame them. You are unreasonable.

You have unusual relationship with your neighbours tbh.
Youre in each other pockets all the time.
And you’ve managed to recreate playground dynamics too (Im invited/not invited, talking to you/ignoring you etc…)

Very weird when you’re bound to have to live next to each other and have to somehow rely on each other (like with parcels, having a party etc….).

Just apologise and ask if they would like to join.

Now there is more context i think it's a pretty lame reason not to invite them. They sound quite neighbourly if they were bringing your bins and parcels in. I have to say I would be pretty hurt if my neighbour had done this to me. It's a really mean thing to do to anyone and i would be giving you a wide berth too.if you are OK with making someone feel like that then fine or you could hold out the olive branch and admit you were wrong.

well you are an idiot aren't you?

Gosh OP, if this is true then you need to go round and make it right. They're your neighbours.

Go round with some apology chocolates, add them to your group and make it right.

What a horrible thing you did leaving her out! It wasn’t for you to decide that she probably would not join. That is her decision to make. You owe her a massive apology. And when you apologise don’t give the real reason as it will just add insult to injury. Just say it was an oversight.

If you're setting up a neighborhood group for an estate it's unwise to pick and choose who to invite. It makes it look like a clique only certain people are good enough to be a part of. It's probably too late but I'd offer a sincere apology and invite them to join. At least that way you've tried to make things right even if they decline.

FAFO.

You picked and chose who you wanted on your FB group, didn't invite neighbors who had gone out of their way for you, now they're not going out of their way for you any more.

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If I was your neighbour I'd be pissed with you too, especially if I was helpful and took in your bins and parcels. I'd be wondering why you didn't like me.

Leaving them out was nasty. Immediately add them to your cliquey little group and apologise for causing offence. Whether they keep themselves to themselves is their business.

You either start a group for the whole estate or streets or you don't

Starting the whole 'exclusive' thing will never go well

If they don't want to join that's up to them

Go round and apologise and say it was an oversight

You were very rude

So you made assumptions, and then excluded her???

Such high school mean girl behaviour. YABU.

That was their decision to make unless you intend to be the boss of the facebook group.

I'm not surprised, you've basically publically snubbed them

I wouldn't be taking in your parcels either

I feel a bit Groucho Marx-ish - I would not want to be a member of this group now anyway!

Is this a reverse? If not you are totally unreasonable and acting like a queen bee in a school playground

FAFO