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Was I in the wrong? Neighbour issue?

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hallogalorrr · 29/09/2025 10:05

I created a private Facebook group for the 3 streets on the new build estate where I live.

Most of my neighbours are on it.

My next door neighbour who lives next to me has stopped speaking to me now as from what I gather her and her partner were annoyed that I didn’t invite them to join the group.

I did ask my other next door neighbour to join.

Yesterday we got back at the same time in our cars and I could tell they didn’t want to acknowledge me or say hello as they just sat in their car until I had gone in.

My neighbour would also take by bin and parcels but has stopped.

Is my next door neighbour right to be annoyed and AIBU?

OP posts:
Tessasanderson · 29/09/2025 10:19

You created a method for you and a select few of your choice to be able to discuss your neighbours. Its cyber bullying in its most basic form.

If you want to be reasonable then make it open. If not then the presumption will be that you have nothing nice to say.

PollyBell · 29/09/2025 10:19

The bin and parcel service is not enough for a FB invite?

Pancakeflipper · 29/09/2025 10:18

If it's for neighbours living on these 3 streets and they live on these 3 streets then why have you excluded them?

It appears mean, though I sure you have a reasonable explanation.

SprayWhiteDung · 29/09/2025 10:16

I created a private Facebook group for the 3 streets on the new build estate where I live.

Clearly not. You created a group for some of your friends who happen to live nearby.

If it's just a general neighbourhood group, why would you deliberately exclude people who already happily do perfectly normal neighbourly things?

Sunfloweranddaisy · 29/09/2025 10:13

You missed out why you didn’t ask them to join the group??

AOIFEmissingUalways · 29/09/2025 10:11

Same question as everyone else... Why didn't you invite them to join?

BettysRoasties · 29/09/2025 10:11

If you make a neighbourhood group you invite everyone or at least spread the word. You definitely don’t not invite a direct neighbour you get along with. Even a small note through the letter box.

Hey I’ve set up a group for the residents of Wtf drive, did I really do that street and oh shit here we go again close.

Faceonthewrongfoot · 29/09/2025 10:09

This all sounds a bit ridiculous. Why didn't you invite them? Why haven't they just asked you to join it? Who's told you that this is the reason they're upset? Why don't you just go over and talk to them?
Are you all 12?!

FaitesVosJeux · 29/09/2025 10:08

YABU. I don't even know you and I'm annoyed at you.

FuzzyWolf · 29/09/2025 10:07

Surely you gave everyone the same opportunity to join the group so if they have decided against it, they can’t hold that against you.

Birdsongsingingagainandagain · 29/09/2025 10:06

Why didnt you ask them?

NewYorkSummer · 29/09/2025 10:06

Is there any particular reason you didn’t ask them to join the group?