Why are women much nicer than men?

Dogs yes. Geese no.

Also OP, you say you read regularly on this site about men treating women appallingly.

So as a regular reader, how have you managed to miss the masses of threads about awful MILs and SILs etc?

Was this written by an eleven year old troll, or an adult using chat gpt to troll, I wonder?

Clearly a parody, get off the grog love.

Sorry disagree. Men are generally more aggressive than women, but women aren’t nicer.

animals on the other hand. Animals are nicer than humans. Hands down.

Ah the old 'i will act however I want i will just blame hormones'

Yes, and often blaming their snappiness on periods or menopause.

I’ve always thought that too OP being honest , like as a rule we are more geuine & kinder , more trustworthy, I know you will get obviously women that aren’t nice but as a whole like you say we are nicer 🤷🏻‍♀️..

I would never cheat on a partner simply because I’d feel so guilty, & I couldn’t be so fake , whereas I have been cheated on in the past , he had no problem seeing someone else , coming home to me , all about me , having sex with me , but still he was seeing this other woman..
It’s just so fake isn’t it 🤷🏻‍♀️..

Anyway, I’m on board with you OP 🙂

I agree with you. I think we’ve just been accustomed to accept it! Decades of placating. I never hear a man complain that his wife snapped at him! We’re more patient, we are reflective, nurturing etc. Then they just ogle other women or cheat anyway 🤷🏻‍♀️ I’m in a relationship by the way but I genuinely think they’re almost all dirt. I would never have another man live with me if I mange to get rid of this one 😂 I look back at my long term ex and it’s only two decades later that I can see that even though he was one of the ‘good’ ones he was still unfair, he still took advantage of my labour and nurturing and most likely cheated on me. He cried when I left him and begged me to come back for a year, all whilst talking to other women (totally his perogative and I was glad when he actually got a GF because he left me alone) but it kind of proves to me that they don’t feel the same as us about love.

You’ve clearly not been on this site long enough if you think women are nicer than men!

I think women have a greater capacity to be emotionally cruel or cunning, whereas men have a greater capacity to be violent or selfish. There’s lots of types of ‘nasty’ and I think the sexes cluster toward different types.

Generally the worst women I’ve known have been extremely cunning, always plotting scenarios that work out best for them but worse for other people, usually through jealousy. The worst men have been violent, usually addicted to drugs or alcohol and utterly feckless when it comes to their children.

Does it ever occur to anyone on this site that people can just have personality traits - nice or bitchy or aggressive or whatever - that are in fact independent of sex and gender? It's like an iron law on MN that absolutely every character trait HAS to be seen through the male/female prism.

Men have an inbuilt self preservation policy I think .Many men are kind to children and animals. But will still have a "hobby" or two, that take up chunks of their time leaving their wife babysitting /dog sitting /shopping etc .Women are conditioned to be the default parent in many cases .Possibly some women may cheat, but lots (not all ) men will cheat if they get a chance.How many will justify it by "not getting enough attention at home " Read sex into attention! Women are kinder generally as Child bearers and home makers .

Crickey. Three of the most toxic, psychopathic and manipulative people I ever worked with were white, middle-class women. Cruel and ruthless. Public sector, too, which rightly or wrongly feels somehow more shocking.

I’ve not noticed that they are. I know lots of absolutely lovely men. Who bare no resemblance to men portrayed on Mumsnet. Women are for more bitchy.

Because a man can rape and kill a women. I agree that in a relationship, women are nicer. We hold back on making a comment, or avoid a confrontation etc. all because of a deep knowledge that men are bigger than us and therefore more dangerous. We are the only species that is taught to appease our predator

Could it be because this is ‘mums’net?

Pop across to Reddit for some comparators?

With other women more than with men

I disagree with the idea that men are more prone to violence in the relationship. In fact, women commit more domestic violence than men do. Yes, I know women report DV more often than men, but the fact remains that women commit the lions share of violent acts in a relationship. PROOF: as a woman, ask yourself this: how often have you thrown a pan or plate at your man, thrown a newspaper or book at him, kicked your man, or even slapped your man? Okay, now answer this: how many times has your man ever done the same to you?
I rest my case...

This is a site whose posters are predominantly women. Some of these women come on to talk about how awful their partners are. It’s hardly surprising that you get a somewhat skewed picture of how ‘nice’ men are.

This thread reminds me of one of my favourite poems, by Robert Graves:

Why have such scores of lovely, gifted girls
Married impossible men?
Simple self-sacrifice may be ruled out,
And missionary endeavour, nine times out of ten.

Repeat 'impossible men': not merely rustic,
Foul-tempered or depraved
(Dramatic foils chosen to show the world
How well women behave, and always have behaved).

Impossible men: idle, illiterate,
Self-pitying, dirty, sly,
For whose appearance even in City parks
Excuses must be made to casual passers-by.

Has God's supply of tolerable husbands
Fallen, in fact, so low?
Or do I always over-value woman
At the expense of man?
Do I?
It might be so.

Not saying that, simply saying there are plenty of nasty women around and the nastiest person I’ve ever known is a woman.

You were one of them weren't you!

You can be manipulative and still be nice. In fact, a measure of one's success as a manipulator depends largely on how nice he's being.

Also - all that said- the bitchiness that men and women are capable of is generally less harmful that actual violence.

The bitchy man I’m thinking of just created a bad working atmosphere , he didn’t physically hard anyone - so even when women can be bitchy too (both sexes can), they’re not killing anyone.

Absolutely not.