To say DH needs to stay home next weekend?

Given he is going to be away for the following 2 weekends, not only does he need to stay home this weekend but you need to be able to go out. On your own. For as long as you like.

While he manages everything and also preps some freezer meals for the next 2 weekends.

And the dog needs rehoming. If he wants a dog then he needs to be available to look after it. He's shown he is not willing to do that so it needs to go now before it becomes harder to do so.

Of course you can go darling. BUT you take kids & dogs with you, or arrange for them all to be looked after because I will not be here from 5pm Friday until late Sunday.

Agree with a PP, if you have a broken arm he needs to be there full time! I broke my wrist (radius and ulna) last year, and was completely incapable of much for months!

Unless you have strong teenagers (who can drive) at home he shouldn't be going anywhere. What a selfish git.....

You are being a MUG and not at all unreasonable.

You have a broken arm, kids and dogs. What a selfish twat he sounds pleasing himself every weekend.

What’s the point of being married to someone who just fucks off being selfish every weekend?

Baffles me that you would actually have to spell this out to him? He is taking the piss and you are letting him. Some days I am so glad I’m a lesbian because my wife would never ever leave me with a broken arm, my kids and a new dog.

I'd make it clear you'll be rehoming the dog while he's gone. Even if it means shelter.

Has he always been so selfish?

You broke your arm and he’s been away most of the last 3 weekends? I’d pack a bag and tell him (via phone once I’ve left) my arm is hurting as it is taking a lot of load because your children’s dad is a selfish entitled uncaring asshole, and I’ll be back after next weekend hopefully feeling much better and if the house isn’t beautiful the kids cared for and he’s not grateful for the family load I carried with a broken arm then I will leave again.

Unbelievably bad/selfish/entitled behaviour from DH.
You need to lay down the law here because he's treating u like a fool.
Thank goodness Mumsnet is here to shine some light onto this.
Selfish selfish self centred man. Unbelievable.

Tell him for every day he's away at the weekend, he has to put all the dogs into kennels/with a dog sitter. It's not fair to leave it all on you when you've a broken arm!

Are the children his?

If no, then he's being a crap husband. Potentially acting suspiciously like he has checked out.

If they are his kids then you can add crap dad to the list.

YANBU.

YANBU he’s a being selfish twat I know how you are feeling I fell over and broke my wrist and snapped my radius that needed surgery to fix with a plate and screws the pain for the first
few weeks was horrible I struggled to do anything but my DH stepped up a bit and took on feeding all the pets and doing the tea. I couldn’t use my arm at all for 6 weeks the cast was the worst part it went from my fingers to above my elbow. You should be resting right now and not running round picking up after everyone surprised your still able to work never mind anything else I couldn’t even cook a meal for myself. Feel free to message me if you need someone to talk to.

Right?! These threads wind me up so much. I swear there’s a certain group of men out there who are desperate to have kids and a family just so they’re not alone and all cleaning and cooking is done for them but otherwise intend fully on carrying on with as much as their old single life as possible knowing that the mother can be bullied/cajoled/guilted into being the FT skivvy until his body ages and slows down and then he’ll reap the rewards of his grown up children, grandkids maybe and have a happy retirement with no impact on his pension either. I mean it’s a fantastic way of life for them isn’t it that so many wives ‘give’ them as they’ll do anything to prevent them leaving or kids being without a dad - and they all know that too hence they usually get their way and wife just consoles herself with ‘well he is the breadwinner and otherwise a good dad’… 😡

Ugh just telling you and leaving your with all the responsibilities and a broken arm! Sorry but it doesn't sound like you're very high on his list of priorities. He can't even give you a day to relax and recover.. or offer to help you with the van or something! Not much of a partner 😕

It sounds like he thinks you're staff

Struggling to see how you can salvage a relationship with someone who can be so blind/selfish. Such disappointing behaviour, it would make me contemptuous of him

Tell him to go, and don’t come back!

I’d be so fed up with a DH that was never around. We like to be together .

He’s a cheeky shit. Have you asked him why he doesn’t want to spend time with his wife, kids and dogs? Or why he got a new dog he isn’t around to care for?

I wouldn’t tolerate this at all and my arms are fine and we don’t have pets. He’s taking the absolute piss and being an appalling husband and father.

He's taking the piss. Stop allowing him to.

Are your children old enough to be left by themselves when you go out for the day op?

If not then I'd actually tally it over the last however many months. How may days he's taken aside for his hobby where you have had to hold Fort with the kids etc and how many days you have been able to head off and do your own thing and he's been home alone to do everything. Then I'd add in the amount of family time and date time for just the two of you.

If he wants to be a single man he can take his dog and do as much hillwalking as he wants. But you are not purely there to facilitate him living the life of a single man while still enjoying all the benefits of a family, clean house, food on the table etc. He's your partner not your teenage son. Treat him as such. He'll only treat you like this if you continue to let him. Divide chores, split finances, split duties with the kids and agree a fair and equal amount of time you each get to yourselves in the month and factor in couple and family time. If he refuses then you know he's doing this on purpose because he's selfish.

No decent person would think this is ok op

I’m honestly utterly baffled you could think YABU for 5 minutes.

The fact you even have to tell him is shocking frankly.

I think this all sounds a bit suspect to be honest.