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Fed up of splitting the bill with larger friends

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Foodie41 · 28/09/2025 21:36

There are four of us in our friendship group and we go out for dinner every other month or so, splitting the bill equally between us.

A couple of my friends are larger ladies and they often order slightly more food than myself and another friend.

With prices having risen sharply, we are now noticing the cost of things more closely and starting to feel a bit aggrieved that we are paying for food we aren’t eating.

Would it be rude of my friend and I to suggest we don’t split the bill moving forward? I just don’t want it to be awkward as I think it will be obvious why that suggestion is being made.

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Leavesfalling · 28/09/2025 22:05

Bubbles332 · 28/09/2025 22:03

God, I could never manage two slices in one day. I’d be stuffed! I eke one out over the week.

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With salt? (Obviously no pepper as wouldn't want the extra calorie)

seasid · 28/09/2025 22:04

Sorry but categorising them as ‘larger’ instead of stating they have bigger appetites just shows what type of person you are. You could have said they eat more but instead you made it about their weight and that automatically makes you unreasonable

Bubbles332 · 28/09/2025 22:03

spicetails · 28/09/2025 21:50

Yup.

Next up - OP claims they only eat a couple of slices each f cucumber a day and this makes them a virtuous human being with a perfect character

God, I could never manage two slices in one day. I’d be stuffed! I eke one out over the week.

Leavesfalling · 28/09/2025 22:03

Whenwillicatchabreak · 28/09/2025 22:02

“Heads up fatties, I’ll be watching my pockets as much as I watch my calories so don’t think you’ll be chuffing the chub up on my penny!” That should do it.

Nice. Pithy yet comprehensive.

ilovesooty · 28/09/2025 22:03

clipboardz · 28/09/2025 22:01

@ilovesooty Sorry! I meant to tag @spicetails as they confused what you were saying!

No problem! At least someone else understood what I was saying. 😉

Cherryicecreamx · 28/09/2025 22:02

Not unreasonable to simply pay for what you order. I generally don't like splitting it because what if someone wants an alcoholic drink which is more expensive for example or an extra side. Just paying for your own stops any resentment that you or someone else has had to pay more than what they would have otherwise.

ilovesooty · 28/09/2025 22:02

spicetails · 28/09/2025 21:59

You’ll wait a long time - I hope the piety has plenty of calories to tide you over.

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As you please. I was initially agreeing with you. Not my fault if you misinterpreted, delivered a personal attack and refused to acknowledge it.

clipboardz · 28/09/2025 22:02

It was completely obvious that you were not serious.

Whenwillicatchabreak · 28/09/2025 22:02

“Heads up fatties, I’ll be watching my pockets as much as I watch my calories so don’t think you’ll be chuffing the chub up on my penny!” That should do it.

clipboardz · 28/09/2025 22:01

@ilovesooty Sorry! I meant to tag @spicetails as they confused what you were saying!

MissAmbrosia · 28/09/2025 22:00

I'm fat but am always the one that has 2 starters and no pudding, as I don't like eating huge amounts in one sitting anymore. Bloody goady nonsense.

Lj8893 · 28/09/2025 22:00

She absolutely fat shamed

ilovesooty · 28/09/2025 22:00

clipboardz · 28/09/2025 21:57

So you’re the one who thinks that people being fat means they're the ones running up the food bill, bevause theyre fat?

@ilovesooty You are somewhat confused...

No I'm not. I was initially agreeing with the person who advised against raising the person's weight. Surely the tone of my response was obvious? She then chose to make me the focus of a personal attack.

LikeWhoUsesTypewritersAnyway · 28/09/2025 22:00

AmazonianWarrior · 28/09/2025 21:59

No she didn’t fat shame

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She so totally did!

spicetails · 28/09/2025 21:59

ilovesooty · 28/09/2025 21:55

I really don't think you grasped what I said. I think the OP is being deeply unpleasant and I responded accordingly.

I'll wait for your apology.

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You’ll wait a long time - I hope the piety has plenty of calories to tide you over.

AmazonianWarrior · 28/09/2025 21:59

spicetails · 28/09/2025 21:41

You have.

My eldest is so yhink youd lose them if they walked behind a lamp post - they eat approx twice as much as me abx I’m considered obese.

You’re fat shaming.

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No she didn’t fat shame

PrincessFiorimonde · 28/09/2025 21:59

Foodie41 · 28/09/2025 21:40

How have I fat shamed?

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By mentioning "larger ladies".

FrippEnos · 28/09/2025 21:59

Its fine to pay for what you order.
Just make sure that they are aware before you eat.
Ask for separate bills at the start and don't be surprised if your bill comes to more than theirs does.

CalzoneOnLegs · 28/09/2025 21:59

@Pomegranatecarnage there is absolutely no way i would subsidise the steak eating and I’d make that very clear. Next time say so.

Tiredofwhataboutery · 28/09/2025 21:58

I think it’s fine to say you’re trying to control your spending so everyone just psy for what they have.

LikeWhoUsesTypewritersAnyway · 28/09/2025 21:57

IME, the 'curvier' people who eat out, tend to eat less as they're always watching their weight, and some of them are scared of being judged by people if they DARE to eat a little bit more than someone thinner.

Gosh, imagine people thinking someone is judging and sneering at them for what they eat....... Confused

Oh, wait! Hmm

spicetails · 28/09/2025 21:57

Battical · 28/09/2025 21:55

Not unreasonable.

In fact, I’d take it a step further, and split the bill based on your contribution to the total weight of the group. So if the group, together, weighs 50 stones, and you’re 10 stones, you’d pay 20% of the bill.

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clipboardz · 28/09/2025 21:57

So you’re the one who thinks that people being fat means they're the ones running up the food bill, bevause theyre fat?

@ilovesooty You are somewhat confused...

Greenmouldycheese · 28/09/2025 21:56

Nothing wrong with just paying for what you ordered. Works perfectly fine for friends and I whenever we go for meals out.

Leavesfalling · 28/09/2025 21:56

Battical · 28/09/2025 21:55

Not unreasonable.

In fact, I’d take it a step further, and split the bill based on your contribution to the total weight of the group. So if the group, together, weighs 50 stones, and you’re 10 stones, you’d pay 20% of the bill.

Or you could do a weigh in before eating and then after? And don't let anyone go to the loo before the second weigh in.

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