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I actually miss Facebook as it was

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Echobelly · 28/09/2025 18:11

I genuinely found Facebook a positive for my life as I have disparate friend groups and it was a great way to keep all my news in front of them and to see what they were up to. Then 3 years ago it just became a meme and AI slop site, less than half of which was my friends' feeds (I've heard some people say there is a 'friend feed' option, but I've never seen it, only an option to prioritise a handful of people). I gave up and unfriended everyone except a few people for whom it's my main link to them and don't really look at it. Also Zuckerberg has sucked up to Trump and said it's OK for people to shit on less privileged groups they don't like on there in the name of 'discourse', so that's another reason it can fuck off now and I wouldn't go back even if I could see my friends' feeds.

Honestly I would pay a few quid a month to have a functioning actually social app similar to it, without ads, algorithm and slop, although obviously that doesn't seem to be a model anyone can make at scale.

When I tell people I've come off it they'll go 'Oh yeah, I was much happier too, less stupid arguments' etc, and actually that's not the case, as I just didn't friend anyone who was an arsehole, or argue with anyone on there.

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Echobelly · 28/09/2025 19:09

childofthe607080s · 28/09/2025 18:37

I can’t understand the algorithm- it is forever putting stuff up late

“major road closed “ is time sensitive
“Event on Saturday “ arrives on the Sunday

seems such a simple mistake

They just don't give a shit anymore... I think soon it'll just be bots posting at bots - 'dead internet'

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SwingTheMonkey · 28/09/2025 18:56

Echobelly · 28/09/2025 18:34

The algorithm wasn't even good at guessing what I liked. It was like uhhhm, you're a woman in your 40s with geeky friends so you want Lord of the Rings and Schitts Creek and Big Bang Theory memes.

Yep, same. Some of the most utterly random shit. Such a disappointment - I was one of the few people who still liked using Facebook to keep up with friends’ lives.

BufferingAgain · 28/09/2025 18:47

I completely agree. The trouble is barely any friends post on it anymore so it’s filling the gap with completely random shite. And for all the billions they have the algorithm isn’t even serving me anything relevant. Today I’ve had gay men’s dating groups (straight 40yr w), incel groups, and for weeks so much Charlie Kirk content when I’m UK based. So much AI bollocks too - half of it is just robots.

I stay on it for the groups on certain areas which can have gold in them, but really need to wean myself off the abysmal scrolling.

Feel a big swing back to real life is on its way

DuesToTheDirt · 28/09/2025 18:37

I agree OP. And it's a vicious circle; lots of people think the same so they don't bother with it any more, so there is less "friend" stuff on my feed (yes I know about the "friend feed" option but if people aren't posting, there isn't much there).

childofthe607080s · 28/09/2025 18:37

I can’t understand the algorithm- it is forever putting stuff up late

“major road closed “ is time sensitive
“Event on Saturday “ arrives on the Sunday

seems such a simple mistake

Echobelly · 28/09/2025 18:35

Namechangedasouting987 · 28/09/2025 18:32

I totally agree. 10 years ago it was amazing. Just my friends posting stuff that kept me in touch, made me laugh etc.
Its awful now. Sometimes I don't see their posts at all for days. And its full of rubbish.
And people on groups who fight.
The only thing I like is the Memories, whicb take me back every day.

Yeah, memories is pretty much all I look at it for. You apparently can download your entire feed so at some point I will do that and then delete my account... I think my husband has an external drive that could hold the data, just need to dig it out.

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Echobelly · 28/09/2025 18:34

SwingTheMonkey · 28/09/2025 18:20

It’s a load of shit now. I rarely see stuff from people I’m friends with, just stupid reels from randoms and posts from pages I don’t follow.

The algorithm wasn't even good at guessing what I liked. It was like uhhhm, you're a woman in your 40s with geeky friends so you want Lord of the Rings and Schitts Creek and Big Bang Theory memes.

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Namechangedasouting987 · 28/09/2025 18:32

I totally agree. 10 years ago it was amazing. Just my friends posting stuff that kept me in touch, made me laugh etc.
Its awful now. Sometimes I don't see their posts at all for days. And its full of rubbish.
And people on groups who fight.
The only thing I like is the Memories, whicb take me back every day.

Echobelly · 28/09/2025 18:32

9inapack · 28/09/2025 18:18

**I just didn't friend anyone who was an arsehole, or argue with anyone on there.
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Baffling to go to the effort of defriending most of them then

It wasn't because I didn't like them, it was because I could keep I touch with them in other ways relatively easily, or see them in real life frequently. That way I hoped I might at least be more likely to see FB posts from friends for whom FB was my main point of contact.

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CatHugger · 28/09/2025 18:29

I agree, it takes effort to find posts from my friends.

SwingTheMonkey · 28/09/2025 18:20

It’s a load of shit now. I rarely see stuff from people I’m friends with, just stupid reels from randoms and posts from pages I don’t follow.

9inapack · 28/09/2025 18:18

**I just didn't friend anyone who was an arsehole, or argue with anyone on there.
**

Baffling to go to the effort of defriending most of them then

SirBasil · 28/09/2025 18:12

you can use the Feeds - Friends thing only on a laptop or pc, not with the mobile version.

It is rubbish tho