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I actually miss Facebook as it was

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Echobelly · 28/09/2025 18:11

I genuinely found Facebook a positive for my life as I have disparate friend groups and it was a great way to keep all my news in front of them and to see what they were up to. Then 3 years ago it just became a meme and AI slop site, less than half of which was my friends' feeds (I've heard some people say there is a 'friend feed' option, but I've never seen it, only an option to prioritise a handful of people). I gave up and unfriended everyone except a few people for whom it's my main link to them and don't really look at it. Also Zuckerberg has sucked up to Trump and said it's OK for people to shit on less privileged groups they don't like on there in the name of 'discourse', so that's another reason it can fuck off now and I wouldn't go back even if I could see my friends' feeds.

Honestly I would pay a few quid a month to have a functioning actually social app similar to it, without ads, algorithm and slop, although obviously that doesn't seem to be a model anyone can make at scale.

When I tell people I've come off it they'll go 'Oh yeah, I was much happier too, less stupid arguments' etc, and actually that's not the case, as I just didn't friend anyone who was an arsehole, or argue with anyone on there.

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Echobelly · 26/10/2025 15:35

Netcurtainnelly · 26/10/2025 13:21

You can.pay now to remove ads.

I saw that, but it's not just the ads that were the issue, it didn't say anything about not showing endless meme or 'recommended' pages, and it's been nearly 3 years now, so I don't think most of my friends use it now either. The time to offer this, and to make sure that offer included no algorithm led material either, was 3 years ago before the rot set in.

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Handeyethingyowl · 26/10/2025 13:39

Initially it was good for my mental health as it connected me with people after having a baby and I was terribly lonely. Then all the idyllic posts started having the opposite effect on me even though I was actually quite happy. But now I have deactivated my account due to all the ads and dross.

PuppyMonkey · 26/10/2025 13:28

SirBasil · 28/09/2025 18:12

you can use the Feeds - Friends thing only on a laptop or pc, not with the mobile version.

It is rubbish tho

If you click the menu tab - the three lines on the bottom tab (on iPhone it is anyway) - you can choose Feeds and then choose Friends.

However, even when i do this, there still aren’t very many posts from my friends because nobody posts on FB anymore.

SusanChurchouse · 26/10/2025 13:28

I deleted my account but then realised a few local businesses use it to give information. So I set up an account with no personal data other than an email address I rarely use. I’ve been utterly horrified each time I’ve logged on at the vile content being promoted in my feed. It’s horrible.

Netcurtainnelly · 26/10/2025 13:21

Echobelly · 28/09/2025 18:11

I genuinely found Facebook a positive for my life as I have disparate friend groups and it was a great way to keep all my news in front of them and to see what they were up to. Then 3 years ago it just became a meme and AI slop site, less than half of which was my friends' feeds (I've heard some people say there is a 'friend feed' option, but I've never seen it, only an option to prioritise a handful of people). I gave up and unfriended everyone except a few people for whom it's my main link to them and don't really look at it. Also Zuckerberg has sucked up to Trump and said it's OK for people to shit on less privileged groups they don't like on there in the name of 'discourse', so that's another reason it can fuck off now and I wouldn't go back even if I could see my friends' feeds.

Honestly I would pay a few quid a month to have a functioning actually social app similar to it, without ads, algorithm and slop, although obviously that doesn't seem to be a model anyone can make at scale.

When I tell people I've come off it they'll go 'Oh yeah, I was much happier too, less stupid arguments' etc, and actually that's not the case, as I just didn't friend anyone who was an arsehole, or argue with anyone on there.

You can.pay now to remove ads.

Vroomfondleswaistcoat · 29/09/2025 18:19

You are not wrong, OP. I'm constantly being shown posts from groups I'm not in, have never been in and have no interest in being in! Why would I care about the Hertfordshire Life group when I live in Yorkshire? I also get millions of Horses for Sale posts - when I buy my next horse it will most certainly not be off Facebook!

inamo · 29/09/2025 18:12

I don't have "friends" on it anymore. I got rid of all that shite. But I do find it good for various groups I'm on such as travel tips for places I will be visiting, and medical groups for the two big things I have. I also use it to improve my French by joining groups in France and plugging away.

Apart from some know it all assholes on the medical groups I enjoy it a lot. Without the friends thing anymore obv. 😊

DuesToTheDirt · 29/09/2025 18:05

There's also a lot of scams on there. I've reported some, just for them to report back that the scames "don't breach our community standards." Angry

SirBasil · 29/09/2025 15:12

i did point out that the android version doesn't have that.

angelcake20 · 29/09/2025 14:02

I certainly couldn’t look at the “Home” feed now as it’s all adverts and suggestions but “Feeds” gives me exactly what I’ve followed and has the option to filter for just friends (I have a lot of groups as well). Using the app on an iPhone.

I actually miss Facebook as it was
I actually miss Facebook as it was
Bringbackspring · 29/09/2025 13:42

I only use the app and I hate it now. I tried hard when random posts started appearing in my feed to report them as irrelevant, but gave up in the end. 95% of content I see are people or groups I dont follow and have never looked up. I rarely see a friends post. I dont post myself anymore as what's the point. Only reason I keep my account is to look up local businesses, some of which are only on social media with no actual website. And the annoying thing is, if a business posts about an event, I only see that post 5 days later so it's always too late!

VoltaireMittyDream · 29/09/2025 12:54

Echobelly · 28/09/2025 18:34

The algorithm wasn't even good at guessing what I liked. It was like uhhhm, you're a woman in your 40s with geeky friends so you want Lord of the Rings and Schitts Creek and Big Bang Theory memes.

I kept getting tutorials by a novelty make-up artist who can make anyone look like Nicholas Cage 😳 It gave me a bit of an identity crisis that this is what the algorithm thought I’d like the most, after carefully studying my entire online life.

SirBasil · 29/09/2025 12:47

On the mobile version (android) no choice for friends

I actually miss Facebook as it was
I actually miss Facebook as it was
SirBasil · 29/09/2025 12:45

skyeisthelimit · 29/09/2025 10:18

Where do you find the Friends Feed? I can't find it on the desktop.

I agree that it is crap now. All the recommended pages are from all over the country for stuff I have absolutely no interest in. I keep hiding them in the hope that it will show less but nothing seems to change. Sometimes it shows posts that are a week old.

I want to open it and see my friends posts and stuff I have actually signed up for

on the desktop version on the left hand side in the first image, you might have to click the "show more" - but the more you use it, the higher up the list it goes

then you click friends in the 2nd image

I actually miss Facebook as it was
I actually miss Facebook as it was
tostaky · 29/09/2025 10:23

I have deleted my FB account because as you described, my feed became a stream of memes, shorts and adverts.
i reported twice some racist memes but the first time the post was not removed and the second time there was an “unexpected error” which prevented me to report it further (i reported, then it wasnt tenoved and then theres an option to challenge that decision and i wasnt able to access it “unexpected error” that was there the 2-3 times i tried to challenge the same decision).
it is sad but i do not want to be part of something that promotes racist views, not do i have an interest in spending hours in my life watching mindless ai generated content.
i am feeling all the better for it.

Echobelly · 29/09/2025 10:19

Onthemoooove · 29/09/2025 07:23

I agree 100%. I use it a bit like a diary and like seeing the memories but has become no good for keeping up with people as most don't post anymore, or post on their stories instead of their feed so I miss them most of the time. The friends feed function works on my mobile, but there's not much to see. Is Instagram the same now? Never really used that so not sure if that's gone the same way.

I tried switching to insta when I mostly came off FB to see if more friends had gone they're, but it's exactly the same (it is Meta after all) - just a meme site led by algorithms, not who you choose to follow.

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skyeisthelimit · 29/09/2025 10:18

Where do you find the Friends Feed? I can't find it on the desktop.

I agree that it is crap now. All the recommended pages are from all over the country for stuff I have absolutely no interest in. I keep hiding them in the hope that it will show less but nothing seems to change. Sometimes it shows posts that are a week old.

I want to open it and see my friends posts and stuff I have actually signed up for

SirBasil · 29/09/2025 09:23

Onthemoooove · 29/09/2025 07:23

I agree 100%. I use it a bit like a diary and like seeing the memories but has become no good for keeping up with people as most don't post anymore, or post on their stories instead of their feed so I miss them most of the time. The friends feed function works on my mobile, but there's not much to see. Is Instagram the same now? Never really used that so not sure if that's gone the same way.

I can find "feeds" on my mobile, but can't filter it to "friends" - any advice?

UtterlyOtterly · 29/09/2025 08:04

The group for my town is very strictly moderated, so no nasty comments. Just useful information with a fair sprinkling of lost cats, found keys and suchlike.

I belong to a couple of groups aligned with my interests so go straight to them through the search facility and miss all the dross on my feed.

Iwishthiswasnottrue · 29/09/2025 07:42

SirBasil · 28/09/2025 18:12

you can use the Feeds - Friends thing only on a laptop or pc, not with the mobile version.

It is rubbish tho

Feeds is definitely on the fb app, I use it all the time.

SoUncertain · 29/09/2025 07:41

I agree 100%. The school and the village group on there have important info that I regularly need, otherwise I would delete it too. It's a real shame as it was an amazing way to keep in touch with distant family and friends, or for hobbies etc. I would happily pay a few quid to have it back to how it was, but I'm sure they make FAR more money serving the slop to people.

ComfortFoodCafe · 29/09/2025 07:34

I deleted it, dont regret it in the slightest. I dont know anyone who still really uses it to post anymore, Its had its day its like myspace that died out too.

stovokor · 29/09/2025 07:27

Agree. It’s shit.
They’re drowning it in ads.
In time, there will probably be an ad-free subscription service.
Once society is sufficiently socially broken up and everyone’s feeling isolated and dependent on the online world, obviously.
Urgh.

Onthemoooove · 29/09/2025 07:23

I agree 100%. I use it a bit like a diary and like seeing the memories but has become no good for keeping up with people as most don't post anymore, or post on their stories instead of their feed so I miss them most of the time. The friends feed function works on my mobile, but there's not much to see. Is Instagram the same now? Never really used that so not sure if that's gone the same way.

KrupBrie · 28/09/2025 22:43

It really is horrendous now they've sacked all the content checkers. Multiple videos of people actually dying in accidents started appearing on my feed, and the last straw was cctv of a man committing murder. It's become a dystopian hell site.

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