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To think my DH is a tosser

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Bitofacold · 27/09/2025 22:23

DS has a sports game tomorrow morning and he has been feeling under the weather this weekend. He has said he doesn’t think he will be well enough to play his game.

DH thinks DS is not ill and trying to skive off his game which will ultimately let down the team. He thinks DS is trying to drop all his hobbies because he wants to stay at home and play on his phone. He is reluctant, therefore, to let him miss the game.

I said to DH that if he says he is unwell tomorrow, will he make him play. Dh said no but he won’t be taking him to any more games.

AIBU to think DH lacks empathy and is being a bully. Or am I being ‘wet’ as DH suggested?

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SomeEsotericJoke · 27/09/2025 22:30

He's 14 with just a cold .. sounds like your DH has got the measure of him really! 😀

Whereismyfleeceblanket · 27/09/2025 22:30

Good luck forcing a 14 year old to play a game he doesn't want to..

edwinbear · 27/09/2025 22:30

Is DS generally a keen and enthusiastic player, or do you get the sense he doesn’t enjoy it anymore and would quite like to stop playing? At that age, lots of kids do start to lose interest in sports they’ve previously enjoyed.

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Bitofacold · 27/09/2025 22:30

justasking111 · 27/09/2025 22:28

Have you taken his temperature?

Asked him what the symptoms are?

No fever, got a sniffle from

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Bitofacold · 27/09/2025 22:29

Pleasealexa · 27/09/2025 22:27

How old is your ds? How unwell...temperature, vomitting?

I sometimes think you have to encourage a child to play if they are part of a team, especially if they are just feeling a bit off. I did this with one of mine who was in a team and later as a young adult he thanked me because he has developed resilience.

He has no fever and no sickness, just coldy

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justasking111 · 27/09/2025 22:28

Have you taken his temperature?

Asked him what the symptoms are?

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Bitofacold · 27/09/2025 22:27

Bitofacold · 27/09/2025 22:25

14

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I said this to bring him to his senses as in he would be making him play against his wishes. It did not work

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Pleasealexa · 27/09/2025 22:27

How old is your ds? How unwell...temperature, vomitting?

I sometimes think you have to encourage a child to play if they are part of a team, especially if they are just feeling a bit off. I did this with one of mine who was in a team and later as a young adult he thanked me because he has developed resilience.

StarDolphins · 27/09/2025 22:25

I think you’re only being wet in the sense that you asked your husband if he’ll make him play if he’s unwell. Just tell him that if your son says he’s unwell, only he gets to decide if he plays.

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Bitofacold · 27/09/2025 22:25

Fillyfrog · 27/09/2025 22:24

How old is your son

14

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Fillyfrog · 27/09/2025 22:24

How old is your son