Does anyone else dislike living alone and get scared?

I'd literally move. there's been so many this year and I hoover them up then get someone else to empty the hoover. I'd not carry on living where you do.

How old are you? I found the older I got the less scared I got. Nowadays the sight of me at 3am would be enough to scare away any intruder 😂 I do still sleep with the hall way light on though and always will. It doesn't do any harm. Don't feel silly. Lots of us have felt the same.

I don’t live alone but I am the only adult and I hate it, constantly worry about break ins or random noises in the night (rough area) kids would be no good during a break in obviously

Oh that's awful!!!!! There aren't poisonous spiders in the UK, and killing them is atrocious. They will eat all the other bugs in your flat.

The spider won’t hurt you, or do anything except scuttle off.

Actually where I live now I feel very safe, it's quite an active road in a busy town, I know all my neighbours and I know they're there and will hear/ realise if someone was breaking in. And when I've been alone with young children occasionally I've been fine. But I do think it depends on your neighbourhood situation. I remember being terrified in my parent's village cottage alone, it was absolutely silent at night.

YANBU to hate it, but I love living alone
I can do what I want when I want and my home is my own.
I don't get scared at all.

I hate spiders but I love living alone and actually really miss it now I live with my DP. Spider removal is one of the few real upsides in cohabiting with a man in my view. #badfeminist

When I lived alone in my twenties I found it quite scary. I think I would love it now (but I would get a dog.)

I live alone.

I love horror movies but avoid a couple of genres now as I know they creep me out and might disturb my sleep.

Spiders - I get the horror of them, I used to be a screaming mess, but I've had to just get used to dealing with them. I've got a catcher with a fairly long handle, rarely misses them, then they get chucked outside.

If you need a light on maybe try a nightlight or light in the hall rather than a lamp - light disturbs your sleep too.

Have a night time locking up routine early evening then try to settle before you go to bed. What is it you are frightened of with being alone, other than spiders?

I used to leave a light on in the hallway all night, and have a radio on quietly next to it. Radio 4 is good, then it flicks to the World Service between 1am and 5.30 then back to R4, just soothing murmuring voices.

Also, something I still do is close all the curtains of rooms I’m not using well before dark eg bedroom, bathroom, sitting room if I’m in the kitchen (and vice versa). And while I don’t have the light on in the hallway all night any more, I have a small plug in that has a dark sensor, then I flick it off before bed.

I always think I like living without a partner and alone but realistically it’s because I have my dogs and they make me feel safe

I like spiders! But I'm scared of tons of things that you may not be: snakes in the toilet, stairs, birds, frogs, snails, fish so I don't think you're silly at all. All the best people sleep with the light on. Do you like dogs? I'd be very scared without my dog.

Oh, just seen that you have a cat already 🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️

Don’t get a cat! I mean I’m smitten by my gorgeous girl but recently she bought a rat into the house… an alive rat.. not sure how long it had been in here but I spent 4 days terrified out of my wits with it in the house somewhere.. my young teenage son appeared v nonchalant about it all.. anyway him and a friend managed to catch the bastard thing.. I’m still v v jumpy! I am v happily single and intended to remain that way but rat-gate has had me weighing up the pros and cons of this decision!! 🥺🥺🥺

This won't help with spiders (hope some of the other tips will), but I'd try a mental cleanse and good old fashioned distraction to remove the horror film thoughts at night. Spend at least the last hour or half-hour before bed watching, reading, or listening to things that are as far removed from horror or true crime as possible. That might be comedy, romance, cosy mysteries, natural history or other gentle non-fiction, or whatever else relaxes you. I think there are apps that will tell you boring stories while you drift off to sleep, though I've never looked into that myself.

Glad it’s not just me that does this! I don’t live alone but it still happens when it’s dark. Various scary images I’ve seen pop into my head and I never go to the bathroom in the dark in the middle of the night - always take a torch!

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Just wanted to point this out in case you weren't aware, so your cat doesn't become sick.

I hope you find a solution to the spider problem!
I've never tried conkers, as pp suggested above, I'm going to try using them. I hate spiders in my home too and I also hate sleeping in total darkness.

I don't live alone, but I totally understand this on the rare occasions I'm in overnight on my own! (I partly blame it on my older sister, who loved horror films and would watch them constantly - half an hour before school, all evening... And we shared a bedroom with a TV/video set 😱). Have you got a Ring alarm system? My mum has one and they're dead easy to set up - you don't even need a drill, think you just stick the sensors to any door/window you want to alarm, then you have a wireless keypad - really easy to use and might make you feel a smidge better. Good luck and you're definitely not the only one! Xx

I don't live alone but used to be scared at night time. I try not to watch anything crime related or horror close to night. I'm terrified of spiders this stuff works I also try to keep my windows shut. It's not too bad for me because my partner will get them but even now if I see one i am scared for days I spray this round my door frame and keep my door shut.
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I've always been afraid of the dark although it does seem to be better now.

Conkers are supposed to deter spiders.
I feel for you. When I do sleep ins I leave the light on cos I think clowns are coming. Can't sleep with my back to the door. When she isn't at home I put barricades at doors and panic about whether to leave a light on so I can see an intruder or keep in the dark so they can't see me. Sorry no help but your imagination is not your frie

I live on my own. I have the radio on.
Saying that I am actually freaked out by night windows.