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To be fuming DH forgot school shoes AGAIN?

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solitudehiker · 27/09/2025 10:58

Right so I sent DH into Clarks yesterday because DS2’s school shoes are literally falling apart sole coming off flapping around and I said PLEASE just get him black school shoes any black school shoes that fit his feet I don’t care what brand

He comes back smug as anything with… black TRAINERS 😑 like proper sporty ones not even pretending to be school shoes says “it’s all they had in his size” and now of course DS2 thinks they’re amazing and is buzzing to wear them

Except school are super strict and will 100% say no trainers allowed then I’ll be the one trying to explain it Monday morning and DS2 will have a meltdown because he wanted to wear them and I’ll look like the crap mum who can’t get it right

DH is now saying I’m being dramatic and “they’re basically the same thing” 🙄 and if school say anything he’ll “have a word” but he won’t be the one stood in the playground while the teacher side-eyes me

AIBU to be absolutely fuming and tempted to just go buy the right ones today even though money is tight and I’ll have to drag all 5 DC with me because DH has now “gone to watch the match with his mates” 😩

OP posts:
didntlikeanyofthesuggestions · 27/09/2025 13:20

solitudehiker · 27/09/2025 13:03

Thanks all yep 100% weaponised incompetence 😂 he even admitted he didn’t bother asking in the shop if they had actual school shoes he just grabbed the first pair that fit

I think I’ll drag the kids out later and just swap them I cba with the Monday morning drama and DS2 having a strop before school 🙄 DH will absolutely NOT be doing drop off Monday he leaves for work at 6am so no chance but I might email school if there’s an issue and give them his number just to be petty 😂

Honestly why is it always me who ends up sorting this stuff I swear if I left it to him they’d all be in mismatched socks and PE kits for life

Grabbed the first pair that fit? In my local Clarks you take a ticket, get kids feet measured and then they bring out the ones you like in the correct size to try on. Sounds like bs.

99bottlesofkombucha · 27/09/2025 13:18

If he was a repeat offender I’d 100% tell dh to make up whatever he wanted but he was doing drop off on Monday. You’re taking ds to urgent gp appt to check for appendicitis ,you’ve been up half the night, and he will be in late after you get back. But turns out it was just a tummy bug. (Has happened to me and more than once, it’s quite believable - the joys of a dramatic child who goes by the principle of if I’m awake and miserable then everyone will be awake and miserable.)

Baggyit · 27/09/2025 13:17

Thats some lazy waster you married.
I wouldn't be laughing about it.
He would be sorting it out.

Caroparo52 · 27/09/2025 13:14

Hilarious. Sorry but this made me titter because my xdh was a useless wanker incompetent too. I solved my problems by adding EX to his title

DeedlessIndeed · 27/09/2025 13:07

Jesus, he really doesn't even pretend to care anymore, does he? What an arse.

ohfourfoxache · 27/09/2025 13:05

Sounds like you’d have 1 less child to deal with if you LTB

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solitudehiker · 27/09/2025 13:03

Thanks all yep 100% weaponised incompetence 😂 he even admitted he didn’t bother asking in the shop if they had actual school shoes he just grabbed the first pair that fit

I think I’ll drag the kids out later and just swap them I cba with the Monday morning drama and DS2 having a strop before school 🙄 DH will absolutely NOT be doing drop off Monday he leaves for work at 6am so no chance but I might email school if there’s an issue and give them his number just to be petty 😂

Honestly why is it always me who ends up sorting this stuff I swear if I left it to him they’d all be in mismatched socks and PE kits for life

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Deerfolk · 27/09/2025 11:34

Yeah dad does drop off and make him the primary person they phone.

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 27/09/2025 11:32

He goes into school on Monday to explain. If it makes him late for work, he lets work know he’ll be in late.

The13thFairy · 27/09/2025 11:30

Weaponised incompetence. He really, really doesn't want to buy those shoes.

user2848502016 · 27/09/2025 11:07

Return the trainers and buy school shoes obviously. DS has no say in it, if his school don’t allow trainers there’s nothing you can do about it.

ZigZagIntoTheBlue · 27/09/2025 11:07

The answer here is that he takes dc to school on Monday and you email in advance to tell them any uniform issues need to be raised with their dad, here is his number.

Bearbookagainandagain · 27/09/2025 11:01

Ask him for the receipt and go exchange them, dont buy a new pair.

Although I'd be tempted to let him deal with it.