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To think it’s selfish to watch tv for an entire train journey?

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storke · 27/09/2025 08:49

Recently went on a 7 hour train journey with dp. For the entire journey, he sat glued to his ipad watching a tv series.

Even when eating the nice dinner I went and bought, he still watched tv.

I don’t have an ipad or laptop to watch anything on. I read my book for a bit and scrolled the internet.

AIBU to think that’s a bit selfish?

It would have been nice to have chatted for an hour or so, seeing as we were going on holiday together. I have no problem entertaining myself but 7hrs straight without any chitchat was mind numbing.

OP posts:
tripleginandtonic · 27/09/2025 09:03

Did you tell.him that? I wouldn't want to be with a friend or partner that didn't talk to me at all for 7 hours.

SunnyDolly · 27/09/2025 09:02

Sounds normal for us, my DH would be plugged in to TV or podcasts and I read books when we travel. Did you try and have a conversation and be ignored you, because that would be different!

NoisyLittleOtter · 27/09/2025 09:00

Did you say ‘I’m a bit bored, can we chat for a bit?’

Chevronsandstripes · 27/09/2025 08:59

YANBU op! This is definitely rude!

You can’t behave like you are single when going on holiday with someone else!

I can’t believe he didn’t turn off his screen when you were eating dinner either! Does he have no basic manners?

So how is he the rest of the time op? How is your holiday going?

MissedItByThisMuch · 27/09/2025 08:59

Screamingabdabz · 27/09/2025 08:55

Wow! If my DH ignored me for 7 hours I’d think there was something wrong with our marriage. We’ve been together over 30 years and still chatter away all the time. Have you not got much of a rapport? Why are you together?

Peak MN - having different approaches to passing a long journey = LTB

He should definitely have stopped watching and chatted while eating, but I don’t see anything wrong with watching movies to pass a long trip.

TheWonkYes · 27/09/2025 08:57

I think it is a bit selfish - but also wonder if you said something at the time. Did he actually rebuff your attempts at conversation which is not just selfish - it's rude. Or did you spend 7 Hrs waiting fo him to realise you wanted him to want to chat which is unnecessarily martyrish and in my experience generally never works. He was happy and he will be bewildered that you weren't happy to do the same thing.

ZenNudist · 27/09/2025 08:56

I think you should have brought your own entertainment. I don't blame your dp for watching a show to keep himself occupied

Screamingabdabz · 27/09/2025 08:55

Wow! If my DH ignored me for 7 hours I’d think there was something wrong with our marriage. We’ve been together over 30 years and still chatter away all the time. Have you not got much of a rapport? Why are you together?

BlueMum16 · 27/09/2025 08:55

Do you try a conversation?

CalzoneOnLegs · 27/09/2025 08:53

Did he have earbuds in ? You can buy a little jumper to plug two sets in so you could have both watched it. Long journeys are boring so provided he wasn’t disturbing anybody I think it’s fine, personally

ETA could have removed to eat the meal though

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