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A wave of illiterate “home schooled” children

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RedSkyatNight25 · 27/09/2025 06:58

Prepared to get torn apart, and I know many homeschool because the school environment isn’t right for their children (SEN, sensory issues - whatever else) and their needs aren’t met by school with a chronic lack of SEN placements and too much demand etc. I’m not naive to that. I also know some parents with adequate resource will ensure their children have a rounded education whilst being homeschooled.

But there seems to be a movement to homeschooling by people who are simply anti establishment with a point to prove. Their grammar and communication on social media tells me they’re not equipped to homeschool a child. Not least I think the socialisation and soft skills school provides are hugely important too. I suspect most of these parents either haven’t considered the benefits of school or hugely underestimated it, especially past primary are parents really equipped to teach ALL the subjects with sufficient skill if they lack the knowledge themselves? Are they not underestimating the skills and expertise of qualified teachers?

AIBU to think it’s really concerning? These are the next generation of our workforce and infrastructure. I personally think we are hugely privileged to live in a country with free education - I know it’s not perfect but I’m not convinced homeschooling is better for a vast majority.

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verycloakanddaggers · 27/09/2025 13:28

RampantIvy · 27/09/2025 13:24

I would suggest that part of it is learning to get along with people you don't like very much.

Unfortunately also learning to accept being bullied by people who don't like you very much.

Leftrightmiddle · 27/09/2025 13:27

Horsie · 27/09/2025 12:17

I think homeschooling is absolutely awful and I'm really amazed that it's legal. You do hear of cases where the parents and child are very bright and they get strings of As at both GCSE and A-Level, but I don't think that's the norm. How many more are going without a decent education and socialisation? I agree completely with a PP who said they are surprised that parents think they can replace multiple degrees, PGCE, and years of teaching experience.

I think if homeschooled children don't reach the standard in GCSE - I think it's 5 passes A-C including English and maths - then they should be given a choice of a fine or jail time, because I think denying a child a decent education is a crime.

And those at school who don't get the grades should be compensated by the education authority right?
Lots of children in schools will fail their GCSEs

verycloakanddaggers · 27/09/2025 13:26

Horsie · 27/09/2025 13:07

Well, equally, what makes you think that homeschooled children do have proper resources? (To me, proper resources means qualified and experienced teachers in each subject and the socialisation of many peers.)

We would need to know how many homeschooled children achieve the maths stat in order to make a comparison.

Only in today's topsy-turvey world would someone be called prejudiced for insisting that children should go to school!

Sadly most state schools don't have qualified and experienced teachers in each subject and this the socialisation of many peers includes dealing with very difficult behaviour.

The increase in home education has coincided with huge reduction in school funding and increasing issues in schools.

VikaOlson · 27/09/2025 13:26

Horsie · 27/09/2025 13:22

Wrong, because as I said already, if a child has the best resources available to them - i.e. a school - and doesn't get five passes at GCSE, you know for sure that the problem is not that they were denied a proper education. And the parent who has denied their child an education, and whose child has failed to meet a minimum standard as a result, doesn't have to go to jail. They can pay a fine instead.

Currently there are zero consequences for denying a child an education. (By denying a child an education, I mean either a school career or an effective home education.) Yes, some parents do home ed very well, but what about all those who don't? You can take them out of school because you don't like the lunch menu, you can be unbothered about teaching them to read or making sure they pass any GCSEs, and there are no consequences. HOW is that fair to children? How is that allowed?

Parents who are feckless about education need consequences for it. I don't know why jail time or fines is so controversial. Currently those are the two punishments allowed for parents whose children are enrolled at school but don't make them go.

So schools can fail 55% of children (75% of disadvantaged children) and you're fine with that?

Doesn't sound like you care about education very much.

Needlenardlenoo · 27/09/2025 13:24

I would note that local authorities aren't routinely fined for "denying children an education" even though they do. In a small minority of cases parents are awarded a small amount of compensation, but in most cases, tumbleweed.

RampantIvy · 27/09/2025 13:24

DontGoJasonWaterfalls · 27/09/2025 09:27

Bumping this because there's more talk of socialisation like it's a magic bullet that makes you employable but no one saying what form that socialisation actually takes.

I would suggest that part of it is learning to get along with people you don't like very much.

Seymour5 · 27/09/2025 13:23

I had a teacher friend who successfully home educated two of her children until they went to grammar school. Her DH was a GP. She could afford not to earn.

Even had I wanted to, or had the skills, I neded an income. Serious question, unless one parent can support the family, how can it be an affordable option?

viques · 27/09/2025 13:22

Barneybagpuss · 27/09/2025 07:23

I’m a teacher and we’ve had kids removed to homeschool by irate parents annoyed at school rules - a nose piercing was a recent one. You see a lot of this on TikTok. You know they are woefully unprepared. We’ve had a couple who’ve tried to re-register pupils, then kick off when the place is gone and another who was furious that school wouldn’t pay for her child’s GCSE entries - she didn’t realise you had to.

We had one who removed her child to home school just before Easter one year and insisted on having all the exercise books to take home. Fair enough, except she turned up at the end of the summer term and demanded a written report!

Horsie · 27/09/2025 13:22

DontGoJasonWaterfalls · 27/09/2025 12:53

That's an excellent point! So yes, under the ludicrous idea that parents should be prosecuted if their children don't reach the arbitrary standard, that should apply to parents who outsource their children's education to schools too.

Wrong, because as I said already, if a child has the best resources available to them - i.e. a school - and doesn't get five passes at GCSE, you know for sure that the problem is not that they were denied a proper education. And the parent who has denied their child an education, and whose child has failed to meet a minimum standard as a result, doesn't have to go to jail. They can pay a fine instead.

Currently there are zero consequences for denying a child an education. (By denying a child an education, I mean either a school career or an effective home education.) Yes, some parents do home ed very well, but what about all those who don't? You can take them out of school because you don't like the lunch menu, you can be unbothered about teaching them to read or making sure they pass any GCSEs, and there are no consequences. HOW is that fair to children? How is that allowed?

Parents who are feckless about education need consequences for it. I don't know why jail time or fines is so controversial. Currently those are the two punishments allowed for parents whose children are enrolled at school but don't make them go.

RustedOver · 27/09/2025 13:17

One of my daughter’s friends was a school refuser, social anxiety at the time, was bought her own small flat to live in, near her parents, only child and very indulged.

She was then home schooled, but was doing nothing, so the local council arranged for her to attend a local approved school, who picked her up by minibus, and took her to the new school.

On leaving school, her social anxiety disappeared and she ran her own shop.

I suspect the people who take their kids out of school for spurious reasons, risk this, and it would probably be better in the long run for their kids

TheTallgiraffe · 27/09/2025 13:16

Baital · 27/09/2025 13:08

As I said, I don't think it's the norm in the UK (reading fir comprehension!). But it does exist, and some parents are using the US 'Christian' curricula.

That's what you said in your second post, not in your first.

PersistentRain · 27/09/2025 13:16

TheTallgiraffe · 27/09/2025 12:58

PersistentRain · Today 12:43

There’s a married couple of GPs at our practice who are HS their 5 children for ‘religious reasons’. Which is sad as it’s doubtful they will have the opportunities their own parents have had.

Why is it doubtful?

Because they don’t want their children socialising with other children outside their church. I doubt they will go to medical school as one of the prerequisites these days is having some work experience in a health setting. If you don’t want your children spending time with non religious people it’s going to be quite hard. They do no extra curricular activities either. Maybe they’ll get good results but won’t have much to add on top.

verycloakanddaggers · 27/09/2025 13:16

Uggbootsforever · 27/09/2025 11:53

Schools work by economies of scale, they’re not equipped to give 30% of their students a bespoke learning experience complete with emotional and sensory support and a complicated routine of therapies and adjustments.

Something HAS happened which has made children less flexible, relaxed and happy. So many older children seem to have the emotional span of a toddler, flying into instant rages the moment they don’t get their own way and crying at the drop of a hat. They seem permanently on edge and in constant need of controlling everything around them to the nth degree

About half a century ago, kids playing entirely unsupervised (including on building sites, railways, in rivers etc), playing roughly, teasing, fighting or even hurting animals was seen as par for the course.
Was it really a utopia of perfecr behaviour in the good old days? Borstals were pretty full.

Olivene · 27/09/2025 13:14

Vroomfondleswaistcoat · 27/09/2025 13:10

There's a difference also between being intelligent and being able to teach. Particularly to teach your own children. I know many people who are very well educated, PhD level and all that, but who can't get information over in a form that anyone else could understand, never mind learn from. So it's not just being educated yourself as a parent, it's being able to get that information over in a form in which your children can understand it (without everyone losing their temper), and your children actually wanting to sit down and listen to you for long enough to take it on board.

That's nonsense. We all teach our children from the day they're born.

It's home educated, OP.
I have no problem with being called anti-establishment. The "vast majority" will never be likely to attempt home ed. Plenty of children leave school semi-literate. Plenty of children leave school traumatised by bullying. For sure, home ed is unsuitable for some. So is school.

Mischance · 27/09/2025 13:14

I am sure we can all quote examples of homeschooling done badly, but the same applies to in-school education.

Just as most children do OK at school, so most home-schooled children also do OK.

For some chidlren school is torture; just as some poorly homeschooled children miss out.

There are huge flaws in our education system, not least the challenge of crowd control which can hold up the process of true education and be seriously frightening for some children. Some parents choose not to have their children go through this, and it is an entirely reasonable decision - and there is a lot of support available to home educate well.

I do take the point that it needs to be better monitored in order to weed out the minority of children for whom "home education" in practice means no education at all; and to deal with issues of child protection. But it is not right in principle to force every child to go to school just because some parents are abusive and having children in school means that this can be better identified. There have to be some freedoms left to parents.

TheTallgiraffe · 27/09/2025 13:13

Horsie · 27/09/2025 13:07

Well, equally, what makes you think that homeschooled children do have proper resources? (To me, proper resources means qualified and experienced teachers in each subject and the socialisation of many peers.)

We would need to know how many homeschooled children achieve the maths stat in order to make a comparison.

Only in today's topsy-turvey world would someone be called prejudiced for insisting that children should go to school!

I didn't call you prejudiced for insisting that children should go to school.

Home educated children are private candidates , so you would need to find the statistics for private candidates. However, this category also includes adults who are re-sitting exams, or never sat them. The government doesn't keep statistics for Home educated children, but it would be interesting if they did.

Vroomfondleswaistcoat · 27/09/2025 13:10

There's a difference also between being intelligent and being able to teach. Particularly to teach your own children. I know many people who are very well educated, PhD level and all that, but who can't get information over in a form that anyone else could understand, never mind learn from. So it's not just being educated yourself as a parent, it's being able to get that information over in a form in which your children can understand it (without everyone losing their temper), and your children actually wanting to sit down and listen to you for long enough to take it on board.

VikaOlson · 27/09/2025 13:08

TheNinkyNonkyIsATardis · 27/09/2025 13:02

I idly wish that there was such a thing as part-time home schooling, because I think it would make more sense for us to have school focus on academic rigour and more time for us to focus on things like cooking, baking, swimming, money, cultural experiences on the fifth day.

But hey ho.

There is, it's called flexischooling.

Baital · 27/09/2025 13:08

TheTallgiraffe · 27/09/2025 12:33

Well, I think we're talking about home education in the UK. But yes there are home educators in UK that use Christian US curriculum, but that isn't proof of the "fact" that there is "a lot of religious indoctrination" in home education.

Edited

As I said, I don't think it's the norm in the UK (reading fir comprehension!). But it does exist, and some parents are using the US 'Christian' curricula.

readingaboutww1 · 27/09/2025 13:07

RedSkyatNight25 · 27/09/2025 06:58

Prepared to get torn apart, and I know many homeschool because the school environment isn’t right for their children (SEN, sensory issues - whatever else) and their needs aren’t met by school with a chronic lack of SEN placements and too much demand etc. I’m not naive to that. I also know some parents with adequate resource will ensure their children have a rounded education whilst being homeschooled.

But there seems to be a movement to homeschooling by people who are simply anti establishment with a point to prove. Their grammar and communication on social media tells me they’re not equipped to homeschool a child. Not least I think the socialisation and soft skills school provides are hugely important too. I suspect most of these parents either haven’t considered the benefits of school or hugely underestimated it, especially past primary are parents really equipped to teach ALL the subjects with sufficient skill if they lack the knowledge themselves? Are they not underestimating the skills and expertise of qualified teachers?

AIBU to think it’s really concerning? These are the next generation of our workforce and infrastructure. I personally think we are hugely privileged to live in a country with free education - I know it’s not perfect but I’m not convinced homeschooling is better for a vast majority.

A lot of people homeschooling are actually critical of the low standards in school, some 40 percent of school leavers are not literate. The problems have been around since the 1970s when it became fashionable to be "progressive". Literacy is a huge problem in the UK. Behaviour in many schools is terrible - fights, abusive language, most children not engaged and making it impossible for other children to learn, petty punishments for minor misdemeanours affecting mental health of children at school generally. See numerous threads about English schools. It is a huge worry for parents.

So some might homeschool for the reasons you say but if I were able to home school it would be for the reasons I give above.

Hope you don't feel torn apart!

VikaOlson · 27/09/2025 13:07

Horsie · 27/09/2025 12:17

I think homeschooling is absolutely awful and I'm really amazed that it's legal. You do hear of cases where the parents and child are very bright and they get strings of As at both GCSE and A-Level, but I don't think that's the norm. How many more are going without a decent education and socialisation? I agree completely with a PP who said they are surprised that parents think they can replace multiple degrees, PGCE, and years of teaching experience.

I think if homeschooled children don't reach the standard in GCSE - I think it's 5 passes A-C including English and maths - then they should be given a choice of a fine or jail time, because I think denying a child a decent education is a crime.

Who's being prosecuted over schooled children then? Only 45% got grade 5 in English and Maths, and only 25% of disadvanted children got them! The prisons would be overflowing 😂

Horsie · 27/09/2025 13:07

TheTallgiraffe · 27/09/2025 12:42

That's a very prejudiced view. What makes you think that home educated children don't have "proper resources available"? (And what makes you think that all schooled children do?)

I can't find the statistics for what percentage achieved the government target, but 45.9% achieved grade five or higher in Maths and English.

explore-education-statistics.service.gov.uk/find-statistics/key-stage-4-performance/2023-24

Well, equally, what makes you think that homeschooled children do have proper resources? (To me, proper resources means qualified and experienced teachers in each subject and the socialisation of many peers.)

We would need to know how many homeschooled children achieve the maths stat in order to make a comparison.

Only in today's topsy-turvey world would someone be called prejudiced for insisting that children should go to school!

Doodlingsquares · 27/09/2025 13:07

PopcornIcecream · 27/09/2025 08:28

Also an alternative path into post 16 education is needed as so many courses require certain amount of GCSEs at set grades. There needs to be a alternative set of entry criteria for home educated children so they can access that if they choose to perhaps something like a maths and English skills assessment plus interview etc rather than needing those set GCSEs they may not have sat to level things up at 16 and improve outcomes

Why can't they just take the same maths and English assessment as everyone else? You don't have to be educated in school to take it.
Why would the government spend a fortune creating a special english and maths assessment for home educated kids when they are welcome to take the perfectly good assessment that already exists if they want to access further education in a formal setting?

TheTallgiraffe · 27/09/2025 13:05

AngryBookworm · Today 12:56

It's heartbreaking when children are taken out of school for the wrong reasons, usually parental beliefs - and these are usually the very children who benefit most from being exposed to diverse kinds of people and beliefs, as they would be in school. In some cases that includes basic science.

How do you know the reasons behind why parents remove their children from school? You say that the reasons are "usually" parental beliefs, so you must have come across a lot of cases of parents removing their children from school. Do you work for a school, or LA perhaps?

(When you de-register a child from school you do not have to give a reason.)

FluffyDiplodocus · 27/09/2025 13:04

Totally agree, it’s something that really worries me. I’m a teacher myself and we don’t home educate, but I’ve joined a couple of Facebook support groups for home educators because my DS is autistic and we had some really low points with school over the last year including school refusal. I felt that we were on the verge of potentially needing to explore home education if it got much worse (thankfully it didn’t for us!) so joined the groups as part of my researching home education, as I wanted to know as much possible if we ever needed to run with it.

It’s utterly terrifying how little some families do, and some of the parents posting shouldn’t be in charge of educating a potato quite frankly! And the well meaning advice given in the groups by nice, well meaning folk to ‘keep everything in writing and refuse all meetings with local authority staff’ is quite frankly dangerous for some kids IMO. I know some families who home educate locally and they do an exceptional job. But unfortunately there are a lot of parents who are pulling kids out of school because it makes their lives easier and who have no intention of properly educating their kids to a decent standard and giving them lots of opportunities - and largely avoid as much LA involvement as possible. I think in ten years or so it’ll be seen as a huge scandal and rules will be massively tightened up as some kids will just fall through the cracks.

I’m not against home education at all, but some kids are 100% being failed due to this by some parents!