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A wave of illiterate “home schooled” children

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RedSkyatNight25 · 27/09/2025 06:58

Prepared to get torn apart, and I know many homeschool because the school environment isn’t right for their children (SEN, sensory issues - whatever else) and their needs aren’t met by school with a chronic lack of SEN placements and too much demand etc. I’m not naive to that. I also know some parents with adequate resource will ensure their children have a rounded education whilst being homeschooled.

But there seems to be a movement to homeschooling by people who are simply anti establishment with a point to prove. Their grammar and communication on social media tells me they’re not equipped to homeschool a child. Not least I think the socialisation and soft skills school provides are hugely important too. I suspect most of these parents either haven’t considered the benefits of school or hugely underestimated it, especially past primary are parents really equipped to teach ALL the subjects with sufficient skill if they lack the knowledge themselves? Are they not underestimating the skills and expertise of qualified teachers?

AIBU to think it’s really concerning? These are the next generation of our workforce and infrastructure. I personally think we are hugely privileged to live in a country with free education - I know it’s not perfect but I’m not convinced homeschooling is better for a vast majority.

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Needlenardlenoo · 27/09/2025 13:56

Kent is a very large county and no doubt contains some wacky beliefs

It also has a Reform Council, a truly rubbish SEN department, and a significant minority of kids in grammars, so it's already got some big stressors for anyone outside the norm.

Horsie · 27/09/2025 13:54

Uggbootsforever · 27/09/2025 13:42

It means interacting with your peers on a variety of topics as well as during lunch, break and before/after school. Catching trains and buses together, working together in pairs and groups, spending half an hour at lunch talking about rubbish and having a laugh, ad hoc trips to town or parks after school and generally just interacting outside of an hour of a highly scheduled activity. Even getting up to a bit of mischief together.

Couldn't have put it better. Even home educated children who get all As are missing out on the above. Also school drama productions and school trips.

Point is, the world is organised into communities. Work, neighbourhoods, social groups. School is the best place to learn about community by being part of a large one.

But I do have a lot of sympathy for parents of SEN kids who are not being adequately supported by the school or the LEA. There are definitely cases where home education is best. But I'm talking about non-SEN kids.

Needlenardlenoo · 27/09/2025 13:53

I imagine the success rate would be higher, because a home educator is hardly going to pay a fee to sit a GCSE if they don't have a reasonable expectation the child will do OK, and they can choose to sit a small number of GCSEs or even just one.

oneleggedspider · 27/09/2025 13:53

I agree. It seems recent. In Kent there's a definite rise in 'anti- woke, anti- LGBT, anti- vaccine, anti-muslim, don't trust the bbc, don't trust the government, don't trust looney leftie teachers' rhetoric which has extended to parents pulling their kids out of school. Along with a new wave, this month, who are now refusing to send their kids to school because the school has an asylum centre near it.

It's worrying. Glad so many of you aren't experiencing it yet. We have a reform led council, and are obviously at the front of the immigration issues. It all seems to be linked.

I also work with groups of children who have always been home educated. Lovely kids, generally from artsy, musical families who want more freedom to follow their children's interests. Or those with SEN who do better out of a classroom. Thats an entirely different section of society.

Horsie · 27/09/2025 13:50

NettleandBramble · 27/09/2025 13:44

These are the results for our 'best' school in town

% of students who achieved a strong pass (Grade 5 or above) in English and Maths at the end of KS4
School. 36.5%
Local authority. 34.7%
Nationally. 45.9%

It is hard to know the number of children leaving with 5 a-c grades as this would be 4-9. This measurement of just English and maths gives us outcomes at 5-9 (36.5%)
From memory when we looked at this school it was 50% for English and maths at 4-9 and I would expect that 5 GCSE 'passes' including English and maths would therefore be less than 50%

How do you feel about this outcome from our local school and nationally?

It's not great, is it.

Pity there are no stats for the same achievement rates for home educated kids in order to make a comparison.

Imagine if the success rate was much higher! That would be extremely embarrassing for schools and might help motivate them to be better.

shuggles · 27/09/2025 13:47

@RedSkyatNight25 There are plenty of children who went to school that are illiterate.

Children don't learn literacy at school. English education in school primarily focuses on abstract questions like "what did the author mean by this word?" rather than spelling and grammar.

Children learn literacy from reading, which is something they are supposed to be doing outside of school.

I also see no shortage of people who have been to school who put question marks at the end of sentences that aren't questions (example: "I don't get it?") and who say "should of" (that one is just weird... you don't say "should of" when speaking, so why write it?).

Horsie · 27/09/2025 13:47

Sadza · 27/09/2025 07:53

I think you can’t underestimate children learning from their peers, working out what they’re good at in relation to others, navigating friendships and disagreements. No amount of supervised play dates will cover this. I also wonder if home schooled children are at a disadvantage in job interviews being labelled different. This is before you get to the quality of teaching. A lot of parents who home schooled children are very certain about their decisions but there are problems out there.

Totally agree with all this.

Horsie · 27/09/2025 13:46

RedSkyatNight25 · 27/09/2025 08:02

@Nestingbirds same. I’m in a profession which requires a degree, post grad and 2 years of training to qualify. I’m well educated. But I know what I don’t know and that’s the point, the more you know. The more you understand what you don’t and value the expertise of others.

Exactly.

localnotail · 27/09/2025 13:44

I know a few people who homeschool their kids, and there are always tutors involved. Either for all subjects, or for some of them - depending on how capable the parents are. Its not cheap, and I literally dont know anyone who simply let their kids slide: usually, the parents who decide to homeschool are the very opposite of neglectful.

I dont know anyone who does it for "anti establishment" reason - is it even a thing?

NettleandBramble · 27/09/2025 13:44

Horsie · 27/09/2025 12:17

I think homeschooling is absolutely awful and I'm really amazed that it's legal. You do hear of cases where the parents and child are very bright and they get strings of As at both GCSE and A-Level, but I don't think that's the norm. How many more are going without a decent education and socialisation? I agree completely with a PP who said they are surprised that parents think they can replace multiple degrees, PGCE, and years of teaching experience.

I think if homeschooled children don't reach the standard in GCSE - I think it's 5 passes A-C including English and maths - then they should be given a choice of a fine or jail time, because I think denying a child a decent education is a crime.

These are the results for our 'best' school in town

% of students who achieved a strong pass (Grade 5 or above) in English and Maths at the end of KS4
School. 36.5%
Local authority. 34.7%
Nationally. 45.9%

It is hard to know the number of children leaving with 5 a-c grades as this would be 4-9. This measurement of just English and maths gives us outcomes at 5-9 (36.5%)
From memory when we looked at this school it was 50% for English and maths at 4-9 and I would expect that 5 GCSE 'passes' including English and maths would therefore be less than 50%

How do you feel about this outcome from our local school and nationally?

Horsie · 27/09/2025 13:44

Brainstorm23 · 27/09/2025 07:55

I've no doubt there are parents who do amazingly well home educating their kids.

But without blowing my own trumpet too much i'm highly intelligent (4 As at A-Level in the three sciences and Maths) and there's absolutely no way i'm qualified to home educate my 7 year old daughter.

Even doing her homework with her can be a struggle as we're both very strong willed and my 35 year old knowledge of the primary curriculum doesn't really cut it!

It's bloody hard and I take my hat off to my daughter's teacher who is doing an amazing job.

It's precisely because you're bright that you know how much you don't know.

Uggbootsforever · 27/09/2025 13:42

verycloakanddaggers · 27/09/2025 13:39

Free flow social interaction???

Children are supervised at school and there is still awful bullying. What on earth would 'free flow social interaction' mean in a school setting that couldn't be replicated at a club?

Do you mean groups of kids unsupervised in the park? Home educated children could do that if they wanted to.

It means interacting with your peers on a variety of topics as well as during lunch, break and before/after school. Catching trains and buses together, working together in pairs and groups, spending half an hour at lunch talking about rubbish and having a laugh, ad hoc trips to town or parks after school and generally just interacting outside of an hour of a highly scheduled activity. Even getting up to a bit of mischief together.

verycloakanddaggers · 27/09/2025 13:39

Uggbootsforever · 27/09/2025 13:33

I disagree. This is meeting for 1 shared activity in a mostly supervised environment. Not the same as free flow social interaction.

Free flow social interaction???

Children are supervised at school and there is still awful bullying. What on earth would 'free flow social interaction' mean in a school setting that couldn't be replicated at a club?

Do you mean groups of kids unsupervised in the park? Home educated children could do that if they wanted to.

DontGoJasonWaterfalls · 27/09/2025 13:37

Uggbootsforever · 27/09/2025 13:33

I disagree. This is meeting for 1 shared activity in a mostly supervised environment. Not the same as free flow social interaction.

Ah, the free flow social interaction where a 10 year old child was able to take a picture of my 9 year old DD on his phone, add a vile caption and share it with his 300 Snapchat friends, many of whom are adults and total strangers, and faced zero repercussions for it because his parents couldn't be arsed?

Yeah, no thanks.

Brillcap · 27/09/2025 13:34

Barso · 27/09/2025 10:57

The barely literate parents withdrawing their kids are a product of the school system, people who spent 12 years in education and still haven't reached the standard expected of an 8 year old. They feel that they didn't benefit from school, so why would they send their kids?

Precisely the point I was going to make!

Disillusioned, illiterate school leavers opt to home educate their own children. And home education is the problem. Couldn't make it up!

RampantIvy · 27/09/2025 13:33

verycloakanddaggers · 27/09/2025 13:28

Unfortunately also learning to accept being bullied by people who don't like you very much.

This is something that schools don't address properly, and I agree that children shouldn't accept being bullied, or in fact shoudn't be bullied at all.

Vroomfondleswaistcoat · 27/09/2025 13:33

Olivene · 27/09/2025 13:14

That's nonsense. We all teach our children from the day they're born.

It's home educated, OP.
I have no problem with being called anti-establishment. The "vast majority" will never be likely to attempt home ed. Plenty of children leave school semi-literate. Plenty of children leave school traumatised by bullying. For sure, home ed is unsuitable for some. So is school.

Well, to the extent that I taught my children to read and write before they went to school. I taught them how to use a toilet and how to say please and thank you. But they wanted to learn these things. I am not equipped to teach them GCSE Geography in a form that they would understand without rambling and confusing them because I am not a teacher and therefore have no idea of the best way of getting information into people who might well not be interested in learning it.

Blomama · 27/09/2025 13:33

No, that's not what I've said. Every child I have known who has been removed from school to be home educated has had ongoing safeguarding concerns. Usually low level neglect eg poor attendance, unwashed uniform, falling asleep in class, disclosures about verbal abuse at home etc. like another poster said, it's usually a knee jerk reaction, the parent often has poor mental health/history of substance abuse and can't cope with the hassle from school so it's easier to remove them.

The threshold for SS involvement without parental consent is incredibly high - we have to build up so much evidence before SS will even consider this. In my experience this is only in clear instances of physical abuse where a child has bruises/burns on them.

Uggbootsforever · 27/09/2025 13:33

DontGoJasonWaterfalls · 27/09/2025 13:32

Totally achievable through Guiding/Scouting, cadets, sports teams, theatre groups.

I disagree. This is meeting for 1 shared activity in a mostly supervised environment. Not the same as free flow social interaction.

twoshedsjackson · 27/09/2025 13:32

There are so many variables here; sometimes it can be a practical solution, but it's something to be approached realistically,
A close friend of mine undertook this as a temporary measure, when a house move from London out to Kent was delayed. Her DS was coming up to Reception age; if they had stayed put, he would have attended the school where she taught before maternity leave, where she was very happy, but they were taking the long-term view of what would happen at KS3.
Rather than doing the whole "settling into school" routine twice, she opted to home school him until the house move finally happened.
There were many pluses; she has a really close bond with him to this day, and having taught his age group, she was happy with his academic progress, and she enjoyed many "educational" excursions with him.
However, as PP's have mentioned, she worried about the limits to his social circle; he played regularly with his younger cousins, but didn't have the regular give and take with his peer group. (I know there are home-schooling groups which meet up, but it's not the same as rubbing along with peers day-today, and the stimulation of shared tasks). She missed having school resources to draw upon, and freely admitted that, as he grew older, she would find it hard to offer all the variety which subject specialists can offer. On her own admission, for example, neither Music nor PE were her strong suits, and he had a flair for both as it turned out!
In the event, he moved happily back into regular school life, but admitted it had not been the soft option.

DontGoJasonWaterfalls · 27/09/2025 13:32

RampantIvy · 27/09/2025 13:24

I would suggest that part of it is learning to get along with people you don't like very much.

Totally achievable through Guiding/Scouting, cadets, sports teams, theatre groups.

Mischance · 27/09/2025 13:32

Horsie · 27/09/2025 13:22

Wrong, because as I said already, if a child has the best resources available to them - i.e. a school - and doesn't get five passes at GCSE, you know for sure that the problem is not that they were denied a proper education. And the parent who has denied their child an education, and whose child has failed to meet a minimum standard as a result, doesn't have to go to jail. They can pay a fine instead.

Currently there are zero consequences for denying a child an education. (By denying a child an education, I mean either a school career or an effective home education.) Yes, some parents do home ed very well, but what about all those who don't? You can take them out of school because you don't like the lunch menu, you can be unbothered about teaching them to read or making sure they pass any GCSEs, and there are no consequences. HOW is that fair to children? How is that allowed?

Parents who are feckless about education need consequences for it. I don't know why jail time or fines is so controversial. Currently those are the two punishments allowed for parents whose children are enrolled at school but don't make them go.

You are assuming that homeschooled children are being denied a proper education. You are wrong.

verycloakanddaggers · 27/09/2025 13:31

Horsie · 27/09/2025 13:22

Wrong, because as I said already, if a child has the best resources available to them - i.e. a school - and doesn't get five passes at GCSE, you know for sure that the problem is not that they were denied a proper education. And the parent who has denied their child an education, and whose child has failed to meet a minimum standard as a result, doesn't have to go to jail. They can pay a fine instead.

Currently there are zero consequences for denying a child an education. (By denying a child an education, I mean either a school career or an effective home education.) Yes, some parents do home ed very well, but what about all those who don't? You can take them out of school because you don't like the lunch menu, you can be unbothered about teaching them to read or making sure they pass any GCSEs, and there are no consequences. HOW is that fair to children? How is that allowed?

Parents who are feckless about education need consequences for it. I don't know why jail time or fines is so controversial. Currently those are the two punishments allowed for parents whose children are enrolled at school but don't make them go.

I don't really know where to start here, but I think this is possibly the most naive comment on the thread if a child has the best resources available to them - i.e. a school - and doesn't get five passes at GCSE, you know for sure that the problem is not that they were denied a proper education

For quite a lot of children, school really isn't the best educational option.

Leftrightmiddle · 27/09/2025 13:31

Horsie · 27/09/2025 12:33

Are you sure? That seems very low.

And no, obviously not, because the lack of achievement is despite proper resources being available to the child.

Exactly - some children won't achieve GCSE or equivalent level regardless of home educated or at school but you only want to punish those who home Ed.

Why ?

Mischance · 27/09/2025 13:30

RampantIvy · 27/09/2025 13:24

I would suggest that part of it is learning to get along with people you don't like very much.

Indeed - but children do not have good social controls and it is often about bullying and disruptive behaviour, which is a whole different ball game from just "people you don't like very much."