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A wave of illiterate “home schooled” children

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RedSkyatNight25 · 27/09/2025 06:58

Prepared to get torn apart, and I know many homeschool because the school environment isn’t right for their children (SEN, sensory issues - whatever else) and their needs aren’t met by school with a chronic lack of SEN placements and too much demand etc. I’m not naive to that. I also know some parents with adequate resource will ensure their children have a rounded education whilst being homeschooled.

But there seems to be a movement to homeschooling by people who are simply anti establishment with a point to prove. Their grammar and communication on social media tells me they’re not equipped to homeschool a child. Not least I think the socialisation and soft skills school provides are hugely important too. I suspect most of these parents either haven’t considered the benefits of school or hugely underestimated it, especially past primary are parents really equipped to teach ALL the subjects with sufficient skill if they lack the knowledge themselves? Are they not underestimating the skills and expertise of qualified teachers?

AIBU to think it’s really concerning? These are the next generation of our workforce and infrastructure. I personally think we are hugely privileged to live in a country with free education - I know it’s not perfect but I’m not convinced homeschooling is better for a vast majority.

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Mischance · 27/09/2025 16:14

Bumblebee72 · 27/09/2025 14:57

I think that thinking you can educate your kids to the same level yourself as an entire school of specialist teachers is one of the most arrogant view points you can have.

You have obviously not read the posts from home educators, outlining the process. They know they cannot teach every subject which is why they employ tutors, online or in person, and join together with other homeschooled children to share costs.

lochmaree · 27/09/2025 15:53

TheTallgiraffe · 27/09/2025 15:46

Perhaps she went to school herself?

I bet there are quite a few people on this thread who are very critical of home education despite the fact neither they nor their children have been home educated.

Yeah she did. I am pro home ed and can see the problems with mainstream school, but I don't understand why a parent would purposely avoid teaching anything to their child and also be so critical (robots, really?!) of going to school when it's working well for many (I acknowledge not all by a long way). It's like she is sad for kids that have to go to school. I would home ed if school didn't work out for my DC, but I would teach them and get tutors as necessary.

Haveiwon · 27/09/2025 15:51

fastingforweightloss · 27/09/2025 08:28

Completely agree with you. It's absolute nonsense, to think that a normal person could home school their children better than about 10 teachers who have degrees in their subject matter.

I did not get any A levels, I didn't go to Uni. I'm not thick (I have my own business), but my children are both educated to degree level, in very complex subjects. How on earth could I have got them there? Fucking stupid idea.

My son excels in Maths & all the sciences, he is quite a boffin. I, on the other hand, failed Math's O'Level. I mean, come on! How would I possibly educate him to A Level standard?

Teachers often don’t have a degree in the subject they are teaching.

In my old school, over half the maths department did not have a maths degree, or even A-level. One had a B in Maths GCSE has their highest maths qualification. A couple had a degree from a bottom tier university (University of Greenwich/ Westminster type unis) and had huge knowledge gaps, totally unsuitable to teach top sets and A-levels. Only three had a good maths degree and these ones taught top sets and A-levels.

So unless your child was already very good at maths, they were getting a very poor maths education!

NettleandBramble · 27/09/2025 15:48

Fearfulsaints · 27/09/2025 15:44

I think this is true in principle but my current experience is what this actually means is hard.

We have found that level 1 courses are in very specific subjects, often only two or three choices and the peer group is not always people who are able. There's nothing wrong with being with people with learning difficulties, but if you dont have them, and you just had no qualifications, its not always the right pace or environment for you and you are stuck with horticulture when you wanted physics.

A lot of the level 2 courses will take gcse equivilent but not all and not all equivalents. We have personally found college after college reducing or shutting down its level 2 offer due to funding issues.

Haven't got to post 19 yet so cant comment on university access courses,

but I can comment that options post 16 without gcses and only gcse equivalents have been narrow and far away for my son. Its been a big issue.

This has nothing to do with home ed as he is in school, its SEN related (and i am pro home ed as it happens,) but I would judge a parent who didnt give a child with the abilit to so the opportunity to do 4 gcses which include maths and english.

I think this is balanced and fair and would encourage anyone who home educates to start to look into what the college requirements are, once their child is about 12 and keep an eye on their future.

YourLoyalPlumOP · 27/09/2025 15:47

For example part of our home ed was business

my children wanted to start a business and it’s just about to go live. If it doesn’t work that’s ok because now they know how. If it’s successful then that’s also great

theyre not even Teens yet as such.

also school was just horrific mentally for my eldest. They were not good at all. You can always redo exams but you can never redo mental health which is my moto.

ky children will also be doing GCSES like everyone else

TheTallgiraffe · 27/09/2025 15:46

lochmaree · 27/09/2025 15:43

Someone I know 'unschools' and is very critical of the school system despite her kids never having been. She shares stuff on FB about kids who go to school being trained to be robots by the state. She is very anti test or any measurement of learning and appeared to be genuinely upset that my DS was given books to learn to read in R.

Perhaps she went to school herself?

I bet there are quite a few people on this thread who are very critical of home education despite the fact neither they nor their children have been home educated.

YourLoyalPlumOP · 27/09/2025 15:45

RedSkyatNight25 · 27/09/2025 06:58

Prepared to get torn apart, and I know many homeschool because the school environment isn’t right for their children (SEN, sensory issues - whatever else) and their needs aren’t met by school with a chronic lack of SEN placements and too much demand etc. I’m not naive to that. I also know some parents with adequate resource will ensure their children have a rounded education whilst being homeschooled.

But there seems to be a movement to homeschooling by people who are simply anti establishment with a point to prove. Their grammar and communication on social media tells me they’re not equipped to homeschool a child. Not least I think the socialisation and soft skills school provides are hugely important too. I suspect most of these parents either haven’t considered the benefits of school or hugely underestimated it, especially past primary are parents really equipped to teach ALL the subjects with sufficient skill if they lack the knowledge themselves? Are they not underestimating the skills and expertise of qualified teachers?

AIBU to think it’s really concerning? These are the next generation of our workforce and infrastructure. I personally think we are hugely privileged to live in a country with free education - I know it’s not perfect but I’m not convinced homeschooling is better for a vast majority.

I completely agree with you as a home ed mum.

lots of homes mum’s I know can spell properly for example and very small amount of people come from a family with super intelligent parents and also can’t afford tutors etc

my children are privately educated at home for the things that I can’t teach. I can teach most of it but of course I’m not brilliant at everything.

I often wonder if I’m doing the wrong thing for my kids. But my eldest was on the way to self harming and I could t do it anhmote

menyakly it was the best thing we’ve ever done.

also there’s a lot of anti vax. Anti establiment. Lots of families who took their kids out because they taught dec education and taught about genders etc and they didn’t want it

but I agree. How can you teach your child what you don’t know?

Fearfulsaints · 27/09/2025 15:44

Leftrightmiddle · 27/09/2025 14:33

This is actually a misconception

Most college courses say GCSEs or equivalent (so could be other courses that show knowledge)
A child who doesn't achieve any GCSEs for any reason can still go to college and start on a level 1 course.

At 19 you can do an access to higher Ed course (1year) you don't have to have any qualifications to do this.
After this you can progress straight into a degree course.

Families that home Ed do not have to follow the national curriculum. Children progress won't necessarily be age appropriate IE they may be years ahead in one subject but working at a lower level in others.. some Home Ed children don't read as early but they develop other skills. Learning is often child led and follows interests. This means they are motivated to learn which achieved better results than pupils who are terrified in school

I think this is true in principle but my current experience is what this actually means is hard.

We have found that level 1 courses are in very specific subjects, often only two or three choices and the peer group is not always people who are able. There's nothing wrong with being with people with learning difficulties, but if you dont have them, and you just had no qualifications, its not always the right pace or environment for you and you are stuck with horticulture when you wanted physics.

A lot of the level 2 courses will take gcse equivilent but not all and not all equivalents. We have personally found college after college reducing or shutting down its level 2 offer due to funding issues.

Haven't got to post 19 yet so cant comment on university access courses,

but I can comment that options post 16 without gcses and only gcse equivalents have been narrow and far away for my son. Its been a big issue.

This has nothing to do with home ed as he is in school, its SEN related (and i am pro home ed as it happens,) but I would judge a parent who didnt give a child with the abilit to so the opportunity to do 4 gcses which include maths and english.

TheTallgiraffe · 27/09/2025 15:43

MagicLoop · 27/09/2025 15:42

I don't think anyone is suggesting that there aren't any good or successful home-edders. I find it a bit baffling that the genuine and good ones are so furious and sceptical at the idea that there are lots and lots who aren't.

Because there is no evidence of this.

lochmaree · 27/09/2025 15:43

Someone I know 'unschools' and is very critical of the school system despite her kids never having been. She shares stuff on FB about kids who go to school being trained to be robots by the state. She is very anti test or any measurement of learning and appeared to be genuinely upset that my DS was given books to learn to read in R.

MagicLoop · 27/09/2025 15:42

ReadingSoManyThreads · 27/09/2025 15:30

And I think that comments like these just prove that you both know jack-all about home ed. Never heard of self-directed learning or autodidacts? There is a reason why home ed children settle into Uni easier than schooled children, because they're used to self-directed learning styles. They have great focus and self-motivation too. Generally speaking of course.

I don't think anyone is suggesting that there aren't any good or successful home-edders. I find it a bit baffling that the genuine and good ones are so furious and sceptical at the idea that there are lots and lots who aren't.

Aluna · 27/09/2025 15:38

Nor is true that home-Ed students necessarily settle in better to uni - some struggle with the social aspect, institutional aspect and lack of personal attention.

Aluna · 27/09/2025 15:35

Never heard of self-directed learning or autodidacts?

Yes, laudable but tends to be ponderous and one-sided. Much better to get a range of input and perspectives on a subject.

ReadingSoManyThreads · 27/09/2025 15:30

RedSkyatNight25 · 27/09/2025 15:06

This is definitely the attitude of the those people I am speaking about.

Caveat to say, I know there’s shit teachers and shit schools.

And I think that comments like these just prove that you both know jack-all about home ed. Never heard of self-directed learning or autodidacts? There is a reason why home ed children settle into Uni easier than schooled children, because they're used to self-directed learning styles. They have great focus and self-motivation too. Generally speaking of course.

birling16 · 27/09/2025 15:27

verycloakanddaggers · 27/09/2025 15:11

You teased others and fought with them, and your parents let you play unsupervised on building sites? Obviously sorry you had a difficult childhood.

Hilarious. Yes my 7 year old brother and I ran along the joists of 2 story building once. I was the victim of the teasing.
I spent hours placing a toy snake in the road and seeing if people were scared.
The world was a very different place.

Jade3450 · 27/09/2025 15:26

TheTallgiraffe · 27/09/2025 12:50

I'm not sure if your statement provides enough reliable data.

My point was that there isn’t much data because a lot of them aren’t known to/have been forgotten about by the LA.

WearyAuldWumman · 27/09/2025 15:23

verycloakanddaggers · 27/09/2025 15:11

You teased others and fought with them, and your parents let you play unsupervised on building sites? Obviously sorry you had a difficult childhood.

In the '60s and '70s unsupervised play was fun. Mind you, I'd say that it was more likely to take place on demolition sites. We had more sense than to play on sites where building (or demolition) was in progress.

One summer day, I recall that some 'big boys' had set fire to waste ground. A gang of us set to putting out the fire. Some older boys used planks to beat out the fire. The rest of us collected water from a burn (stream) and poured it on the edges.

At one point, two police officers turned up. They observed what we were doing, told us to be careful and left.

My now 65 yr old self looks back and shudders at what might have gone wrong...but - by gum - it wasn't a 'difficult childhood'. It was fun.

EarthSight · 27/09/2025 15:21

HollyGolightly4 · 27/09/2025 15:20

No, I mean not swearing at teachers, or calling their peers disability related names. Or indeed, arriving punctually 🙃

Fair!

HollyGolightly4 · 27/09/2025 15:20

EarthSight · 27/09/2025 11:37

I hope by rules, you don't mean forcing children to use preferred pronouns and not allowing them to have toilet breaks in the middle of class.

No, I mean not swearing at teachers, or calling their peers disability related names. Or indeed, arriving punctually 🙃

Orwelly · 27/09/2025 15:13

Bumblebee72 · 27/09/2025 14:57

I think that thinking you can educate your kids to the same level yourself as an entire school of specialist teachers is one of the most arrogant view points you can have.

I haven't met a home educator who thought that they could.

verycloakanddaggers · 27/09/2025 15:11

birling16 · 27/09/2025 15:03

I was that child , although I didn't hurt animals.

Perhaps that's why I see children at my local Primary out in all weathers in zip up suits poking about with nature. Good for them.

You teased others and fought with them, and your parents let you play unsupervised on building sites? Obviously sorry you had a difficult childhood.

namechangedohmy · 27/09/2025 15:09

My friend has chosen to home school for anti establishment reasons. She is degree educated and highly intelligent but woefully out of her depth. Barely covering the basics

RedSkyatNight25 · 27/09/2025 15:06

Bumblebee72 · 27/09/2025 14:57

I think that thinking you can educate your kids to the same level yourself as an entire school of specialist teachers is one of the most arrogant view points you can have.

This is definitely the attitude of the those people I am speaking about.

Caveat to say, I know there’s shit teachers and shit schools.

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Bunnycute23 · 27/09/2025 15:06

birling16 · 27/09/2025 15:05

I went Baliol surely?

Yeah. Innit.

birling16 · 27/09/2025 15:05

I went Baliol surely?

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