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Woman stepped out in front of my car

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User5306921 · 27/09/2025 00:15

I was driving on a relatively busy road. I was going straight but there was a right turn ahead of me.
The traffic going in the opposite direction was at a standstill.

I noticed a woman with her head in her phone, standing at the edge of the footpath.

I'm not sure why, probably the way she was too close to the edge of the path, but I slowed down a bit, I was doing maybe 20 miles under the limit on the road.

The woman literally stepped out on the road right in front of my car. I braked suddenly, thankfully didn't hit her, and she continued walking across, head down, still looking at her phone.

I got an awful shock. The car going in the opposite direction (who had stopped in the traffic jam) threw his hands up in the air. I don't know if he was gesturing at me or at her.

I was so shaken. If I had hit her would my licence be revoked? I don't have dashcam.

Many years ago, I remember my driving instructor telling me to watch out for people on footpaths in case they step out in front of me. I am very watchful when I see elderly people or young kids.

I can't get it out of my mind.

AIBU - It would be my fault if I hit her and I'd lose my licence.
YANBU - This would have been the pedestrian's fault.

OP posts:
RubySquid · 27/09/2025 05:38

PollyBell · 27/09/2025 03:55

I never said you did but thanks for the classy response

So why ask ME if she should have to? She merely said a dashcam would cost more than the car was worth

Neemie · 27/09/2025 05:21

A family friend killed a pedestrian who rushed out in front of his car. It wasn’t his fault but I don’t think he has ever really got over it.

I always think that as I’m driving a machine that can kill someone, I have more responsibility. It is one of the reasons I don’t particularly like driving.

TheNightingalesStarling · 27/09/2025 04:43

I love near a Primary School, Secondary school and college. I try to avoid driving st certain times as this is a daily occurrence. I have even stopped in the middle of road and had a teenager with their face buried in their phone walk into the car.

WaltzingWaters · 27/09/2025 04:16

a while back I had an obviously drunk man step out into the road and stumble right in front of my car. Luckily through a village with a 20mph speed limit and I noticed he looked wobbly so was extra vigilant. But like you I worried about if that had happened elsewhere when I’d been driving faster and wasn’t able to stop in time.

PollyBell · 27/09/2025 03:55

RubySquid · 27/09/2025 02:10

Did I say she did? Get over yourself

I never said you did but thanks for the classy response

spoonbillstretford · 27/09/2025 03:36

Pedestrians do make mistakes sometimes, this is why drivers need to stick to the speed limit and have good hazard perception.

RubySquid · 27/09/2025 02:10

PollyBell · 27/09/2025 02:02

Why should a car owner have to a camera because pedestrians dont use the brains they were born with?

Did I say she did? Get over yourself

PollyBell · 27/09/2025 02:02

RubySquid · 27/09/2025 01:57

They can be got for u der £20 . Sure your cars worth more than that

Why should a car owner have to a camera because pedestrians dont use the brains they were born with?

amylou8 · 27/09/2025 02:00

Get a basic dash cam, 30 quid on amazon.

BrokenWingsCantFly · 27/09/2025 02:00

Try not to worry about it any further OP. You are obviously a very careful driver to have spotted this and she is lucky it was you behind the wheel. Don't let this knock your confidence.

I was a very stupid pedestrian a few years back, was sleep deprived after spending the night awake to finish a dissertation. Went to the shop in a world of my own, all giddy with excitement that I had submitted and was done with it. Crossed the road heading back, didn't even think about it. So stupid. But the car driver luckily was more alert and come to a stop as it touched my leg. I was so embarrassed and was very much the 1 at fault and very grateful that the driver was more alert than I was. Had a few beeps and geers from the 2 passing vans after which made the shame worse. Annoying your pedestrian didn't even notice that you basically saved her life, as if it was someone else behind the wheel things may have turned out differently

RubySquid · 27/09/2025 01:57

User5306921 · 27/09/2025 01:19

Yes I think it would except a dash cam would cost more than the current value of my car.

They can be got for u der £20 . Sure your cars worth more than that

YippyKiYay · 27/09/2025 01:54

Glad Ur ok OP, does give you a fright at the time and make you a bit more cautious of other crazies.
Sounds like the motorist going the other way threw up their hands at the ridiculous pedestrian, not you, probably glad they didn't hit her either. You would at least have had a witness should anything have happened.

Regardless of road rules, pedestrians should check both ways (green cross code, anyone?) before stepping onto the road, usually because you can't trust drivers!
You sound a gem on the road OP, your DC will have had a good example of why they need to pay attention to their surroundings

PollyBell · 27/09/2025 01:21

CharlotteFlax · 27/09/2025 01:03

As the driver of a vehicle on the highway, the onus is on you to look out for pedestrians and other potential hazards. You said you noticed her and slowed down so you knew she was a hazard, and she was!

Well idiot pedestrians shouldn't be glued to their phones also, why cant they take some responsibility for themselves why is it all on the driver?

Emma6cat · 27/09/2025 01:20

You didn’t hit her, so you are worrying over something that didn’t happen. Dust yourself off and move on. Commend yourself for being so observant, but don’t let it eat away at you. I would have beeped my horn for eternity at her though, shouted a bit of abuse, laughed and carried on with my day. 😆

User5306921 · 27/09/2025 01:19

Yes I think it would except a dash cam would cost more than the current value of my car.

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DreamTheMoors · 27/09/2025 01:17

I imagine a dash-cam would settle any argument.

User5306921 · 27/09/2025 01:11

CharlotteFlax · 27/09/2025 01:03

As the driver of a vehicle on the highway, the onus is on you to look out for pedestrians and other potential hazards. You said you noticed her and slowed down so you knew she was a hazard, and she was!

I saw her on her phone and it was because she was so near the edge of the path but she had stopped. She wasn’t walking. Presumably completely distracted by her phone. She then proceeded to just walk on to the road, never put her head up, and certainly did not look to see if a car was coming.

I’m a cautious driver and use that road every day. I am going to be so anxious driving on it now. Or any road for that matter as any pedestrian can walk out in front of me and I may not be able to stop in time.

OP posts:
CharlotteFlax · 27/09/2025 01:03

As the driver of a vehicle on the highway, the onus is on you to look out for pedestrians and other potential hazards. You said you noticed her and slowed down so you knew she was a hazard, and she was!

ThorsRaven · 27/09/2025 00:50

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Bobiverse · 27/09/2025 00:46

onceuponatimeinneverland · 27/09/2025 00:41

I thought the law had fairly recently changed so that pedestrians have right of way if they are waiting to cross a road?

Many moons ago witnessed an accident where the pedestrian literally walked into a (slow) moving car as driver could see what was potentially going to happen. Pedestrian ended up in the floor screaming that the car had hit them (when it was the other way round) (no injuries), ambulance and police called. Witness statements taken. I can remember there been great excitement at work because a very rugged motorcycle cop turned up to take my statement. It turned out that the pedestrian did this quite frequently and was well known to police. Driver did not get prosecuted.
Must have been scary for you though OP.

She wasn’t crossing a side road, and OP was not turning into a side road. This was a straight road which the OP was travelling down. The pedestrian just stepped out at a random point on a straight road.

fost · 27/09/2025 00:45

onceuponatimeinneverland · 27/09/2025 00:41

I thought the law had fairly recently changed so that pedestrians have right of way if they are waiting to cross a road?

Many moons ago witnessed an accident where the pedestrian literally walked into a (slow) moving car as driver could see what was potentially going to happen. Pedestrian ended up in the floor screaming that the car had hit them (when it was the other way round) (no injuries), ambulance and police called. Witness statements taken. I can remember there been great excitement at work because a very rugged motorcycle cop turned up to take my statement. It turned out that the pedestrian did this quite frequently and was well known to police. Driver did not get prosecuted.
Must have been scary for you though OP.

no, if pedestrians are waiting to cross a side road, they now have right of way over a car turning from a main road into that side road, that is what the new rules say.

They don't just get to walk out into a road and get cars already on that road to stop for them, the only time they have right of way in this situation is when there's a zebra crossing.

onceuponatimeinneverland · 27/09/2025 00:41

I thought the law had fairly recently changed so that pedestrians have right of way if they are waiting to cross a road?

Many moons ago witnessed an accident where the pedestrian literally walked into a (slow) moving car as driver could see what was potentially going to happen. Pedestrian ended up in the floor screaming that the car had hit them (when it was the other way round) (no injuries), ambulance and police called. Witness statements taken. I can remember there been great excitement at work because a very rugged motorcycle cop turned up to take my statement. It turned out that the pedestrian did this quite frequently and was well known to police. Driver did not get prosecuted.
Must have been scary for you though OP.

User5306921 · 27/09/2025 00:31

I was in complete shock. My DC were in the car, teen in front and second DC in back seat. We all lurched forward as I braked. but thankfully the seatbelts did their job. I think I was in too much shock to honk.

I don’t think the woman even saw my car tbh. She never looked up from her phone.

Even now I think she is still completely unaware she was very nearly knocked down.

I think my teens have now seen the danger of texting/scrolling near traffic though.

OP posts:
steff13 · 27/09/2025 00:31

PollyBell · 27/09/2025 00:28

Yes but after an accident has happened unless there are witnesses either party could claim anything and who would be beleived?

I don't know the ins and outs of the investigation process, but there are ways for them to be able to tell how fast a car was going based on tread marks and things like that.

PollyBell · 27/09/2025 00:28

Yes but after an accident has happened unless there are witnesses either party could claim anything and who would be beleived?

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