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Neighbour attaching things to our fence?

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Anonymous23458d · 26/09/2025 14:43

Can a neighbour attach the below to our fence?
I have previous issues with this neighbour with the previous owners before us he built his conservatory on our boundary. You can kind of see it in the pic. I noticed him doing something today before I went out so asked him if this is attached to our fence as he needs my permission really. It had all rusty nails sticking out of it and it isnt safe for me having children. His girlfriend called me pathetic and said I needed to get a life after I said he shouldve asked my permission before hes attached that to our fence. Am I out of order for this ? I have had so many issues with him in the past doing things that effect me and my property without him saying that I dont want it to happen again..
FYI he has also put rat poisoning down the side of our fence which leads into my garden when I two children under 2 and one crawling.

Neighbour attaching things to our fence?
OP posts:
BrownTroutBluesAgain · 27/09/2025 19:28

purpleygrey · 27/09/2025 19:25

I think the washing like is the least of your worries.

the conservatory is bound to cause huge issues when selling.

I can’t believe your solicitor didn’t pick it up?

Solicitors don’t visit properties so unless they are asked / told of an issue they would never know

Thats on OP I’m afraid

purpleygrey · 27/09/2025 19:25

I think the washing like is the least of your worries.

the conservatory is bound to cause huge issues when selling.

I can’t believe your solicitor didn’t pick it up?

Iamgettingolderandgrumpier · 27/09/2025 19:25

Anonymous23458d · 27/09/2025 19:02

We are planning to move next year but im scared now we wont be able to sell the property from what everyone has said. Its a small mid terrace with 3 small bedrooms. Way too small for us now. I just hope we can get out and no we didnt get a discount. We bought it just after covid when there were bidding wars on every house..

If you are planning on moving, be careful. Do not start any disputes with neighbours as you will have to declare them and they can reduce valve of your house. (Sorry if this has already been mentioned.)

PastaAllaNorma · 27/09/2025 19:25

GiveDogBone · 27/09/2025 18:38

I could be completely wrong, but I’d always thought it wasn’t “your” fence. Yes, one house is responsible for maintaining it (as specified on the deeds) but either neighbour can attach things to it (provided they don’t damage it, ofc).

I mean I’ve put a trellis on both sides of my garden and one of those fences is not mine to maintain.

If there is an owner of the fence it is illegal of you to attach anything to it - or even to paint it - without the prior consent of the owner.

Sometimes there is no owner, it's a shared boundary. But if your neighbour owns one of the fences you are breaking the law by putting nailing a trellis to it (in England)

Longtimelurkerfinallyposts · 27/09/2025 19:16

If you plant things like real (English) ivy and bamboo, and even willow, right next to his conservatory, they'll probably help hasten its demise - and be a right headache for him in future, as they work their way into the brickwork.
The weight of his washing is likely to damage your fence panels, so for that reason he should be told to affix it to something else.

Nanny0gg · 27/09/2025 19:14

Anonymous23458d · 26/09/2025 15:48

And no its not a recent thing its been there maybe 8 years.

So you bought your house, knowing he'd stolen some of your land?

Really?

What did your solicitor say?

What on earth possessed you to buy it? You knew he'd be trouble

CommonAsMucklowe · 27/09/2025 19:07

Rat poison kills hedgehogs, what a wanker.

BrownTroutBluesAgain · 27/09/2025 19:06

BrownTroutBluesAgain · 27/09/2025 19:03

Agree for starters you could
Check and see if they had a party wall awards OP

Strike that if you plan to move do nothing to cause an argument

BrownTroutBluesAgain · 27/09/2025 19:05

Anonymous23458d · 27/09/2025 19:02

We are planning to move next year but im scared now we wont be able to sell the property from what everyone has said. Its a small mid terrace with 3 small bedrooms. Way too small for us now. I just hope we can get out and no we didnt get a discount. We bought it just after covid when there were bidding wars on every house..

Buy some pregrown hedging and plant along the border. Some come as high as 2 metres. If you put them in a raised bed you might be able to hide/ block out the conservator. At least from the ground

BrownTroutBluesAgain · 27/09/2025 19:03

TheatricalLife · 27/09/2025 18:38

That conservatory is an absolute shocker! I can't believe the previous owners just sat back and let it happen. I'd have some bamboo in pots across the length of that completely blocking the window. It will look so much better on your side.
I don't think it would be a waste of time to at least find out about the potential of claiming that land back. I would.

Agree for starters you could
Check and see if they had a party wall awards OP

Anonymous23458d · 27/09/2025 19:02

We are planning to move next year but im scared now we wont be able to sell the property from what everyone has said. Its a small mid terrace with 3 small bedrooms. Way too small for us now. I just hope we can get out and no we didnt get a discount. We bought it just after covid when there were bidding wars on every house..

OP posts:
BrownTroutBluesAgain · 27/09/2025 19:01

MotherMary14 · 27/09/2025 18:58

I'm shocked by how much the conservatory overhangs your boundary! It should've been picked up when you had a survey of the property done before you bought it – even a basic home buyer's one would've flagged it. If you plan to sell one day, you might find potential buyers are more bothered about it than you were.

But, no, they cannot attach anything without permission and the weight of wet washing will put a strain on your fence, which already looks a bit fragile! Is it resting against a supporting post? If it's not, you could ask him to move it so there's a bit more support behind it, for the sake of compromise.

If she makes the suggestion to move it they she becomes compliant when the fence is damaged by the post and washing.

Dont Don’t do that OP

BrownTroutBluesAgain · 27/09/2025 19:00

I wouldn’t have bought it without a boundary survey and that conservatory subsequently removed
Unfortunately any neighbour that steals land on a boundary is ‘that sort of neighbour’ and I wouldn’t want to live next to them

If you ever want to upgrade your fence I wouldn’t give them notice

In the grand scale of things attaching stuff to a fence is part of just having a neighbour and whilst you’re supposed to ask people don’t . I pick your battles with this lot and ultimately make plans to move ( but that’s because I couldn’t stand that conservatory )

MotherMary14 · 27/09/2025 18:58

I'm shocked by how much the conservatory overhangs your boundary! It should've been picked up when you had a survey of the property done before you bought it – even a basic home buyer's one would've flagged it. If you plan to sell one day, you might find potential buyers are more bothered about it than you were.

But, no, they cannot attach anything without permission and the weight of wet washing will put a strain on your fence, which already looks a bit fragile! Is it resting against a supporting post? If it's not, you could ask him to move it so there's a bit more support behind it, for the sake of compromise.

TheatricalLife · 27/09/2025 18:49

DownThePubWithStevieNicks · 27/09/2025 18:43

I’m sorry because I know this is unhelpful, but I cannot believe you bought a house when the sellers told you that they came home one day to discover the neighbour building on their land! Did they dismantle an existing fence to do that?!

Did you get a massive discount?

I know -I'm amazed the OP went through with the sale and the solicitor didn't make a big deal about it!

DownThePubWithStevieNicks · 27/09/2025 18:43

I’m sorry because I know this is unhelpful, but I cannot believe you bought a house when the sellers told you that they came home one day to discover the neighbour building on their land! Did they dismantle an existing fence to do that?!

Did you get a massive discount?

TheatricalLife · 27/09/2025 18:38

That conservatory is an absolute shocker! I can't believe the previous owners just sat back and let it happen. I'd have some bamboo in pots across the length of that completely blocking the window. It will look so much better on your side.
I don't think it would be a waste of time to at least find out about the potential of claiming that land back. I would.

GiveDogBone · 27/09/2025 18:38

I could be completely wrong, but I’d always thought it wasn’t “your” fence. Yes, one house is responsible for maintaining it (as specified on the deeds) but either neighbour can attach things to it (provided they don’t damage it, ofc).

I mean I’ve put a trellis on both sides of my garden and one of those fences is not mine to maintain.

LIZS · 27/09/2025 18:38

BallerinaRadio · 27/09/2025 18:31

And you didn't think to intervene at that point you let them built the whole conservatory?! 😵‍💫

If I understood correctly , op only bought the property a few years ago, so their solicitor should have picked it up during conveyancing.

BallerinaRadio · 27/09/2025 18:31

Anonymous23458d · 26/09/2025 15:47

@OhMyGiddyAnt The conservatory is over the boundary and built on our land. The original fence is the boundary. The window looks into our garden but it is frosted but we can still see them sat in there so we put that frame up and put the screen over it to hide it, no its not attached to their conservatory. The previous owners went out one day came back and they'd built a brick wall over our boundary which is literally one side to their conservatory.

And you didn't think to intervene at that point you let them built the whole conservatory?! 😵‍💫

LIZS · 27/09/2025 18:28

I doubt council will enforce on conservatory 8+ years on. Boundary issues are separate to planning and a civil matter.

PastaAllaNorma · 27/09/2025 18:16

I might be tempted to snip those zip ties he used to attach the tacky fake foliage stuff as well.

Trishyb10 · 27/09/2025 18:11

Get onto the council about the conservatory, he is provoking you and doing what he likes, he needs to be stopped x

Flossflower · 27/09/2025 18:10

My neighbour has a problem with the neighbour on the other side of her doing things like this. She frequently takes down her fence panels to paint them.

Bernardo1 · 27/09/2025 18:10

If fence comes down because of his action which you did not refuse/stop, insurance company unlikely to pay out.