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To be fed up of crappy dinners?

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WoIsMe · 26/09/2025 12:39

My DH likes to make dinner in the evening which should be great since I don’t have to cook, however the food is either poorly prepared or not big enough portions. The children and I are getting fed up. DH and I do low carb and intermittent fasting, we don’t eat dessert, and our children are both in puberty so they need more calories at the moment. DH and I only eat twice a day so we all need pretty big meals. So far this week we’ve had…

Monday: Chicken Caesar salad - actually very nice but mostly lettuce (no croutons for DH and I) so it wasn’t filling.
Tuesday: pork chop (seasoned with salt, pepper and garlic purée Hmm) with braised white cabbage. The pork chop was plain and tasteless; the cabbage was nice but I can’t eat half a plate of cabbage - it’s too much fibre.
Wednesday: steak tagliata - again very nice but it was just one small rump steak and cherry tomatoes so not very filling again.
Thursday: chicken tikka curry made with 900g chicken between four of us and no vegetables in the recipe so, again, a small portion.

I was triggered to make this post by finding out he’s bought a 500g pork fillet to make a stir fry tonight for all four of us. I’m sure there will be some veg in there but I’ve had scrambled eggs with cheese for brunch so there’s no way that will be enough food for a whole day. I don’t want to go on a diet but I don’t have much choice! I don’t mind cooking and I’ve suggested that we take turns but DH insists on doing it almost every day.

AIBU and I should be grateful that my DH wants to cook dinner every day?
AINBU because my children and I deserve enough food?

OP posts:
murasaki · 26/09/2025 12:45

One steak between how many, 4? That's crazy. He really needs to up the portion sizes.

takealettermsjones · 26/09/2025 12:44

500g pork for a stir fry for four (with vegetables and rice/noodles) sounds fine to me. And 900g chicken between four sounds like loads. You're getting half a pound of meat each!

But anyway, have you told him you'd like him to put more food out? What did he say? I don't see why it has to be a negotiation, just tell him - DH, make more food, or I'll make it myself!

Jellybunny56 · 26/09/2025 12:44

Surely this is easily solved with a quick chat, “Thanks for doing the cooking, could you just increase the portion sizes so that we are all satisfied after a meal please, whatever amount you were going to cook add 50%”.

I do most of the cooking for our house and am always happy for someone to point these things out. My husband has a much bigger appetite than me & he has previously said he could do with more for next time and I’ve never been offended, I’m glad he’s told me so I could then do that next time.