Teacher asked who chose the pink bottle....

@TheNewWasp That is an intense comment. I have a similar aged child and would never ever consider telling them that some bad men dress up as women to hurt women...seriously WTF!

Dressing up and make believe is fun for children, who cares if they are doing it based on their gender or based on what stories they like. My DS loves pink too, and he thinks sparkly things are wonderful. He also loves dinosaurs, Spiderman, sports, etc. These things just don't matter long term and frankly, don't matter to other little kids either. Its a new generation of kids and its nice that children are able to pick what they want and like without worrying about the opinions of others.

So if your son told you he was gay or (God forbid in your world) trans, would you reject him? Or love and support him unconditionally as a good parent should.

I hope if you do have a son that he has other strong role models in his life.

It sounds like you’re desperately trying to make them look and behave like girls? Was there gender disappointment? Of course boys can like pink, of course they can have long hair, of course they can dress as little red riding hood or Elsa, of course they can love Frozen but did all those things just happen naturally with zero input or encouragement from you or your DP?

FFS 🙄

When I was a very little kid I wanted to be Thomas the Tank Engine and insisted on being called Thomas. Lasted about four months. Hasn’t affected me at all but if I’d grown up trans my parents would have been fine with it. As they were decent people.

Let kids be kids, who says boys can’t wear pink? Let them express themselves and love them just as you are doing. Looks like you’re great parents and they’ll love you for it.

Perhaps because there are also, thankfully, great female role models and the characteristics that make a great role models – such as courage, kindness – are nothing whatsoever to do with sex. It's important to encourage children to focus on character, not base their interests, ethics and life choices on sex.

Why on earth would it matter in any way what colours a child wears or whether they dress up as male or female characters?!

As can some parents.

Because he's a boy so I prefer not to dress him like a pink, sparkly princess.

Let them wear whatever they want. I let my kids wear whatever they want. I also tell them never to comment on what other people wear and never to judge people by what they wear. And I model the same behaviour.

I ask again, in the hope that someone will answer it. If you have a problem with little boys idolising female characters, do you also have an issue with the reverse? I suspect not. It comes down to traditionally masculine things being okay, but traditionally feminine things not. In short, girls are rubbish. Can someone please explain this to me? Why is it okay for girls to like and dress up as nails characters but it’s not okay the other way around?

I think the teacher was quickly trying to discern whether
a) your twin boys sometimes choose clothing/accessories that are more feminine-coded in your society and culture and you as a parent support their choices
b) you actively encourage your sons to wear more feminine-coded clothes and pick them out for them

The first is a parenting choice within the spectrum of normal, the second would be a concern.

Odd behaviour I think. People will be talking and kids less likely to fit in which is important when u are young.
The left wing media are trying to convince this generation that every 2nd person is TLGBT+ but they aren't.
Looks like you are encouraging it.

Pink was originally a colour worn by men. I don’t know when that changed to be considered a girls’ colour, but I see no reason why colours should be considered to be the preserve of one sex or the other.

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I think it’s fine if they are choosing these things themselves, especially at that age.

My DD has dressed up as spiderman, Batman etc. has ‘boys’ water bottles, plays football and rugby, no one has ever said anything and I don’t think they would. I feel like people are more accepting of girls liking ‘boys’ things than boys liking ‘girls’ things which is wrong.

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This has been very eye opening vis a vis people’s complete lack of understanding around what gender critical means.

Again, not none of us. Some don’t. Plenty do. You do, I do, plenty of others on here do as well. And quite a few don’t.

No it’s not possible for them to change sex.
Yes if they want to wear pink / dresses let them.

It’s possible for them to change sex so why do we have to make sure they know that they can’t?

If they want to wear pink let them. If they want to wear dresses let them. If you try and repress things like this they’ll have issues later on. They may well rebel. Let them be they aren’t doing anyone any harm and if anyone has a problem with it that’s their look out.

Could it be that the teacher has already asked your children who chose the pink bottles and they said Mummy. The teacher then asked you herself to clarify. Presumably your children wouldn’t have specified Mummy chose them because pink was the cheapest. School do obviously keep an eye all kinds of things to build up a picture in case of any additional support needed or causes for concern. It could have been just a question from a place of interest or potentially wanting to ensure the children are happy with the choices of clothing etc.

Why?

The majority of young children, from what I’ve seen around me, love pretty sparkly things.

It seems the same for dinosaurs. There are 4 of us with girls age 2-3 who all love glitter and dinosaurs. I have to regularly get her “boys” clothes as they are the ones with dinosaurs on. Which she picks herself!

ETA
If it gets mentioned again I’d straight up ask “ would you ask me the same question if it was green and the outfits were male?”

This. It turns out none of you know what gender critical actually means. Explains a lot.