Why why why are they like this!!!

No!

That's would be it for me. Done and dusted.Gone!

I think he’s TOO comfortable with you - and that’s not attractive when it’s such a new relationship. He’s making no effort to appeal to you, being controlling and hugely inconsiderate.

I think you’ll naturally find you’re no longer as attracted to him after this behaviour. If so - don’t force it; it’s your instinct telling you he’s crossed a boundary.

Personally, I’d give yourself some space for a few days and see how you feel. If you want to continue things, I’d give him the chance and say to him you didn’t like his behaviour and see how he reacts. His reaction will tell you if there’s any hope or not.

However, if you feel you’d rather leave it (and I’d be firmly in this camp), then I wouldn’t feel you’d rather leave need to explain anything to him. It’s early days - just say it’s not working for you and walk away.

Absolutely fucking gross. Juvenile. And you’re still supposed to find him sexually attractive after that? Men like this are never good news. Get rid of him. Tell him why. Don’t listen to any excuses.

What an odd response to someone who was physically forced to do something they didn't want to do.

Ditch him

You're 37 ffs do you need this shit

My first thought was that he could have damaged the OP's neck.

this reminded me of the story I read https://www.google.com/url?sa=t&rct=j&q=&esrc=s&source=web&cd=&cad=rja&uact=8&ved=2ahUKEwi-r5aqufaPAxVHQkEAHfnsDr0QFnoECB8QAQ&url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.ladbible.com%2Fnews%2Fhealth%2Ftravel-influencer-seven-year-infection-ecoli-farting-face-588819-20250529&usg=AOvVaw3BugpHxSf11XKZ2ECiIQXS&opi=89978449

this is NOT normal male behaviour, i've not known a single man to do this. do not use the word 'they'

I would be so long gone. I’ve never had this in a relationship and it’s not normal. A Dutch oven, maybe, MAYBE, would be forgiveable if he farted and just pulled the cover up. It would be disgusting and immature still though.

But the holding your head and restraining you? Nope. I would have chucked him out so fast.

Would he find it equally hilarious if one of his manchild mates did that to him? He does not respect you one little bit. Maybe your friend and him should get together seeing as they both find it hilarious and amusing.

You must not have been here long!

My mother was/is still married with a horrible abusive mentally ill man. She never did anything to protect herself or her children. This is why I stayed unmarried for decade and a half, checking and combing potential partners with a veeeeeryyyy fine toothcomb and can assure you found someone who is all right

Oh my god. That's the perfect way to get pink eye.

these situations are real and these are signs of selfish, abusive men

My sister’s husband started their relationship doing stuff like this. Then he moved on to calling her fat in front of company, forcing her into ‘play fighting’ and bringing her ‘presents’ like a dead mouse in a sandwich bag when she was pregnant, with the constant refrain ‘it’s a JOKE, I’m JOKING’.

And that was just the stuff her Mum and sisters knew about.

She stayed with him and he sexually abused their young daughter. My sister blamed her and chose him over her child.

I know that they’re still together in their 70’s although I went NC with my sister because of him forty years ago.

That's disgusting. Im not precious about people farting around me, but forcing my head under the covers to smell it and holding me there for 10 seconds would have me seriously reconsidering the relationship. Fuck that.

Edit- actually no, I wouldnt reconsider the relationship, id end it.

He is cruel. This is not funny. It is abuse. Are you happy for things like this to escalate making your future very bleak?

Smells are particulate, so you were breathing in his poo. Nice. Add in the violence and the question is why haven’t you thrown him out already.

I will give you another example. Believe the fucking bastards the first time they show you something and run away my dear. I went out with a friend, here in the UK, she had this boyfriend. We were playing pool. She went to the bar and we were playing together, I scored and had another go, but he did not understand the game well. So he started arguing with me about the go and like seriously and when I bent down to do the go, he snatched the stick out of my hands violently.

she came back and I told her what happened, she shrugged her shoulders. A month later he threw her across the room

As others have said, it is the use of force that is a red flag for me. Get out whilst you can.

Oh my lord no thank you.

That’s revolting!! What an asshole. I’d be done with him.

That is ridiculous....why western men do this....I am EU and had a French boyfriend very humble looking and behaving kind. In our first holiday together and happening to be first intimate encounter, between sex, he put my hands under me and tried to hold me like that ....without any explanation etc. He was very skinny and not that strong, so I fought him off and really felt almost suffocating, I have very gentle lungs. Asked him what was that for and he laughed and said he was trying my character and apparently I am feisty woman and men prefer compliant women. The whole thing was bizarre. Since I was hosting him in my country, I glossed over it and gave the relationship a chance. Only to discover later he is the dick he showed himself to be. He did not dare do anything physically to me because he saw I am quite strong but he tried to suffocate me in other ways. RUN AWAY NOW

They’re not all like this. I’ve never had that happen to me!
Utterly grim. I’d even expect a 7yo to behave better. That would be the end of the relationship for me. No way would I want to have sex with that again.

He's really, really testing your boundaries here. He's trying to find out how disgusting and physically coercive he can be before you say anything.

If you wave this through as a misplaced 'joke', he will up the ante next time.

This is how abuse starts. It never looks like abuse in the beginning. It's only when you look back after years of it and can pinpoint the moment where he discovered how far he could push it and what he could get away with.