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Sexual talk on a first date

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Sunshine386 · 26/09/2025 08:20

Recently I went on a first date with a bloke from a paid dating app, both our profiles indicate we're looking for a long term relationship, in our 30s.

On the date he mentioned several times he is a "sexual person". When I asked if he does sport/goes to the gym he says no because he gets exercise though sex.

He didn't try anything with me, we just had a drink and food.

I am not a prude and think sex is important in a relationship but I found myself feeling uncomfortable with this line of talk on a first date, or generally at all before anything sexual has happened. What do you think?

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TwistedWonder · 26/09/2025 08:26

He’s telling you he’s after a shag - so many men in OLD claim to be looking for an LTR when all they really want is casual sex.

Chuck him back

UninitendedShark · 26/09/2025 08:26

When I was on dating apps (a good few years ago) it was my experience that the majority of men are just looking for sex no matter what their profile indicates. If a man is being this overt with sex talk right off the bat then I would very much assume that he’s just after getting laid . If he’s made you uncomfortable already, then he isn’t the one for you. Sorry you seem to have got a dud.

Rainbowqueeen · 26/09/2025 08:26

I wouldn’t see him again

neveradmit17 · 26/09/2025 08:24

Don't bother with a second date.

AutumnWreath · 26/09/2025 08:24

Gross & juvenile ( was he 15 ? ) first dates , don't have to become 2nd dates !

Screamingabdabz · 26/09/2025 08:24

I think you take it at face value. He’s telling you who he is. A sex person. That’s his whole persona - no depth, not romantic, his physical needs dictate his life. He made you uncomfortable on the first date so personally I’d block and run but I wonder why you even need to ask?

AbundanceofKatherines · 26/09/2025 08:23

Is this a joke thread or click bait? Ick, just no.