DH and Business Class Flights

No it doesn’t. It’s worth it to me to fly long haul in business because a. I’ve earned it, b. the state of my back means I’d be crippled for days and c. I prefer to circumnavigate the jet lag as much as possible. At 18, I couldn’t have given a flying fuck where I sat if someone was offering to pay for me to go on an international jolly, I’d probably have slept the whole way even getting elbowed and with kids wailing, and it certainly wouldn’t have entered my parent’s mind to spend thousands in case I’d be hurt they didn’t think I was “worth” it. LOL

If its "worth it" for DH to fly bc why isn't it "worth it" for his son?

Whichever way you argue it the logic applies to both, either its okay for both to go BC or ok for both to go economy.

You realise she most likely is also paying all the dss uni fees as well? They are minimum $20,000 a TERM in Australia! The waste of a space of a husband is paying for what 🤷‍♀️ snacks??!!! While his wife pays for EVERYTHING! Why should she pay $16,000++++ because there will be other expenses in the trip like food and shopping and outings and he clearly has other things he pays for instead of being an adult and paying for his own child!

you need to put your own $$$ in your own savings account!! He needs to learn how to live within his own means

Sorry don’t understand the question. Why what?

I understand that you feel the need to do the house up in some way and the money better spent in that way but id say that expieriences are worth thier weight in gold vs physical things. If you weren't going with your husband and you wanted to take his child with and you usually do fly buisness class it feels like you aren't being fair towards the child as you would have flown buisness class with him had you both flown together. So yes it does defeat the purpose of you not going but your husband may not be seeing it that way. Does he feel like the house improvements are as important to him than to you ?

@Setthemup

“DSS isn’t being made to feel like a 2nd class citizen, he currently drives an entry level VW (we pay for) versus our cars….should we give him the Range Rover?“

yes Op, you should swap with him. Kids come first. He didn’t ask to be born. Just hand it over to him already. Times are hard for young people these days.

I have done both. NEVER flying long haul economy again.

Bit of a drip feed. And it still depends on what his commitments are and if they benefit you.

An 18 yo likely doesn’t need the physical seat differences that comes with business class. It’s not about better food or pampering, it’s literally about not walking off the plane in so much pain that you take days to recover.

seating each adult family member in the cheapest seat that works for them makes sense.

You do realise she pays 80 percent of everything and he only contributed 20 percent. Her money, her choice.

Well...It's a nice problem for you to deal with.

As you get older flying is harder so it's understandable your DH wants BC for himself. You are being generous buying DSS a ticket anyway and no reason as a younger person why he can't fly economy. No reason why your DH can't go alone.

Wow so you don’t want to spend your money on flying over so he thinks “great she can spend her money on my son flying there instead”

He’s a Cf!

But why? The level of need and benefit is so much different...

As a one off?

And the next time they can send him in economy?

There is nothing like "one off" giving him BC now would create an expectation that this will continue.

Kirsty? 😂

For all those saying that they have to fly the same class, why do you think that?

Surely some luxuries should be earned by work and saved for when they really make a difference.

How many 18 year olds, given a choice of sitting with their dads in business class, or flying economy and being given a few hundred pounds spending money, would choose the former? I would wager not many.

@Setthemup - on this is probably going to sound really harsh but if you can’t afford to they should both travel economy. We have been in that position (we have 3 kids) and we flew economy. We only started flying business when we could afford to fly business for everyone. If you can’t afford 2 tickets both should fly economy

Meh. Treat dss. You can afford it. As a one off.

No wonder he wants to go business class, it’s mostly your money.

Do you have your own kids? I’d be tightening up my will.

I wouldn't have let my family spend all that money on buying me a business class ticket at 18!! I would have been mortified. If a healthy 18 year old can't travel economy then who can?

Your plan sounds sensible.

British Airways recently gave me a free upgrade to Business on a 14-hour overnigjt flight. I actually slept, which I never do for more than a few minutes in economy, even with a leg room seat. I reckon it reduced my jet lag by at least 3 days, so it was hardly an issue.

As DSS presumably isn’t paying for his ticket, but DH will want him at the family event, I think it’s reasonable that they both fly economy this time.

So what are these oh so important bits around the house and why does you wanting to do them outrank your husband wanting to buy his son a business class ticket?