Please or to access all these features

AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

You need a good F***ing

256 replies

Searchingforananswer2023 · 25/09/2025 21:47

Background: Work full time 60+ hours a week and care for mother who is terminally ill. I have no existence other than work and care. No family support - totally isolated with parent.

I wanted to go to the cinema this week end, for various reasons relating to caring for her I cannot go. I commented that it was ridiculous that I have no time for myself. I find the last few years of care, cooking, cleaning, working mentally draining. I expressed the need for stimulation outside of what is becoming imprisonment. Her response 'you need a good f*ing.'

I am lost for words. I have had to walk away and come to bed.

Can someone please console me. I am trapped in this situation.

OP posts:
Searchingforananswer2023 · 25/09/2025 21:52

tartyflette · 25/09/2025 21:50

There's some weird stuff on here tonight.

Your perspective, sadly this is my life

OP posts:
Searchingforananswer2023 · 25/09/2025 21:52

applesandpinkoranges · 25/09/2025 21:50

Is this out of character for her? Could it be caused by her illness?

Not caused by illness, she repeated it. She knows exactly what she is saying.

OP posts:
Searchingforananswer2023 · 25/09/2025 21:51

wizzywig · 25/09/2025 21:48

Sorry your mum said this?

Yes

OP posts:
tartyflette · 25/09/2025 21:50

There's some weird stuff on here tonight.

applesandpinkoranges · 25/09/2025 21:50

Is this out of character for her? Could it be caused by her illness?

wizzywig · 25/09/2025 21:48

Sorry your mum said this?