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To think it's a bit harsh to say people who've never worked shouldn't get benefits?

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DonaldBiden · 25/09/2025 20:03

Was reading another thread where many were saying if someone has never worked they shouldn't get any benefits but couldn't comment because it had reached 1000 comments.

I know this might be an unpopular opinion but I don't agree because that would include young mums who can't work because they have a baby to look after. Most of them will get a job when their child is a little older. Why are they any different from older mums who've fallen on hard times and need help?

And I know people will say it's because they've never worked and haven't proven themselves unlazy etc and could be on the dole forever but why should they have their lives ruined just because of something people think MIGHT happen.

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BlueandWhitePorcelain · 09/10/2025 15:11

Alphabetmuddle · 08/10/2025 15:19

Threads like this always fill up with the "I am really deserving because of XYZ" whilst there are deserving cases, there are too many that are borderline.

The country needs to take a firm line irrespective of genuine or fake sob stories and remove benefits.

Thus the smaller number of genuine cases, will seek help from charities, friends. The less deserving will have to learn to make their own way in the world (like the rest of us).

See:

https://www.disabilityrightsuk.org/news/%E2%80%9Cunder-strain%E2%80%9D-%E2%80%93-real-causes-rise-working-age-disability-and-incapacity-benefits-spending

The government tried to cut down on work benefits; and benefits in the UK have been lower than other countries in the OECD for most of 40 years (UK spending was 1.3% of GDP compared to an average of 1.6% in the others), so more people claimed health benefits instead! Not a productive strategy!

The problem is we have an aging population, suffering more chronic conditions after COVID (who would have thought it, after the NHS shut them out) and NHS waiting lists?

Cutting benefits to the disabled without tackling why they are disabled, just pushes more people into poverty! 4 out of 10 PIP claimants are already in the bottom fifth of the income distribution.

The government needs to look at education, employers, the welfare benefits system and the NHS to tackle the underlying causes of disability. Employers could do more to keep the disabled in work.

Unclaimed benefits stand at £24.1 billion, so rather than bleating on about weeding out the scroungers, posters should be grateful all those people aren’t claiming the £24.1 billion they are entitled to:

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/c5yv0e9yjexo

A self-portrait family shot of Andrea Paterson alongside her mum, Sally, and dad, Ian.

Millions missing out on benefits and government support, analysis suggests

A report from Policy in Practice says awareness, complexity and stigma are the main barriers stopping people claiming.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/c5yv0e9yjexo

hindsightisuseful · 08/10/2025 19:01

SomethingInnocuousForNow · 08/10/2025 15:44

Ohhhh, like the Victorian times with workhouses! Awesome idea, love it, things were great back in the day!

yes not like workhouses

more like 80s

DonaldBiden · 08/10/2025 18:38

“Risen since 2020” considering we couldn’t go outside in 2020 that doesn’t surprise me. They are still way lower than 2010. In fact for the first time ever more over 40s have children than under 20s

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Fearfulsaints · 08/10/2025 17:49

JorisBohnsonn · 08/10/2025 15:23

Which is why I think the decrease should be gradual. To gradually phase in private charity.

The thing about charity is sometimes 'sexy' causes get more funding than boring or ugly ones, even if their need is greater or more beneficial to the country as a whole.

There is a well known wildlife charity that set up a fund for various animals. The tiger one was incredibly popular and at one point they couldn't spend all the money raised and it was locked in for that animal. Yet other equally important animals werent able to access the money Its the same with things like medical research. Some diseases are fashionable to fund.

Thats why the government really should be more effective at distribusting funds as they dont have to give regard to issues like children are cute v schizophrenia isnt

Shadowfacs · 08/10/2025 15:58

DonaldBiden · 08/10/2025 14:14

Teenage pregnancies are at a record low and most are 18-19. Underage pregnancies are at an extreme record low. So why do some people act like it’s an epidemic spiralling out of control (not the person I’m quoting I mean stuff I read elsewhere)

like you say though too many taking no responsibility and most of them had children as grown adults so why should they get more help than young mums who mostly (99%)go on to get jobs

Not according to this - https://www.local.gov.uk/about/news/teen-pregnancies-rise-first-time-14-years-prompting-lga-call-renewed-action

SomethingInnocuousForNow · 08/10/2025 15:44

Alphabetmuddle · 08/10/2025 15:19

Threads like this always fill up with the "I am really deserving because of XYZ" whilst there are deserving cases, there are too many that are borderline.

The country needs to take a firm line irrespective of genuine or fake sob stories and remove benefits.

Thus the smaller number of genuine cases, will seek help from charities, friends. The less deserving will have to learn to make their own way in the world (like the rest of us).

Ohhhh, like the Victorian times with workhouses! Awesome idea, love it, things were great back in the day!

JorisBohnsonn · 08/10/2025 15:23

Alphabetmuddle · 08/10/2025 15:19

Threads like this always fill up with the "I am really deserving because of XYZ" whilst there are deserving cases, there are too many that are borderline.

The country needs to take a firm line irrespective of genuine or fake sob stories and remove benefits.

Thus the smaller number of genuine cases, will seek help from charities, friends. The less deserving will have to learn to make their own way in the world (like the rest of us).

Which is why I think the decrease should be gradual. To gradually phase in private charity.

Alphabetmuddle · 08/10/2025 15:19

Threads like this always fill up with the "I am really deserving because of XYZ" whilst there are deserving cases, there are too many that are borderline.

The country needs to take a firm line irrespective of genuine or fake sob stories and remove benefits.

Thus the smaller number of genuine cases, will seek help from charities, friends. The less deserving will have to learn to make their own way in the world (like the rest of us).

JorisBohnsonn · 08/10/2025 14:52

Gingernessy · 08/10/2025 12:32

Too many taking no responsibility for their own lives is sickening.
Expecting the rest of us to slog away all week whilst struggling ourselves to provide them with an income is not on.

This is why I've said that welfare for people physically capable for work should be temporary and limited.

DonaldBiden · 08/10/2025 14:14

Gingernessy · 08/10/2025 12:32

Too many taking no responsibility for their own lives is sickening.
Expecting the rest of us to slog away all week whilst struggling ourselves to provide them with an income is not on.

Teenage pregnancies are at a record low and most are 18-19. Underage pregnancies are at an extreme record low. So why do some people act like it’s an epidemic spiralling out of control (not the person I’m quoting I mean stuff I read elsewhere)

like you say though too many taking no responsibility and most of them had children as grown adults so why should they get more help than young mums who mostly (99%)go on to get jobs

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Gingernessy · 08/10/2025 12:32

SomethingInnocuousForNow · 08/10/2025 12:18

Sickening

Too many taking no responsibility for their own lives is sickening.
Expecting the rest of us to slog away all week whilst struggling ourselves to provide them with an income is not on.

SomethingInnocuousForNow · 08/10/2025 12:18

Gingernessy · 08/10/2025 07:24

Legally you only have to have 2 weeks off after giving birth (4 if you work in a factory) so they could get a job fairly quickly although jobs available may be limited and they would need childcare if family can't help
We could allow them to claim benefits and then when the child reaches the UC age that they need to get a job they also get a bill that repays the benefits they've had - maybe split these charges with the father.
I'd do the same with those granted asylum here too.

Sickening

JorisBohnsonn · 08/10/2025 10:01

BlueandWhitePorcelain · 08/10/2025 09:51

Yes - but when? Wait two years for surgery, for a condition that causes you so much pain, you can’t sleep at night - and maybe can’t walk, if it’s a knee or hip replacement?

Eight years on average to get endometriosis diagnosed, when you are rolling around in agony during every period, etc!

Not conducive to work!

Fair point. The NHS is not fit for purpose

BlueandWhitePorcelain · 08/10/2025 09:51

JorisBohnsonn · 08/10/2025 09:10

The NHS is there. No financial barrier.

Yes - but when? Wait two years for surgery, for a condition that causes you so much pain, you can’t sleep at night - and maybe can’t walk, if it’s a knee or hip replacement?

Eight years on average to get endometriosis diagnosed, when you are rolling around in agony during every period, etc!

Not conducive to work!

JorisBohnsonn · 08/10/2025 09:10

Pickledpoppetpickle · 07/10/2025 22:52

Jesus wept. Think a bit. Starter for 10, people unable to get medical help until desperately ill at which po8nt, damage done is serious or permanent.

The NHS is there. No financial barrier.

Gingernessy · 08/10/2025 07:24

DonaldBiden · 07/10/2025 15:33

The threads about 16 year olds who’ve just had babies, you can’t work 99% of jobs under 16 in the uk and no one with a newborn works anyway

Legally you only have to have 2 weeks off after giving birth (4 if you work in a factory) so they could get a job fairly quickly although jobs available may be limited and they would need childcare if family can't help
We could allow them to claim benefits and then when the child reaches the UC age that they need to get a job they also get a bill that repays the benefits they've had - maybe split these charges with the father.
I'd do the same with those granted asylum here too.

Pickledpoppetpickle · 07/10/2025 22:52

JorisBohnsonn · 07/10/2025 22:01

If you're unable to work, fair enough there should be support. But why would there be a mass of people getting chronic illnesses? That's not good for society.

As for aging - that's why people have pensions?

Jesus wept. Think a bit. Starter for 10, people unable to get medical help until desperately ill at which po8nt, damage done is serious or permanent.

Plastictreees · 07/10/2025 22:06

Maybe you should research it.

JorisBohnsonn · 07/10/2025 22:01

Plastictreees · 07/10/2025 21:51

Those who are disabled, have chronic long term health conditions and/or mental health conditions are not a tiny fraction of the population, no. We are living in an ageing population and therefore there are more people living with chronic ill health. Benefits are not always a ‘temporary stop gap’ as many people are unable to work.

If you're unable to work, fair enough there should be support. But why would there be a mass of people getting chronic illnesses? That's not good for society.

As for aging - that's why people have pensions?

Plastictreees · 07/10/2025 21:51

Those who are disabled, have chronic long term health conditions and/or mental health conditions are not a tiny fraction of the population, no. We are living in an ageing population and therefore there are more people living with chronic ill health. Benefits are not always a ‘temporary stop gap’ as many people are unable to work.

JorisBohnsonn · 07/10/2025 21:35

Greenwitchart · 07/10/2025 20:22

There are people who simply will never be able to get regular paid employment.

For example some people with disabilities and/or long term health conditions.

If you are someone with profound physical and mental health issues who needs help from a carer to look after yourself then it is likely you will never be able to work.

I don't want to see anyone in this country starve or end up on the streets so I strongly believe that everyone is entitled to enough money to meet their basic needs and keep their dignity.

The ''benefit scroungers' rhetoric in this country is frankly appalling.

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I understand if someone is totally disabled to the point they cannot work. Hopefully this should be a small fraction of the total population, because otherwise what's going wrong?

I think every person who is physically healthy should take charge of their own destiny and make their own future. If you're physically healthy and have two arms and two legs, benefits should only be temporary stopgap if you need serious support. Then a plan should be made to be self reliant.

Plastictreees · 07/10/2025 20:27

@Greenwitchart I completely agree. It is always easier to punch down.

Greenwitchart · 07/10/2025 20:22

There are people who simply will never be able to get regular paid employment.

For example some people with disabilities and/or long term health conditions.

If you are someone with profound physical and mental health issues who needs help from a carer to look after yourself then it is likely you will never be able to work.

I don't want to see anyone in this country starve or end up on the streets so I strongly believe that everyone is entitled to enough money to meet their basic needs and keep their dignity.

The ''benefit scroungers' rhetoric in this country is frankly appalling.

SomethingInnocuousForNow · 07/10/2025 20:20

Greenmouldycheese · 07/10/2025 20:07

I would be okay with them being referred to social services due their mother being unfit. We seriously need food stamps here in the UK because living on benefits shouldn't be a lifestyle choice. Are you speaking from experience here? Why would you want to live on benefits?

I don't want to live on benefits, so I don't. I mean, that's one of my points, no one wants to live on benefits. Almost anyone intelligent enough to understand consequences would not choose a half life on benefits over a full time job.

But, you know what you're saying actually means in practice? Those innocent little children would be deprived further and further, go with less and less high quality food, fewer toys, dirtier clothes, uncomfortable cold housing until a threshold was met and social services stepped in. Then, if no financial aid is given, and the mother is deemed "unfit" they'd be put in our care system at over £400 a week each, deprived of mother they actually loved (and who could have parented "good enough" with money) completely traumatised, put at huge, enormous risks when they're teenagers (as many children in care are) and have their lives obliterated. Plus it would all cost the taxpayer more money than the original benefits.

Greenmouldycheese · 07/10/2025 20:07

SomethingInnocuousForNow · 07/10/2025 19:43

Ok, say she has another pregnancy and "refuses" to work so the state refuses her and her now 2 children financial support... Would you be OK with those children getting poorer and poorer and everything that comes with that?

I would be okay with them being referred to social services due their mother being unfit. We seriously need food stamps here in the UK because living on benefits shouldn't be a lifestyle choice. Are you speaking from experience here? Why would you want to live on benefits?