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When friends make your birthday party about them?

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Thecuddlymeoow · 25/09/2025 17:23

Idk if this falls on this but i said yes for my friend to bring her best friend guy because not gonna lie hes pretty funny guy even tough it only said «invites only». Her friend dosen’t live in the same state so she said it be a suprise for her partner that her guy bestfriend will be joining my birtdhay party that her partner don’t know. (they are besties now). My tought was like um ok sure? But im not doing anything extra because this is my birtdhay celebration not about her and her guy friend even if hes a lovley guy. Should i ask her about what surprise? Since i really don’t know what she ment with that.

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Sera1989 · 25/09/2025 17:55

Whichone2024 · 25/09/2025 17:43

i think if I’m picking this up correctly, the surprise is that her partner doesn’t know the guy friend is coming so it will be a surprise to see him. Which doesn’t mean it’s a surprise party for him

Yes this is what I understood too. That the “bestie” will be there so that’s a nice surprise

Hankunamatata · 25/09/2025 17:51

So you mate wants to bring her best male friend to your party?

Arrrrrrragghhh · 25/09/2025 17:45

Again, what?

Are you worried that the two men involved will make your birthday about their meet up?
Surely they will just be pleased to see each other and have a catch up . Would your best friends bloke be that much of a main player at your party?
How many people are going in total?

Whichone2024 · 25/09/2025 17:43

i think if I’m picking this up correctly, the surprise is that her partner doesn’t know the guy friend is coming so it will be a surprise to see him. Which doesn’t mean it’s a surprise party for him

Bladderpool · 25/09/2025 17:43

That isn’t what your badly spelled, punctuation free, nonsensical text speak OP says. If you’re genuinely looking for advice and opinions, please ensure your post makes sense first.

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Thecuddlymeoow · 25/09/2025 17:37

Nourishinghandcream · 25/09/2025 17:36

It's not a case of not liking a thread, more a case of not understanding what on earth it is all about.😖

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@Nourishinghandcream If my friend is trying to make my celebration into a surprise party for her partner

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Nourishinghandcream · 25/09/2025 17:36

Thecuddlymeoow · 25/09/2025 17:32

@aperollingintotheweekend I was asking a question? Isn’t that allowed?

@ilovepixie and you don’t need to answer if you don’t like the thread is it that hard?

It's not a case of not liking a thread, more a case of not understanding what on earth it is all about.😖

blankcanvas3 · 25/09/2025 17:35

This makes zero sense

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Thecuddlymeoow · 25/09/2025 17:32

@aperollingintotheweekend I was asking a question? Isn’t that allowed?

@ilovepixie and you don’t need to answer if you don’t like the thread is it that hard?

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ilovepixie · 25/09/2025 17:30

Christ on a bike! What’s wrong with mumsnet these days. So many illiterate posters!

aperollingintotheweekend · 25/09/2025 17:26

Are you 12?

Bladderpool · 25/09/2025 17:25

What?