To say school went too far suspending him for a vape

Disruptive in class? I can imagine lol then found with a vape he sounds like such an angel.

No way this is a real post.

You seem rather invested in promoting and defending vapes which makes me wonder if you work for BAT.

Don't forget the government used to send cigarettes (and chocolate) to our soldiers on the front line as a moral booster but now we know better. We already know that inhaling any kind of chemical (that isn't medical, eg asthma inhaler) will never be good for our lungs long term. Vapes are better than cigarettes, but that doesn't make them good and that is something the government and scientists are already aware of. Unfortunately PR from the manufacturers is blurring that.

So how is a dr friend going to see the difference in the dangers of smoking and vaping. Why haven't they seen it already. With 20 years of history the science is still showing vaping is better then smoking. All these kids vaping would of smoked instead.

So?

Tell me what these "plenty" are.

Vapes have been around for 20 years already

Are there no automatic consequences for him at home? Losing his vape doesn’t count as he wasn’t supposed to have it anyway!

The point of him being suspended is that you’re supposed to have consequences at home that he will have to deal with while he’s not at school.

3 days suspension is a lot, not sure how missing 3 days of school work is the answer. Would be better to have them in school on those days and for them to spend part of their day researching and preparing a presentation on dangers of vaping. As you say, sitting at home for 3 days teaches teens nothing.

I recently saw a doctor and he said in the future we will be able to see how 2 years of vaping is worse than 10 years of smoking. It causes real lasting damage. The throw away line about all the kids doing it makes me think you dont actually think its that bad.

You need to be heavy handed now. No xbox especially when suspended and catch up on work. He can also do the gardening. No going out after school when his mates are out. He needs to learn his place in the pack and so far it sounds like you have shown weak leadership and he isnt respecting you because of it. You got to be strong

"I’m wondering how the teacher managed to see it if “it was only in his pocket”."

I'm wondering that too. There is probably more to this

Smoking would have been punished by detention rather than suspension when I worked in schools but if you do the crime you do the time and he has to accept that.

You should take the X box away while he's suspended.

I'm with the school. Make sure he understands how serious it is. In decades time we'll know how stupid we are walking into this health issue .

My daughter certainly wouldn't be spending 3 days on her xbox if she was caught vaping! How about talk to your son about why it's wrong instead of blaming the school who, quite rightly, had to suspend him

I’m wondering how the teacher managed to see it if “it was only in his pocket”.

I’m also wondering what money a 14 year old manages to buy vapes with.

Finally I’m also wondering why a suspended 14 year old would be spending 3 days away from school playing on XBox when he could be catching up on the work he is behind on.

I have so many questions 😬😳🥴

@Abdican did the letter say the suspension was just for vaping or for other behaviour too? You say he is cheeky, could he have been a bit mouthy when caught with vape?

Mine wouldn't because I wfh and would have taken all devices off her and she would be sat doing schoolwork from 9am-5pm on her own in silence at the desk next to me

She's a SAHM

Sounds absolutely fair to me
It appears your son might have problems with discipline and following rules.
If the way you sound in your post is how to run things with your son then good luck and all the best for the future!
Youre teaching him to rebel against rules!!

'First time' & my little darling....

Grow up, the little shit will have been told and thinks he can get away with anything as mummsy is daft enough to believe it.

No, not "everyone" did. Most of your friends at your school, sure.

You took a vape off him and he got another one? Doesn't matter if it was from a friend. It doesn't matter that it was in his pocket and he wasn't actually vaping.

It's illegal at his age, and he needs to know that neither you nor the school will tolerate it.

I'd be furious if my gds' school only gave detention for vapes. It's an absolute 'No.' They're illegal for 14-year-olds, they're far more addictive than cigarettes, and they're dangerous.

He's disobeyed school rules and he's disrespected your rules. Three days' suspension seems the least they can do.

They already have plenty 🙂

Xbox or not, I know many teenagers would be delighted with that outcome.

Nope, school are correct - they're sticking to tjeir policy, which is a sensible one.
As for sitting on his XBOX, isn't it up to you/his other parent to stop him doing that?