To say school went too far suspending him for a vape

From your language, it seems you are looking in the wrong direction for your frame of reference for poor behaviour - looking for the worst forms of classroom behaviour or vaping habits, saying your DS isn't as bad as that, so that's OK.

Look towards the kids who don't ever carry vapes, or have never disrupted the class with their behaviour as your models - there are plenty of them.

I wouldn't let him on his Xbox of he'd been suspended.

I can’t understand where they get the money for it as none of them are working.. so makes it even worse that the parents fund it!!!! Unbelievable

Because you want your kids to make these mistakes why they are young and you can protect them. If your to strict and don't let them do anything they will move out at 18 and go wild. I remember going out clubbing with friends in my late teens and you could tell the ones who had strict parents they got themselves into all sorts of trouble couldn't handle their drink and then didn't dare ring their parents for help.

This post sounds really fake to me.

Vaping is chavvy.

Indulging your teenager is also chavvy.

He can only sit on his xbox playing games for 3 days if you allow it's so good that you have taken it away now. I do remember kids being suspended for having cigarettes with them when we were young and the legal age for smoking then was 16.
Unfortunately, because there does appear to be a rise in parents not doing their job of parenting their children, schools are having to intervene more and so the punishments become harsher for lesser infringements. The school has to get the message across somehow - it is not their job to parent our children.

This is why

vaping is bad for kids and young people, as their brains and lungs are still developing and are more vulnerable to the effects of nicotine and other chemicals in vape aerosol. Vaping can harm brain development, potentially leading to issues with attention, mood, and impulse control, and it increases the risk of future nicotine addiction and possibly other drug use. Nicotine is highly addictive, causing cravings and other symptoms like anxiety and difficulty concentrating, which can negatively impact a child's education and well-being.

“Vaping and a bit cheeky at school” - why am I not surprised by your response? Always making excuses and minimising his behaviour won’t do him any favours in the long run, he’ll just end up a disrespectful, trouble making adult.

This is absolutely spot on! 👆🏼

My DC is in year 7 just started a few weeks ago and he told me he saw older boys vaping in the school toilets, understandably he didn’t want to make eye contact let alone say anything

Vaping is rife amongst teenagers- go to any town centre on a weekend or after school!

School has got to be strict with this and I’m not surprised they’re making an example of your child

Meant to say yobs. You are being unreasonable on the poll

Where to even start..

A 14 year old does not need to vape, regardless of everyone else doing it. That doesn’t mean he has to!

School policy is in place for a reason.

If you’re going to let him sit at home on his Xbox when he’s been suspended then wow, great parenting 🙃

Its honestly no wonder kids are like they are nowadays.

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 so school suspend him and you reward him by letting him play on his games,usually suspension they send home the work and he does it at home,as you said he's already behind would you not get work from the school..sorry but you are not helping him and he will get worse

School only doing their job. Too many jobs with parental attitudes like yours. Bring common sense to this country

U need to support the school he is your son and they are there to educate him !
Be a good parent and say no your not having vape u don’t care if other kids have them !! You’re setting strong boundaries !
Teaching kids is hard and they have to face consequences! Take his Xbox away then he knows u mean business sorry if this is harsh but I get sick of hearing this crap 💩!

@Abdican my love, you worded it fine, and you know you did.

This is the second of your threads I have seen and I can see a theme developing.

In the same way as the issues with your two year old, this is where you have to be the parent, not the friend. Do what's right, back up the school fully and get on with some proper parenting.

I will email them to see if they can send stuff home cos otherwise he will just sit there bored

😆Ignorant as well as entitled.

It's your responsibility as a parent to look after him. If he's bored, I'm sure you can find him something pedagogically worthwhile to do? Choose? Duolingo? Go for a run? You'd be a fool to let home have any tech time during his suspension.

Feckless.

Why would you allow him to be on his X Box for 3 days?

He is already behind, most likely because you don't value education or good behaviour, so really should be doing catch up work.

Why is it a moral panic to not want your kids to be around a harmful and illegal practice?

I can see why he’s… a bit cheeky.

Loads of other kids may be vaping, and loads of other kids will be very ill as a result. Smoking kills. Ban the xbox for the duration of his suspension. As for the algebra, take a look at youtube, there are loads of free videos there explaining maths.

If he did it before and you “told him off” he really isn’t listening to you is he.
I know he’ll probably be a pain if you take the Xbox away but take it anyway- get him to do some school work at home and let him know that you mean business and that you support school
Please don’t say he’s a good kid and it doesn’t seem fair

Don’t wait for the school to send work, just get on with it!
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Absolutely 👏👏

Suspension is entirely OTT in my view. If they'd suspended all the kids with cigarettes on them at my secondary school they'd have lost half the school!

But just leaving to three days on his XBox - definitely not! I'm assuming he'll be the only one in the house which makes enforcement of how he spends his day harder, but he should be up out of bed at usual school time and doing something useful with his day. Have you sat down with him and made it clear that this is not funtime and planned what he will be doing?