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5 days in the office - rant!!!

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DonnyDoris · 25/09/2025 09:22

My company mandated 5 days in the office a couple of months ago, which in principle I have no issues with. However, my commute is just over an hour on motorways that have long term roadworks, so massively tedious and today I have no meetings so absolutely no reason to be here other than presenteeism. Could have got so much more done and also all my housework if I could've worked from home 😖Just needed to get that off my chest!!!!

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usedtobeaylis · 25/09/2025 12:42

People really do get snippy at people who value flexibility. I will never understand the 'employer as king' mentality.

MuffinsAreJustCakesAtBreakfast · 25/09/2025 12:42

Bambamhoohoo · 25/09/2025 12:34

Do you really think a) that’s 80% of sickness and b) it’s common to take sick leave when you’re fit to work but contagious?

calling other people hard of thinking 😂

Can't comment on your office culture but in a couple of places I've worked (not all of them, mind) it was socially unacceptable to come into the office when contagious.

Bambamhoohoo · 25/09/2025 12:40

TennisLady · 25/09/2025 12:36

But “managing distractions” takes time away from the job which doesn’t happen at home…

Of course it doesn’t. You tell the people to leave you alone, then go to HR or line management if they refuse to. It’s not a constant task. We’re not talking about regular “good morning tennis lady, fancy a cuppa?” Chats, we are talking about distractions so prevalent they are making people less productive. That’s something the employee needs to raise and leave to be dealt with. Not pretend they have to work from home because there is no other option.

Carrotcake55 · 25/09/2025 12:39

Although I can't relate as I'm in one of those jobs that can't be done from home (and I need the socialising aspect of work 😂), I totally get why it's annoying.
Especially when you know you can get the same (or more) done from home but will now have to spend over two hours a day in traffic.

SwingTheMonkey · 25/09/2025 12:38

Joelz · 25/09/2025 12:34

Of course it's in an office @SwingTheMonkey. In fact it's in several offices in 2 cities. It's an enormous operation - and all of those jobs not that long ago would have been here.

I am simply pointing out if employers increasingly want their employees in the office and they do not/will not then don't be surprised if the jobs disappear. It really isn't rocket science.

You’d have to be pretty stupid to think that your job is safe because you go to the office. No company is going to say ‘we could save millions by moving this dept to India, but we won’t because we wouldn’t see Sandra’s smiley face in the office every day’.

In the same way that the team in India would be gone if they could find anyone even cheaper. It’s got sod all to do with whether you go into the office or not. If you can be replaced with cheaper labour, you will be.

Jeregrettetous · 25/09/2025 12:37

ttcbabyno2ber · 25/09/2025 10:04

Mental that you don’t know anyone who works no more than 3 days in an office job??

No it isn’t. I don’t either!

Bambamhoohoo · 25/09/2025 12:37

5128gap · 25/09/2025 12:30

No, it means that there are illnesses, health conditions snd disabilities that people can manage at home but not in the office or on public transport.
An upset stomach where you'd not want to risk it, something contagious that you'd spread round your colleagues if you came in, a back or joint problem that doesn't stop you using a lap top but restricts your mobility.
Health is not a binary too ill to work or well enough. Otherwise they'd be no such thing as phased returns and reasonable adjustments, would there?

80% is a very high proportion of the sickness though. In most companies the bulk of short term sickness is seasonal virus’, D&V etc. yes they are contagious, but many of those people should also be resting and not working to aid full recovery.

it’s also possible people are “half working” sick or not bothering to record sick days.

TennisLady · 25/09/2025 12:36

Bambamhoohoo · 25/09/2025 11:52

Because you need to manage your own work which includes managing any distractions. Unless someone is very junior I would expect them to be able to deal with this and not tell me it makes them less productive and i have to stick it

But “managing distractions” takes time away from the job which doesn’t happen at home…

ukathleticscoach · 25/09/2025 12:36

'Find another job if you’re not happy'

You really are a genius.

Work on world peace next!

SwingTheMonkey · 25/09/2025 12:35

Fairyliz · 25/09/2025 12:33

This.
Going into work is not just about attending meetings; it’s interacting with colleagues passing on information, helping younger colleagues. Over the years there is lots of information that you absorb without necessarily needing it immediately, but is useful further along the line.
If everyone was so productive wfh surely companies would get everyone to do it and save money on extortionate office rentals?

Lots do. My husband works for a company who don’t even have an office - anywhere. Their employees are spread across the globe. They manage to work together quite well without being in an office together.

Joelz · 25/09/2025 12:34

Of course it's in an office @SwingTheMonkey. In fact it's in several offices in 2 cities. It's an enormous operation - and all of those jobs not that long ago would have been here.

I am simply pointing out if employers increasingly want their employees in the office and they do not/will not then don't be surprised if the jobs disappear. It really isn't rocket science.

Bambamhoohoo · 25/09/2025 12:34

MuffinsAreJustCakesAtBreakfast · 25/09/2025 12:17

Because if you're sick and contagious but fit enough to work you can stay at home and continue to work.

Some people in this thread are hard of thinking 🤨

Do you really think a) that’s 80% of sickness and b) it’s common to take sick leave when you’re fit to work but contagious?

calling other people hard of thinking 😂

Fairyliz · 25/09/2025 12:33

TheCurious0range · 25/09/2025 09:59

If you can do your housework while you're working you're not giving your job 100% of your attention while your employer is paying you to do so. This is why employers are moving away from remote working

This.
Going into work is not just about attending meetings; it’s interacting with colleagues passing on information, helping younger colleagues. Over the years there is lots of information that you absorb without necessarily needing it immediately, but is useful further along the line.
If everyone was so productive wfh surely companies would get everyone to do it and save money on extortionate office rentals?

5128gap · 25/09/2025 12:30

Bambamhoohoo · 25/09/2025 12:12

See I find that really odd. Why would wfh reduce your sickness by 80%? It just indicates that now your employees wfh when they’re sick which is shit outcome.

No, it means that there are illnesses, health conditions snd disabilities that people can manage at home but not in the office or on public transport.
An upset stomach where you'd not want to risk it, something contagious that you'd spread round your colleagues if you came in, a back or joint problem that doesn't stop you using a lap top but restricts your mobility.
Health is not a binary too ill to work or well enough. Otherwise they'd be no such thing as phased returns and reasonable adjustments, would there?

DaffodilValley · 25/09/2025 12:28

InMyHealthyEra · 25/09/2025 09:29

Find another job if you’re not happy

I’m sure the OP can just click her fingers and do that! 🙄

Why do people on here say such ridiculous things as if it’s easy to get another job on a whim, let alone a fully home based one?

SwingTheMonkey · 25/09/2025 12:26

Joelz · 25/09/2025 12:22

WFH is an interesting topic with pro's and con's for both view points.

By WFH, the occupant is essentially proving to the employer that it is a role that can done anywhere else in the world - in cheaper locations, and the large employers are doing just that as contracts come to an end/ roles are restructured. Not all WFH jobs can be offshored, there may be regulatory or other reasons why they cannot. However a great many can and it is certainly happening. My husbands company has a whole division in India doing quite specialised work that used to be done here - and it is growing.

Presumably a team of people in India working in an… office? Any company can offshore work if it saves them money, regardless of whether their UK team slavishly shlep to the office 5 days a week and never so much as make themselves a glass of water all day, or work from home several days a week.

AgnesMcDoo · 25/09/2025 12:26

Such a shame your employer is a dinosaur.

I wouldn't work anywhere that mandated that and would be looking for another job.

How pointless.

Joelz · 25/09/2025 12:22

WFH is an interesting topic with pro's and con's for both view points.

By WFH, the occupant is essentially proving to the employer that it is a role that can done anywhere else in the world - in cheaper locations, and the large employers are doing just that as contracts come to an end/ roles are restructured. Not all WFH jobs can be offshored, there may be regulatory or other reasons why they cannot. However a great many can and it is certainly happening. My husbands company has a whole division in India doing quite specialised work that used to be done here - and it is growing.

leaves2345 · 25/09/2025 12:19

BriefEncountersOfTheThirdKind · 25/09/2025 09:49

"And all my housework"
Might just explain why they want you in the office

I do this in the time i would otherwise spend commuting.

Waffleswithhothoney · 25/09/2025 12:17

On my days WFH I take many calls from clients answering questions that I don’t need to be sat at a desk for. So I’ll wander around tidying (putting shoes into the basket in the cloakroom, hanging up laundry, plumping pillows etc) nice silent jobs that don’t take any brain power. The client is happy to get their answers and I have some movement which is better than sitting at a desk for 8hrs. No body loses in that situation. At work, I’ll be sat a my desk whilst doing the same thing. Simple multitasking. I keep noisy or more complex tasks for lunchtime.

MuffinsAreJustCakesAtBreakfast · 25/09/2025 12:17

Bambamhoohoo · 25/09/2025 12:12

See I find that really odd. Why would wfh reduce your sickness by 80%? It just indicates that now your employees wfh when they’re sick which is shit outcome.

Because if you're sick and contagious but fit enough to work you can stay at home and continue to work.

Some people in this thread are hard of thinking 🤨

Fupoffyagrasshole · 25/09/2025 12:15

fuck that id be gone looking for a new job asap

Bambamhoohoo · 25/09/2025 12:12

5128gap · 25/09/2025 12:04

Since we have had hybrid working our sickness rates have dropped by over 80%.
We are able to employ excellent people, who due to disabilities, health conditions and care responsibilities, without WFH would have been unable to work, thereby possibly adding to the 'benefit burden'.
Our staff appreciate the better work life balance and show this with loyalty and commitment. We have saved costs through smaller office space which means we are able to offer better rewards. Productivity is up, due to falling sickness.
On a wider level, fewer people travelling is good for us all.
Any individual under performance due to not working well at home is easily addressed by capable managers who monitor outcomes rather than bums on seats, and take action if performance falls below required levels.
Other than pandering to the pettiness of those who if they can't WFH don't want anyone else to, I can't see a single reason to discontinue it.

See I find that really odd. Why would wfh reduce your sickness by 80%? It just indicates that now your employees wfh when they’re sick which is shit outcome.

MuffinsAreJustCakesAtBreakfast · 25/09/2025 12:10

JHound · 25/09/2025 11:48

It takes me 2 mins to sort laundry and 1 min to put it in the washing machine and switch on. More than enough time while a kettle boils.

When I worked in a skyscraper it took longer than that for a lift to arrive coming back from getting coffee!

Idontpostmuch · 25/09/2025 12:06

Seems unreasonable to expect you in every day. But you can't change it. Hope you find another job soon.