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How can this be allowed?

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BadAmbassador · 25/09/2025 00:12

This is my very first AIBU!

I’m afraid I’m turning into THAT neighbour - help 🤣

I live in a quiet residential street, houses with families, houses on my side are quite close to the road ie not far back at the end of a long drive.

11.15 this evening, really loud engine/mechanical noise started up outside my house, across the street. The kind of noise that would wake you up if you were asleep.

Looking outside - there’s a big van with the side door open, engine running, interior bright light on, man inside doing something to a tyre on a very noisy piece of equipment.

Evidently he’s repairing someone’s car tyre in situ (as posed to them taking it to a garage), so an emergency call out service for people who don’t have a spare tyre.

I went outside to see what was happening because it was so loud. Gave man in van a very hard stare which he ignored for quite a while 🤣 He carried on another 10 mins or so, eventually seemed to realise I was still there and turned off the noisy machine - he’d left it going while he was fiddling with the tyre. Engine still running of course. So 15 minutes of very loud, intrusive noise - like having roadworks outside your house at night when you’re in bed.

Is that acceptable? It’s not a busy high street with loads of traffic noise, it’s not a main road or a motorway. I know you can’t help where you break down but surely there are bye laws about loud noise after 11pm and this is just really inconsiderate?

it wasn’t a lone woman driver being helped btw it was a man. He stood and had a loud chat with the mechanic in the middle of the road before driving off - cheers for that, now know exactly where the mechanic is based 🤣

Is it me? Why is it me? 😭

I saw curtains twitching but I was the only one who went out - if he hadn’t finished the job when he did I would have gone over to say something. And I’m small, shy and non confrontational but this was Very Annoying!

However I HAVE reached the age/life stage of not giving a fuck 🤣

I dunno, what’s normal behaviour any more? One person’s convenience for a street full of people having a broken night’s sleep? Woken babies?

Storm in a tea-cup? Shut up and put up? Angry mob with pitch forks?

Help me Mumsnet! 🤣

OP posts:
Negroany · 25/09/2025 00:50

BadAmbassador · 25/09/2025 00:42

🤣 Oh yes of course stared - sorry.

It was dark, I was on the other side of the road - I think I looked like someone coming out to see what the noise was 🤷🏻‍♀️

And I already know they didn’t give a fuck, thanks anyway.

Yes, sorry, that was a typo for "stared".

Negroany · 25/09/2025 00:49

Darragon · 25/09/2025 00:29

Well given that there are noise laws in the UK and restrictions on how late noisy work can be done, no, the OP wasn’t being unreasonable. The flat tyre should have waited until morning or quietly switched out for a spare like every other flat tyre in the UK at night. Or are you going to weave us a tale that the poor neighbour was an on call surgeon with no spare tyre and access to a taxi?!

My car doesn't have a spare, so not "every other car".

BadAmbassador · 25/09/2025 00:48

TheatricalLife · 25/09/2025 00:30

I'd have just let it go as a one off emergency situation. I can't imagine it's going to be something that happens often -if ever again -at this hour of the night.

Yes very true! I wasn’t sure what I was looking at for a while.

I mean I was being very light hearted about saying something to him (also just venting on here) - I would have probably asked very nicely how much longer he was going to be. I’ve made myself sound like a shouty, nosey troublemaker - nothing could be further from the truth 🤣 I’m actually very nice!

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BadAmbassador · 25/09/2025 00:42

SereneCoralDog · 25/09/2025 00:35

Clearly the poster meant 'stared'.

I agree with them - standing and silently staring at them for quite a while? You probably looked like a loon and I bet they still didn't give a fuck.

You're already 'that' person op.

🤣 Oh yes of course stared - sorry.

It was dark, I was on the other side of the road - I think I looked like someone coming out to see what the noise was 🤷🏻‍♀️

And I already know they didn’t give a fuck, thanks anyway.

OP posts:
SereneCoralDog · 25/09/2025 00:35

BadAmbassador · 25/09/2025 00:31

@Negroany Started? I didn’t start anything - I looked and he ignored me. I think that’s acceptable?

Edited

Clearly the poster meant 'stared'.

I agree with them - standing and silently staring at them for quite a while? You probably looked like a loon and I bet they still didn't give a fuck.

You're already 'that' person op.

JazzHandsFeet · 25/09/2025 00:34

I called out an emergency tyre service recently, I had a full flat with two kids in the car and no spare. Thankfully it was not nighttime or a residential area but if it was then I suppose I’d be this person, potentially. I’d be embarrassed to be making that noise but wouldn’t have had other other options.

BadAmbassador · 25/09/2025 00:31

@Negroany Started? I didn’t start anything - I looked and he ignored me. I think that’s acceptable?

OP posts:
BadAmbassador · 25/09/2025 00:30

NothingLeftToInheritDarlings · 25/09/2025 00:15

Utterly unacceptable - YANBU! I'd have been livid!

Thank you for understanding!

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TheatricalLife · 25/09/2025 00:30

I'd have just let it go as a one off emergency situation. I can't imagine it's going to be something that happens often -if ever again -at this hour of the night.

Darragon · 25/09/2025 00:29

Arlanymor · 25/09/2025 00:20

Someone needed an emergency tyre repair - I doubt they did it to piss you off. An emergency means it needs to happen now, regardless of the time of day or night. Why would you give someone delivering a service a Paddington Bear stare when they were literally doing what they were paid for? No one is allowed to have emergencies late at night?

Well given that there are noise laws in the UK and restrictions on how late noisy work can be done, no, the OP wasn’t being unreasonable. The flat tyre should have waited until morning or quietly switched out for a spare like every other flat tyre in the UK at night. Or are you going to weave us a tale that the poor neighbour was an on call surgeon with no spare tyre and access to a taxi?!

Negroany · 25/09/2025 00:28

I can't believe you went out and just started at someone for over ten minutes. That's insane behaviour.

It was a one off, these things happen, not even very late, so really not a problem.

BadAmbassador · 25/09/2025 00:28

Ok majority suggesting I am unreasonable, fair enough!

I’m not a driver so don’t find myself in this situation, and wasn’t aware of this service.

Is it an actual emergency? Fair enough if that’s how people view it - I hadn’t come across this before.

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CallMeFlo · 25/09/2025 00:25

Im quite sure your neighbour didnt choose to have a puncture at night to annoy the neighbours.

Youre too late you ARE that neighbour. Going outside to give the repair man the evil eye was un necessary

jbm16 · 25/09/2025 00:24

Slightly annoying, but wasn't that late and sounds like an emergency and a one off, not sure it's that big a deal.

Arlanymor · 25/09/2025 00:20

Someone needed an emergency tyre repair - I doubt they did it to piss you off. An emergency means it needs to happen now, regardless of the time of day or night. Why would you give someone delivering a service a Paddington Bear stare when they were literally doing what they were paid for? No one is allowed to have emergencies late at night?

NothingLeftToInheritDarlings · 25/09/2025 00:15

Utterly unacceptable - YANBU! I'd have been livid!