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How can this be allowed?

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BadAmbassador · 25/09/2025 00:12

This is my very first AIBU!

I’m afraid I’m turning into THAT neighbour - help 🤣

I live in a quiet residential street, houses with families, houses on my side are quite close to the road ie not far back at the end of a long drive.

11.15 this evening, really loud engine/mechanical noise started up outside my house, across the street. The kind of noise that would wake you up if you were asleep.

Looking outside - there’s a big van with the side door open, engine running, interior bright light on, man inside doing something to a tyre on a very noisy piece of equipment.

Evidently he’s repairing someone’s car tyre in situ (as posed to them taking it to a garage), so an emergency call out service for people who don’t have a spare tyre.

I went outside to see what was happening because it was so loud. Gave man in van a very hard stare which he ignored for quite a while 🤣 He carried on another 10 mins or so, eventually seemed to realise I was still there and turned off the noisy machine - he’d left it going while he was fiddling with the tyre. Engine still running of course. So 15 minutes of very loud, intrusive noise - like having roadworks outside your house at night when you’re in bed.

Is that acceptable? It’s not a busy high street with loads of traffic noise, it’s not a main road or a motorway. I know you can’t help where you break down but surely there are bye laws about loud noise after 11pm and this is just really inconsiderate?

it wasn’t a lone woman driver being helped btw it was a man. He stood and had a loud chat with the mechanic in the middle of the road before driving off - cheers for that, now know exactly where the mechanic is based 🤣

Is it me? Why is it me? 😭

I saw curtains twitching but I was the only one who went out - if he hadn’t finished the job when he did I would have gone over to say something. And I’m small, shy and non confrontational but this was Very Annoying!

However I HAVE reached the age/life stage of not giving a fuck 🤣

I dunno, what’s normal behaviour any more? One person’s convenience for a street full of people having a broken night’s sleep? Woken babies?

Storm in a tea-cup? Shut up and put up? Angry mob with pitch forks?

Help me Mumsnet! 🤣

OP posts:
TheNightingalesStarling · 25/09/2025 07:37

Runnersandtoms · 25/09/2025 07:27

Also you seem to be suggesting they should have taken the car to a garage instead of fixing it where it was..... a tow truck would cost a hell of a lot more than a guy with an electric pump on a van. Plus garages are closed at night so not sure how you think taking the car to a garage would have helped the poor guy.

Not to mention... tow trucks are themselves extremely noisy!

TheHillIsMine · 25/09/2025 07:34

BadAmbassador · 25/09/2025 00:28

Ok majority suggesting I am unreasonable, fair enough!

I’m not a driver so don’t find myself in this situation, and wasn’t aware of this service.

Is it an actual emergency? Fair enough if that’s how people view it - I hadn’t come across this before.

Surely you're not daft enough to not know that a flat tyre is an emergency? In so much as it needs fixing otherwise the driver is going nowhere?🙄

Whats with all the 😂emojis? Own your comments, don't try and make yourself out to be funny, you mean what you say so don't try and down okay your annoyance.

Bambamhoohoo · 25/09/2025 07:33

CurlewKate · 25/09/2025 07:30

Yep- obviously they could get a 50 quid taxi to work in the morning and another home in the evening to spare you a noisy 10 minutes.

Also they could be going anywhere. I’m driving 200 miles for work tomorrow morning 😭 some people think everyone’s life is like theirs

thepurplepenguin · 25/09/2025 07:30

The AA recovered a large boat to our quiet (very inland) cul de sac at 2am once. It took them two hours with lights flashing, engines on, and all the noise that taking a boat off a recovery vehicle takes. The boat then sat opposite our house for six months until it was removed by the council.

Consider yourself lucky!

CurlewKate · 25/09/2025 07:30

MidnightMeltdown · 25/09/2025 01:00

Presumably they could get a taxi, which would be the more polite thing to do.

It’s not an ambulance. It doesn’t need to be fixed right away.

Yep- obviously they could get a 50 quid taxi to work in the morning and another home in the evening to spare you a noisy 10 minutes.

TallulahLikesHoola · 25/09/2025 07:29

Pineconesandpetals · 25/09/2025 07:16

It was a one off and it didn’t wake you. So yes, YABU. I have hardly any neighbours. One however has a son who has just turned 18. He occasionally (maybe once every 3 months) comes home in the early hours, obviously steaming, judging by the awful singing and noisy falling down. That does wake me but it just makes me smile - oh to be 18 again!

Absolutely, and he will totally be convinced that he was ever so quiet! 🥴🥴😆

Runnersandtoms · 25/09/2025 07:27

Also you seem to be suggesting they should have taken the car to a garage instead of fixing it where it was..... a tow truck would cost a hell of a lot more than a guy with an electric pump on a van. Plus garages are closed at night so not sure how you think taking the car to a garage would have helped the poor guy.

TallulahLikesHoola · 25/09/2025 07:27

ARichtGoodDram · 25/09/2025 04:29

Presumably they could get a taxi, which would be the more polite thing to do.

Presumably you can both easily get a taxi and easily afford a taxi... not always the case.

This, live in a small village with no local taxi. Youngest is not a very well child and in and 13 2/3 night admissions in last year including recent sepsis, was a 2 hr wait last time we had to wait for an ambulance, so I we now won't wait, it's an anxiety thing i know, but I can't relax unless I know my car is absolutely ready to go always. And like pp above, nope, no spare in car.

youalright · 25/09/2025 07:26

InMyOpenOnion · 25/09/2025 07:25

To me, this is why most neighbours spend the majority of the time being considerate to each other. There might be the odd one off that calls for a bit of understanding in an emergency situation. 11pm isn't all that late, and it's a one off so just move on. It would be a different story if they made a habit of disturbing people in the night.

I don't think it was a neighbour just someone broke down in the street

InMyOpenOnion · 25/09/2025 07:25

To me, this is why most neighbours spend the majority of the time being considerate to each other. There might be the odd one off that calls for a bit of understanding in an emergency situation. 11pm isn't all that late, and it's a one off so just move on. It would be a different story if they made a habit of disturbing people in the night.

earphoneson · 25/09/2025 07:25

An emergency is an emergency.

Do not move to somewhere like Germany though - machines are on till really late on longer days. Workmen don't stop working at 4pm there, would you believe it.

Runnersandtoms · 25/09/2025 07:23

Hardly any modern cars have a spare tyre, and a large proportion of drivers, including me, wouldn't know how to change it if it did. Of course getting someone out to fix it was necessary so the guy could get home. He probably called for assistance from a breakdown service several hours earlier but a man being broken down on a residential street would be very low priority so he could have been waiting for 6 hours! As pp said this incident was definitely much more annoying for him than for you.

Wadadli · 25/09/2025 07:23

BadAmbassador · 25/09/2025 00:12

This is my very first AIBU!

I’m afraid I’m turning into THAT neighbour - help 🤣

I live in a quiet residential street, houses with families, houses on my side are quite close to the road ie not far back at the end of a long drive.

11.15 this evening, really loud engine/mechanical noise started up outside my house, across the street. The kind of noise that would wake you up if you were asleep.

Looking outside - there’s a big van with the side door open, engine running, interior bright light on, man inside doing something to a tyre on a very noisy piece of equipment.

Evidently he’s repairing someone’s car tyre in situ (as posed to them taking it to a garage), so an emergency call out service for people who don’t have a spare tyre.

I went outside to see what was happening because it was so loud. Gave man in van a very hard stare which he ignored for quite a while 🤣 He carried on another 10 mins or so, eventually seemed to realise I was still there and turned off the noisy machine - he’d left it going while he was fiddling with the tyre. Engine still running of course. So 15 minutes of very loud, intrusive noise - like having roadworks outside your house at night when you’re in bed.

Is that acceptable? It’s not a busy high street with loads of traffic noise, it’s not a main road or a motorway. I know you can’t help where you break down but surely there are bye laws about loud noise after 11pm and this is just really inconsiderate?

it wasn’t a lone woman driver being helped btw it was a man. He stood and had a loud chat with the mechanic in the middle of the road before driving off - cheers for that, now know exactly where the mechanic is based 🤣

Is it me? Why is it me? 😭

I saw curtains twitching but I was the only one who went out - if he hadn’t finished the job when he did I would have gone over to say something. And I’m small, shy and non confrontational but this was Very Annoying!

However I HAVE reached the age/life stage of not giving a fuck 🤣

I dunno, what’s normal behaviour any more? One person’s convenience for a street full of people having a broken night’s sleep? Woken babies?

Storm in a tea-cup? Shut up and put up? Angry mob with pitch forks?

Help me Mumsnet! 🤣

Are you Mrs Paddington “”Hard Stare” Brown? 🤣

TheExcitersblowingupmymind · 25/09/2025 07:19

MsClancy · 25/09/2025 07:16

Annoying yes, but you definitely are being unreasonable. Giving him a “hard stare” for 10 minutes! OMG, the curtain twitchers you refer to were watching YOU OP. They were saying “Omg, she’s still there, staring “. That would have been pretty entertaining.

Yip be a case of , come here see the nut from no9 staring at the repair bloke.

MsClancy · 25/09/2025 07:16

Annoying yes, but you definitely are being unreasonable. Giving him a “hard stare” for 10 minutes! OMG, the curtain twitchers you refer to were watching YOU OP. They were saying “Omg, she’s still there, staring “. That would have been pretty entertaining.

Pineconesandpetals · 25/09/2025 07:16

It was a one off and it didn’t wake you. So yes, YABU. I have hardly any neighbours. One however has a son who has just turned 18. He occasionally (maybe once every 3 months) comes home in the early hours, obviously steaming, judging by the awful singing and noisy falling down. That does wake me but it just makes me smile - oh to be 18 again!

Bambamhoohoo · 25/09/2025 07:08

Darragon · 25/09/2025 00:29

Well given that there are noise laws in the UK and restrictions on how late noisy work can be done, no, the OP wasn’t being unreasonable. The flat tyre should have waited until morning or quietly switched out for a spare like every other flat tyre in the UK at night. Or are you going to weave us a tale that the poor neighbour was an on call surgeon with no spare tyre and access to a taxi?!

“Well given that there are noise laws in the UK and restrictions on how late noisy work can be done, no, the OP wasn’t being unreasonable”

it always makes me laugh a bit when people say this. What difference does it make if there are noise laws? Laws just mean you can be prosecuted. Noise laws are civil law. They obviously don’t stop anyone making noise in the moment😂

of course, should the OP be minded she could complain to the council today but we all know that will be futile.

minisoksmakehardwork · 25/09/2025 07:07

It sounds like the man whose tyre was being repaired was not a neighbour, unless I’ve misunderstood when you said ‘he’ drove off.

so, as a one off Yabu. Bloke broke down. Might have been driving 100 miles home or to work at that time for all I know.

if the repair man is a neighbour and people are driving to him for late night repairs Yanbu.

either way, at that time of night, I would have expected him to turn off machinery when not in use. DH and I both get up about half 4/5 for work weekdays and would not appreciate a prolonged noise for no good reason.

Bambamhoohoo · 25/09/2025 07:04

It’s just a one off, and they likely need the car the next day.
annoying but no worse than other one offs

i can’t change a tyre and wouldn’t learn just to keep the peace at 11pm so a spare tyre isn’t useful to everyone!

Zonder · 25/09/2025 07:01

BadAmbassador · 25/09/2025 00:28

Ok majority suggesting I am unreasonable, fair enough!

I’m not a driver so don’t find myself in this situation, and wasn’t aware of this service.

Is it an actual emergency? Fair enough if that’s how people view it - I hadn’t come across this before.

Did the car owner immediately drive off somewhere? If so it could possibly have been an emergency but if they all went to bed and will drive later today then no, not an emergency.

youalright · 25/09/2025 07:01

Yeah yabu he broke down what did you expect him to do sleep in his car all night until you woke up before it could be fixed. Im sure it was a lot more annoying for him then it was for you. I remember breaking down once and the people in the street couldn't of been nicer they brought me drinks and offered for me to use their toilet it was just so nice to have the kindness of strangers about when something crappy happens.

PersephonePomegranate · 25/09/2025 06:58

Men need to get home (or wherever they're going) too, not just lone women.

Sometimes these things happen, its unlikely to happen again, is it? Im sure the man didnt want the agrro either! The recovery service man should have been more considerate of cutting down unneccessary noise levels where he could, but having said that, on a silent street at night, noise can travel and seem louder because everything is so quiet.

Coconutter24 · 25/09/2025 06:57

Yes it would be annoying but I can only assume it was an emergency to do it at that time. I think YABU to go out there for 10 minutes to stare at them. Surely you’d of been more comfortable sat in your own home?

Pricelessadvice · 25/09/2025 06:55

A one off thing? Thats just life isn’t it.

TeenagersAngst · 25/09/2025 06:54

What does ‘as posed’ mean?