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To think middle class people are the most insecure?

84 replies

OneCheeryGreenHiker · 24/09/2025 22:00

The poor don’t have time for pretence, the rich don’t need to prove anything but the middle class seem permanently anxious about schools, cars, kitchens, holidays… AIBU to think middle class life is just competitive insecurity dressed up as respectability?

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Shadowfacs · 24/09/2025 22:06

How do you define a "Middle Class" person?

And while you are at it, can you define a "working person", as Sir Keir needs some help in this area....?

OMFGSOB · 24/09/2025 22:06

(although not about cars, kitchens or holidays)

ApricotCheesecake · 24/09/2025 22:05

I am middle class and not anxious at all.

NoisyLittleOtter · 24/09/2025 22:05

OneCheeryGreenHiker · 24/09/2025 22:00

The poor don’t have time for pretence, the rich don’t need to prove anything but the middle class seem permanently anxious about schools, cars, kitchens, holidays… AIBU to think middle class life is just competitive insecurity dressed up as respectability?

What do you mean by middle classes? None of the people I know that I’d consider to be middle class have ‘time for pretence’ either, as they’re all working in high pressure professional careers (surgeons, bankers etc) while also bringing up families. Who are all these middle class people with loads of time on their hands?

DryIce · 24/09/2025 22:05

Doesn't anxiety transcend class boundaries? I feel like I know anxious people from all walks of life.

And what do you mean - be anxious about? I do enjoy planning holidays and am renovating my kitchen, so yes you could probably accurately describe my current interests as pedestrian and unoriginal, but I don't feel in anxious or insecure about them?

OMFGSOB · 24/09/2025 22:05

I am middle class and insecure if that helps? 🙋‍♀️

FuzzyWolf · 24/09/2025 22:03

YABU. Perhaps you are projecting your insecurities onto others who don’t have them.

Simplestars · 24/09/2025 22:02

Such a generalisation.

MidnightPatrol · 24/09/2025 22:01

Have you considered that it is possibly you who are a bit insecure?