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Devastated: boy keeps trying to touch DD's private parts

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DevastatedMama · 24/09/2025 19:35

My DD started Reception this year. She absolutely loves school and was so excited to start. She's been so happy there and thriving already, and I've been so relieved and proud.
Fast forward to today, and while chatting about what new friends she's made, she mentioned this boy is constantly chasing her at play time and tries and touch her private parts, even putting his hands down her pants. She's told him no, but he doesn't stop. I called the school straight away, and they'll talk to the boy and his parents, and will talk to the class about private parts, boundaries etc. starting tomorrow.

I am absolutely devastated though, thinking that for the past few days, that's what has been happening to her while I think she's safe at school, and now the idea of sending her back tomorrow and for years to come makes me feel sick to my core. The most dramatic part of me wants to instantly homeschool her (I know it wouldn't work for me or for her though) or to demand that this boy is put in another class (although as this happens mainly at break time, I'm not sure that'd make a difference).

What can I do to make sure this doesn't happen, ever again? Can I ask the teachers to keep an eye always, and keep him away from her at all times? I know this probably isn't possibel though. Anyone has been through this?
I genuinely feel physically sick and also devastated as she really loves school and no2 has to endure this physically harassment. I'm gutted!

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Mrseasy · 24/09/2025 20:26

so good you’re into this now OP! I’d be on the barricades with this. Absolutely unacceptable. But I assume that the school’s leadership team will take this very seriously. The boy needs to be suspended until this has been worked out

Nearly50omg · 24/09/2025 20:04

Your daughter has been sexually assaulted by this boy. I’d be going into school in the morning and making that clear to them and asking that safeguarding is escalated immediately and the parents of that boy do not bring him into school until this is investigated fully!!

Comedycook · 24/09/2025 19:58

If it was me, I'd go into the school tomorrow and tell them everything and not send my DC in until they told me how they planned on keeping her safe.

YelloDaisy · 24/09/2025 19:56

Can she wear some tight stretch shorts under her dress for a while in case it isn’t resolved.

AltitudeCheck · 24/09/2025 19:54

As hard as it is, try not to let her see how upset you are in case she feels the her that telling you has made you sad and she feels like she should keep quiet in future to protect you.

Ohthatsabitshit · 24/09/2025 19:53

You ask them how they are going to keep her safe and make sure they do.

Lifebeganat50 · 24/09/2025 19:51

Ask the school exactly. How they’ll keep,your daughter safe

DuckbilledSplatterPuff · 24/09/2025 19:48

Put everything that happens in writing to the school, including your understanding of any conversation

itsgettingweird · 24/09/2025 19:43

I completely understand how you feel.

But be proud of yourself for raising a daughter who stood and said no firmly to the boy - you’ve done a good job and she’s clearly a bright girls with good boundaries.

The sad reality of life is that you cant stop the bad - you can only do what you’ve done and teach how to not accept it.

OddsReally · 24/09/2025 19:42

This is the statutory guidance that schools and colleges in England must follow.

It will help you to know what the school must do.

Part 5 - Child on Child Sexual Violence and Sexual Harrassment is the relevant section.
https://assets.publishing.service.gov.uk/media/68add931969253904d155860/Keeping_children_safe_in_education_from_1_September_2025.pdf

https://assets.publishing.service.gov.uk/media/68add931969253904d155860/Keeping_children_safe_in_education_from_1_September_2025.pdf

Fitzcarraldo353 · 24/09/2025 19:37

Is be talking to the safeguarding lead at the school. It's a safeguarding issue for your DD and I'd want to know how they're protecting her but it's also a massive safeguarding responsibility flag for the boy. The school can't and won't tell you what they do in terms of the boy but I'd want to make sure the safeguarding lead is aware of it.

Thehop · 24/09/2025 19:37

You need to speak to the DSL this is a huge concern. Where has he learned this behaviour???

ask them how they will safeguard your daughter and protect her in future and if you're not happy don't send her this is awful.

wizzywig · 24/09/2025 19:36

Completely understand how you feel op.