Really embarrassing poo question

I used to have this problem all the time until I started on a regime of fibre. Yes, we all know we should consume plenty of fruit and veg but I have had to put extra effort in. Bran flakes, psyllium husks, on top of the fruit/veg. Since then, clean as a whistle 😉.

Oh wow, I'll try the leaning back when going to the toilet! I've taken Coton-A for a few years which keeps me regular without the urgency to go as is the case with many laxatives.

@soupyspoon "lean back " Yes, that's what I have to do !!
So glad it's not just me.
Which means I'm only really comfortable doing this at home and a small selection of known venues.
I thought leaning forward was for weeing though.

https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/diseases/17415-rectocele

Mine was seen on a colonoscopy and the consultant said that for formal diagnosis there is quite a complicated process which puts people off, namely having to poo on camera or something and when most people hear that they're happy to understand that they 'probably' have this and therefore live with it. I dont know what the surgery is, I didnt want to hear even more

So I have one, only 'probably' have one, I realise now what the issue is, having to lean back on the toilet rather than lean forward like you're supposed to. Magnesium and this different position has helped enormously.

Thank you. I would be very interested to hear from anyone who has had surgery for rectocele?

Precisely! I often spend ages pushing my anus back in, wiping etc, and then I can have some leakage afterwards. I hate having to go to the toilet when out and about.

You could use baby lotion - after all, it's what we used on babies' bottoms.

For wiping for people who leak I'd recommend using toilet paper moistened with lotion from a pump dispenser bottle.
I'm lucky because we have dermol in the house, prescribed for partners excema but I'm sure there are other options.

@Ihateboris that sounds awful I'm so sorry. The NHS do offer surgery for rectocles, long wait I expect so the sooner you get on the list the better.

Yes, your suspicions are correct.🙂

Yes and in fact I suspect if you’re suffering from this you spend infinitely more time on personal hygiene than people that don’t! To the point it’s painful.

its nothing to do with personal hygiene.

Exactly this.

Exactly this. People commenting all through this thread about bidents and basins and showers and baths and hygiene havent got a clue about this issue.

Its an internal issue, its not about cleaning yourself properly. Its about stool formation and evacuation. Usually caused by rectocile (got told off on another thread about spelling this wrong and still cant spell it), constipation, diet and digestion issues.

its nothing to do with personal hygiene.

I don’t think a bidet is the issue, it’s not that she’s (apologies for speaking for you OP if incorrect) not cleaning herself thoroughly, it’s that it’s not there to be cleaned at the time. I suspect she could have a full shower but 30 minutes later the problem would be there, it’s basically slowly appearing for a short while afterward.

We are Italians and have a bidet in our bathroom i couldn't be without it

Just use toilet paper and wet a couple of sheets a bit before use. There's usually a washbasin handy.

I use wet wipes, usually 3 or 4, until there is nothing showing on the wipe. I wish someone would invent wet toilet paper. I know it would dry up on a normal roll, but it could be dispensed from a sealed box.

I used these in the Middle East and after use it's turned off and 'holstered' before you stand up and get dressed. How could it end up in the toilet water? It doesn't have a life of its own.

I use a lota I got from Amazon. Sometimes you could wipe all day, but a good slosh of water will do the trick.

I think building regulations stipulate the rules over water pipes and the type of fittings that can be used. Anyone working in related trades should know what they are doing regardless of any registration etc. I worked for a DIY chain a few years ago when staff used to get a bit of training on advising DIYers what they can and cannot do. Even DIYers should do research on things they are not qualified or trained in. A big problem with the Internet is people can buy things not normally available in the UK and not subject to our safety standards.

@SprayBottleandTP as far as I know plumbers working with water pipes only in the UK are not regulated. No licence.

Gosh I thought I was the only one suffering until I’ve read this thread! I’d say it started about 3 years ago for me, and I’m so embarrassed when I put my underwear in the washing basket at the end of each day - folding it so no-one else sees the unpleasantness 😟Doesn’t matter how much loo roll I use, or how much Wype I use, there is still a residue afterwards. It really gets me down. I’m not sur3 what the answer is, but strang3vthough it sounds, at least I know it’s not just me who’s going through this 😌

Same here. Skin tags and piles. I get up early and trained my body in to going first thing and then have a very good shower!