Really embarrassing poo question

"Nonsense. I have one."

Guess there's plenty of people who have scant regard for water regulations meant for the benefit of all...

But in that form it is illegal. Look up WRAS rules for bidets.

You may want to research those wet wipes and other products because they can cause irritation which can lead to all sorts of other problems in that area. Shower head is a good final clean after regular paper.

Nonsense. I have one. Screws onto mono tap at the sink, switches the water from the tap to the hose, scoosh scoosh scoosh, wipe wipe, flush, all done. Most satisfactory. It's exactly what this lady needs.

Not sure if anyone has the same problem but I find that having fibre such as all bran, weetabix etc really irritates my bumhole and makes it sore. I wipe and can see the little grains of fibre. I know I should eat more fibre but then it seems to cause more problems than it solves! I find those Nakd cocoa and orange bars are really good for constipation, Lidl have their own version too. It’s mainly just dried fruit

Since I hit menopause ()not sure if this has anything to do with it or not) this has been a problem for me too. I go through tons of toilet paper & always have a red, itchy backside. I go to the loo fine it's just I can never seem to get everything clean with just a couple of wipes. When I think it's completely clean I can go back a while later & there's small marks on my underwear.

I use these wipes from Amazon..

It sounds like the body wants to rid the waste but is struggling. Piles won’t help with the mess but shouldn’t create the constipation. There are some great herbal/ oil tinctures on the market to clear up piles of you have them, however I’d suggest more fibre, but of the dry sweeping kind, go for loads of kale and rye and lindseed. Try not to eat anything processed (except for some rye bread, but even that should be rye only - no wheat). Good luck

I had the same issue, I suffer from mild IBS. My poo routine now is always use a squatty potty, pump baby lotion on toilet paper before wiping, then jump in the shower for either a very localised wash (if not in the a.m.) or my usual morning shower (if it's all gone according to plan!)

Balneol changes my life!! I had the same problems due to polyps. I tried everything but this lotion was the only thing that works for me. It's expensive on Amazon but I don't care. Good luck ❤️.

I visited my GP with exactly the same issue. Its always worse if I need to poop more than once. Annoyingly, this is often on holiday when your diet may be different. I was sent for a colonoscopy to make sure nothing sinister going on cancer wise in the rectum /anal area. The conclusion was that a small external haemorrhoid was causing some poop to get trapped and then it escapes later after you move around more. Then the haemorrhoid with poop on it gets irritated , can bleed and feels itchy and sore. As soon as it happens, I clean again well and use a haemorrhoid cream in the area and that stops it happening again that day and stops it bleeding pretty much immediately. The best way to manage it is to make sure you check "both ends" after you first visit for a wee after a poo.

I remember years ago, Dr Miriam Stoppard recommend just using water to wipe. Poo wipes and gels could irritate and wipes - however 'flushable' bung up the sewers. I've had bowel problems for over 20 years. I have IBS, diverticulitis and my bowel has prolapsed into my vagina. It really does get me down sometimes. Oh, and haemorrhoids too. This not being able to get completely clean is fairly recent. In fact my OH has said he has the same problem. I'm nearly 70 and he's 75. Is this our life now?! I was absolutely distraught when I found bum prints on my bedsheets! Bugger getting old!!

an aqueous cream (which is very cheap for a huge tub) around the area before going to the loo and then when wiping you wipe most of it away with the cream.
This sounds like an excellent idea @longtompot thanks for suggesting.

Are the suggestions for fibre to assist with combating constipation ?
Or have I misunderstood?
Asking because I'm not constipated but have a number of the other issues on here.
Leaking. Incomplete evacuation. Etc

I have IBS so always have very soft poos and wiping can be a sore affair. I have found putting a small amount of an aqueous cream (which is very cheap for a huge tub) around the area before going to the loo and then when wiping you wipe most of it away with the cream. I do still get a small amount coming out afterwards and will try the fibre supplements suggested in this thread to see if that helps.

I'm so glad to find it's not just me. I've got diagnosed IBS and diverticulitis. I spend longer getting clean than I do actually 'going'. I'm in my late 60s and assume this is me now. I just hope the rest of the household don't hear me cursing and muttering in my frustration! And I have a massive stockpile of toilet roll. You are not alone.

This sounds like a bowel prolapse. The dr will do an internal exam and take it from there. Feels embarrassing but they're really good. I had this after a rough delivery. Needs surgery, but they go through other options first. They do pt with you which is embarrassing but hysterical. Lay it all on the table for the dr, they've heard it all honestly. Hope this helps and good luck xx

There is a device called a Qufora that you can get o. Prescription from the pelvic floor physio it clears out what gets stuck if you suffer with a rectocele. It’s amazing. Rectocele is not always caused by a fast birth the weight of carrying a baby and menopause aging can also be the cause.

This sounds like a problem called “overflow”
when you have chronic constipation you get leakage of liquid stool
up the movicol and get a good clear out that will help then dial the dose back to achieve better control
piles can also cause this a smaller degree
see a doc without embarrassment it’s common
in view of your age also request a stool FIT test - just to be extra cautions

I hear good things about bum guns - they do a much better job, and are better for the planet.

#team leaning forward

No, the optimum position for normal people is to lean foward and be quite hunched down, so some people use a foot stool to have their knees higher. But that wouldnt do it for me. The consultant was laughing about that with me

Look away now if feeling delicate but ..
Looking at that diagram indicating position of a rectocele I'm wondering if one were to sort of pull the exit position slightly towards the front it might assist the delivery and achieve full evacuation.

Just hop in the shower after you poo op

Does the magnesium help with constipation?
I'm not constipated.
Actually think it would be better if I were more inclined that way .