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DH says I shouldn't be breastfeeding in front of FIL

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AnimeConn · 24/09/2025 15:29

So earlier today I was sat in the living room feeding DS (hes 4 months, still pretty much feeds whenever he wants) and FIL popped round. He came in, said hi, had a cup of tea and honestly didnt seem remotely bothered. Later DH had a go at me saying it was “awkward” and I should have gone upstairs or at least covered up. Im absolutely fuming, its my house too and im not hiding away every time the baby needs a feed! FIL is a grown man who has seen worse in his life im sure. Its not like I was flashing everything about, just quietly feeding my baby. I cant believe DH is acting like im the one in the wrong here.

Am I wrong??

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TravelPanic · 24/09/2025 15:41

Baby comes first so if FIL has an issue with it, he can go elsewhere. But he clearly didn’t have an issue with it so “D”H can shut up! Is he this unsupportive generally?

Delilahsscissors · 24/09/2025 15:41

“I’m not going to be shamed for feeding our baby in a perfectly normal way in our home because you’ve decided your dad is some sort of sex pervert who’s going home to smash one off at the sight of his sons wife’s boobs feeding his grandchild. You sick fuck”

Everydayimhuffling · 24/09/2025 15:40

Then FIL can't pop in like that. And he will have to leave if the baby is hungry. Your "D"H can go with him. He is being patently ridiculous.

arethereanyleftatall · 24/09/2025 15:39

Wow. Why couldn’t he have gone somewhere else with fil if he was that bothered?

Dearg · 24/09/2025 15:39

Your DH is out of order. Seems like FIL was unconcerned, but DH could have taken him out of the living room if it was awkward.

MabelMoo23 · 24/09/2025 15:39

He’s being a twat and needs to get a grip.

HeartbrokenCatMum · 24/09/2025 15:39

Looks like your DH sees your boobs as mainly sexual. We need to normalise breastfeeding around people, not hide it. And I’m saying that as someone who never did it

JayJayj · 24/09/2025 15:38

That is ridiculous.
I only stopped feeding in front of my father in law and step dad once my daughter got a bit crazy with her feeding and I didn’t want my full boob on show.
Your husband is weird. I’d ask him if he thinks that his dad would find feeding a baby sexual? The answer isn’t course no so what does it matter. And if the answer was yes then that’s a different problem altogether.

didntlikeanyofthesuggestions · 24/09/2025 15:38

Well he can piss right off

Noshadowsinthedark · 24/09/2025 15:37

What an idiot.

hydriotaphia · 24/09/2025 15:35

YANBU I am cross on your behalf.

Arlanymor · 24/09/2025 15:32

Your DH's reaction is disrespectful to both you and his father.

SkiAndTravelTheWorldWithMyDog · 24/09/2025 15:30

Well your husband should not eat in front of him either. No more family meals with FIL.

Prisonbreak · 24/09/2025 15:30

Your husband is being weird

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