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Husband vaginal thrush treatment?

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Laurawhitty94 · 24/09/2025 13:58

Hi all, wondering if you can help me with this…
I haven’t spoken to him about this yet because I’d like to actually know what you guys would do because I am rather impulsive and I am a little dramatic as well.

This morning I went to my husbands car to grab some ibuprofen out of his glove box ,I knew he had some because he keeps it for the gym and things. However I found a used vaginal thrush pessary (the rubbish) in the glovebox.

I haven’t had thrush recently. He hasn’t mentioned having it and that’s exactly the type of thing he would mention to me ,he’s not shy or anything but also why would he use a vaginal thrush medicine anyway? It was the combo one , the cream and the pill kind.

I'm very confused and anxious. Could it be that he is seeing a woman or am I jumping the gun ? Why on earth would he have that in his car and am I wrong to have looked in the glove box without telling him I’m gonna go to his car ?

How do I bring this up exactly with him.
We also have the life 360 app for the kids and he has had his location off for weeks now and I just assumed he had location off in general but now I’m thinking maybe he could be seeing someone ?

I don’t know. Please let me know what you’d say and do. Am I being dramatic or could this be a clue that he’s cheating which I’m kinda feeling like it is right now.

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Catpiece · 24/09/2025 14:59

Maybe he wet the pessary and rubbed it on his feet? Maybe buying the duo pack was the only option in order to get the Canesten cream 🤷‍♀️

FeralWoman · 24/09/2025 14:45

He’s cheating.

The13thFairy · 24/09/2025 14:43

didntlikeanyofthesuggestions · 24/09/2025 14:18

I wouldn't assume the worst. It can be used to treat various fungal infections. Does he have athletes foot?

It is a pessary. Which goes in a vagina. How could you possibly think it would be any good for feet? Really, I despair.

Lavender14 · 24/09/2025 14:42

I would be doing digging in other areas before confronting him. Bank statements and phone records and I'd try to get a look in his phone/computer. Normally I am against snooping but I think in this scenario you have a clear reason and I personally would want to know what I'm working with before he knows you're on to him and has a chance to delete things and cover his tracks. If you have kids and life is in joined in that way then I think there's a certain limit to privacy. Your kids and yourself are your first priority if you think he's been having an affair.

I can't think of any reason why a woman would a) use that in a car or b) why he'd have it unless someone has intentionally left it for you to notice.

Why would you feel bad for looking in his glove box - that's a completely normal thing to do in the run of family life.

Catpiece · 24/09/2025 14:36

Really? Gawd 😱

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Laurawhitty94 · 24/09/2025 14:36

toomuchfaff · 24/09/2025 14:02

Id be going and photographing that pessary in situ (so he cant gaslight and say it wasnt there), then id straight forward ask him why there is a used vaginal pessary in his car. Simple and too the point, let him answer, see his immediate reaction, don't be tempted to fill the silence.

Thank you I have taken a photograph of it just in case it disappears

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Laurawhitty94 · 24/09/2025 14:35

Catpiece · 24/09/2025 14:26

A used pessary?? Like it’s been inserted then removed? Or do you mean the packaging?

The actual stick/applicator as well as the packaging. As if someone has inserted it in the passenger seat I guess ,I didn’t touch it though ,ew

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Catpiece · 24/09/2025 14:26

A used pessary?? Like it’s been inserted then removed? Or do you mean the packaging?

ButSheSaid · 24/09/2025 14:23

didntlikeanyofthesuggestions · 24/09/2025 14:18

I wouldn't assume the worst. It can be used to treat various fungal infections. Does he have athletes foot?

Athletes foot wouldn't require the use of a pessary that gets inserted in a vagina. Cream-yeah.

Arlanymor · 24/09/2025 14:19

I'd put it in a sandwich bag and when he gets home from work ask him to sit down with you and say you need to have a conversation with him. Then hand him the bag and see what he says. I actually think it's better than starting with a leading question, you have the element of surprise... see what his reaction is. E.g. if he says "What's that? Respond with "You tell me." If he says: "I don't know what it is, I've never seen it before." Respond with "Well it was in your glove compartment, so if it doesn't belong to you, who does it belong to?" Liars will tie themselves up in knots very early on. I hope there's a reasonable explanation, but it would seem unlikely, I'm sorry.

didntlikeanyofthesuggestions · 24/09/2025 14:18

I wouldn't assume the worst. It can be used to treat various fungal infections. Does he have athletes foot?

CharlieKirkRIP · 24/09/2025 14:15

That’s been left by a woman and possibly deliberately for you to find.

If he gave a lift to a female work colleague or even a known female friend they are hardly going to leave something so personal in his car.

Catch him off guard and ask directly and wait and watch .

’’Brian, I got some ibuprofen from your glove box and there is a used VAGINAL thrush pessary and cream in there.’

toomuchfaff · 24/09/2025 14:02

Id be going and photographing that pessary in situ (so he cant gaslight and say it wasnt there), then id straight forward ask him why there is a used vaginal pessary in his car. Simple and too the point, let him answer, see his immediate reaction, don't be tempted to fill the silence.