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Husband vaginal thrush treatment?

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Laurawhitty94 · 24/09/2025 13:58

Hi all, wondering if you can help me with this…
I haven’t spoken to him about this yet because I’d like to actually know what you guys would do because I am rather impulsive and I am a little dramatic as well.

This morning I went to my husbands car to grab some ibuprofen out of his glove box ,I knew he had some because he keeps it for the gym and things. However I found a used vaginal thrush pessary (the rubbish) in the glovebox.

I haven’t had thrush recently. He hasn’t mentioned having it and that’s exactly the type of thing he would mention to me ,he’s not shy or anything but also why would he use a vaginal thrush medicine anyway? It was the combo one , the cream and the pill kind.

I'm very confused and anxious. Could it be that he is seeing a woman or am I jumping the gun ? Why on earth would he have that in his car and am I wrong to have looked in the glove box without telling him I’m gonna go to his car ?

How do I bring this up exactly with him.
We also have the life 360 app for the kids and he has had his location off for weeks now and I just assumed he had location off in general but now I’m thinking maybe he could be seeing someone ?

I don’t know. Please let me know what you’d say and do. Am I being dramatic or could this be a clue that he’s cheating which I’m kinda feeling like it is right now.

OP posts:
jomaIone · 24/09/2025 19:20

It wasnt this was it? This is external and internal cream but can buy in Tesco rather than asking in pharmacy. Would explain the stick?

Sorry image under review, it's a canestan internal and external cream duo box

Husband vaginal thrush treatment?
Megifer · 24/09/2025 18:43

Tell him you think you have thrush and can he get that cream and vaginal pessary from the car he must have thoughtfully bought to keep in for you.......

coldandflu · 24/09/2025 18:42

Giddykiddy · 24/09/2025 18:16

I'm inclined to think he might have thrush and bought the wrong thing and tried to use it- it would be a v odd thing for an OW to leave. I saw some canesten in my DH's soap bag - he's super trustworthy and quite private and I just assumed he'd had a touch of thrush and treated it without wanting to discuss it

No they dont sell it like that

RealEagle · 24/09/2025 18:42

Well there is only one hole he could have put the pessary in 🤷‍♀️Have you asked him about turning location off .

coldandflu · 24/09/2025 18:41

didntlikeanyofthesuggestions · 24/09/2025 14:18

I wouldn't assume the worst. It can be used to treat various fungal infections. Does he have athletes foot?

Can't put a thrush pessary on your feet

mumuseli · 24/09/2025 18:27

Gosh this is an odd one! Hope you get to the bottom of it, OP!
Hopefully there is a reasonable explanation (do let us know, if you find out!). It is a bit worrying though in the light of him turning off his location recently.
Good luck with investigating x

Tink3rbell30 · 24/09/2025 18:26

It's a simple and reasonable question as to why it's there. Don't tiptoe around the issue, ask outright.

Giddykiddy · 24/09/2025 18:16

I'm inclined to think he might have thrush and bought the wrong thing and tried to use it- it would be a v odd thing for an OW to leave. I saw some canesten in my DH's soap bag - he's super trustworthy and quite private and I just assumed he'd had a touch of thrush and treated it without wanting to discuss it

Imbusytodaysorry · 24/09/2025 18:12

Laurawhitty94 · 24/09/2025 16:21

Yes the empty blister pack was there but no pill and the applicator was just right there with it ,yikes. Sort of realising that if this is an affair they’re obviously pretty close!

She could have used a public toilet . Came out and left the bag in the glove compartment and forgot about it .
They are close enough for sex, sharing a car and time together . Also know doubt shopping for thrush creams together.

How are you both ? @Laurawhitty94

IstillloveKingThistle · 24/09/2025 18:03

didntlikeanyofthesuggestions · 24/09/2025 14:18

I wouldn't assume the worst. It can be used to treat various fungal infections. Does he have athletes foot?

How do you put a vaginal pessary in your foot?
🤔

Imbusytodaysorry · 24/09/2025 18:02

@Laurawhitty94 Sorry op he is cheating .
You are going to have to get your head straight and think of your next move .

Did you photograph it?
Have you also been having sex together ?

rainbowunicorn22 · 24/09/2025 18:01

cream can be used for groin sweat rash could be linked to the gym use but what the hell would he use the pessary for? where would he put it!

DiscoBob · 24/09/2025 18:00

Can you buy thrush cream aimed at men? Is there a chance he had thrush, that was the only product they had in the shop, so he swallowed the pessary either because he doesn't know what it's for or because he thought it would help?

I just can't believe a woman would insert a pessary sitting in a married man's car?

Phonicshaskilledmeoff · 24/09/2025 17:39

clutching at straws here. Is anal thrush a thing?!

It would be a very strange thing for a mistress to insert something like this with his knowledge wouldn’t it?!….

sellotapechicken · 24/09/2025 17:36

I’m gonna throw this out there. Has he taken the tablet orally out of stupidity ? (Weirder things have happened )

Endofyear · 24/09/2025 17:32

I would ask him straight out what this was doing in his car and then watch his reaction closely. I certainly wouldn't be having sex with him until I'd got to the bottom of it! Although, I have to say if he is having an affair, how likely is it that OW is using a vaginally pessary for thrush in the passenger seat of his car?? It's bizarre!

GertieLawrence · 24/09/2025 17:13

He’s going to have a job making use of a pessary 😂

TheFormidableMrsC · 24/09/2025 17:03

TattooStan · 24/09/2025 16:52

Yes that bit doesn't make sense! But I'd assume he just bought "thrush treatment" and got the wrong kind?

But surely then the pessary would still be in the packaging?

TattooStan · 24/09/2025 16:52

ClutchingPearlz · 24/09/2025 16:50

Where did he stick the pessory?

Yes that bit doesn't make sense! But I'd assume he just bought "thrush treatment" and got the wrong kind?

ClutchingPearlz · 24/09/2025 16:50

TattooStan · 24/09/2025 16:46

My husband struggles on and off with thrush, to the extent that he often doesn't tell me he has it (until he has to turn down sex etc). I wouldn't assume the worst.

Where did he stick the pessory?

ClutchingPearlz · 24/09/2025 16:48

I’m never one to go straight to affair but it’s kind of hard to see how this can have a perfectly reasonable explanation 😳

TattooStan · 24/09/2025 16:46

My husband struggles on and off with thrush, to the extent that he often doesn't tell me he has it (until he has to turn down sex etc). I wouldn't assume the worst.

Bumblebee72 · 24/09/2025 16:45

Vaginal thrush treatments and affairs don't like think things that would go hand in hand. I would barely have that level of openness with husband, so very much doubt it would come up if I was having an affair. Surely "hold on I need to take out my thrush pessary, before we can get it on in the car" would be an absolute mood killer.

Izzywizzy85 · 24/09/2025 16:29

Very strange indeed. I agree with a PP, ask him who used it and watch his initial reaction. Do it face to face so you gauge his response.

IneedtheeohIneedtheeeveryhourIneedthee · 24/09/2025 16:22

Well if he is cheating he is a massive prat to leave something like that lying about in his car for you to find!