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Husband vaginal thrush treatment?

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Laurawhitty94 · 24/09/2025 13:58

Hi all, wondering if you can help me with this…
I haven’t spoken to him about this yet because I’d like to actually know what you guys would do because I am rather impulsive and I am a little dramatic as well.

This morning I went to my husbands car to grab some ibuprofen out of his glove box ,I knew he had some because he keeps it for the gym and things. However I found a used vaginal thrush pessary (the rubbish) in the glovebox.

I haven’t had thrush recently. He hasn’t mentioned having it and that’s exactly the type of thing he would mention to me ,he’s not shy or anything but also why would he use a vaginal thrush medicine anyway? It was the combo one , the cream and the pill kind.

I'm very confused and anxious. Could it be that he is seeing a woman or am I jumping the gun ? Why on earth would he have that in his car and am I wrong to have looked in the glove box without telling him I’m gonna go to his car ?

How do I bring this up exactly with him.
We also have the life 360 app for the kids and he has had his location off for weeks now and I just assumed he had location off in general but now I’m thinking maybe he could be seeing someone ?

I don’t know. Please let me know what you’d say and do. Am I being dramatic or could this be a clue that he’s cheating which I’m kinda feeling like it is right now.

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Namechangerage · 25/09/2025 07:49

Bumblebee72 · 24/09/2025 16:45

Vaginal thrush treatments and affairs don't like think things that would go hand in hand. I would barely have that level of openness with husband, so very much doubt it would come up if I was having an affair. Surely "hold on I need to take out my thrush pessary, before we can get it on in the car" would be an absolute mood killer.

The other woman could have left it there to stir up trouble?

PinkyFlamingo · 25/09/2025 07:49

CameForAVacationStayedForTheRevolution · 25/09/2025 07:33

I don't think any prostitute is inserting her thrush pessary in a client's car!

Is he daft enough to not know what a pessary is, think it's like an applicator tube of cream? Open it up and realise and he's binned the pessary but not the applicator thing?

It's either that or an affair or a very odd fetish. Fetish is a possibility, some men like sticking all sorts up their bum!

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AcrobaticCardigan · 25/09/2025 07:43

BillStickersWillBeProsocuted · 24/09/2025 16:16

I think "man buys slightly wrong product for his athletes foot" is more likely than "woman applies thrush medication in her boyfriends car and then leaves the used pessary in the glovebox". Especially when you add into the mix he might have been embarred and rushing when he bought it

People are suggesting it was deliberately left for OP to find, wouldn’t she leave a lacy thong or something rather than medical paraphernalia? You'd have to assume he would me more likely to find it there than the wife in his own glovebox

Agreed! You would definitely leave something more glamorous if that was your plan & definitely wouldn’t use that cream/pessary in the car. Crikey!

CameForAVacationStayedForTheRevolution · 25/09/2025 07:33

BlueJuniper94 · 25/09/2025 07:00

A prostitute is my thought. I'd get checked for stds

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I don't think any prostitute is inserting her thrush pessary in a client's car!

Is he daft enough to not know what a pessary is, think it's like an applicator tube of cream? Open it up and realise and he's binned the pessary but not the applicator thing?

It's either that or an affair or a very odd fetish. Fetish is a possibility, some men like sticking all sorts up their bum!

Shadowfacs · 25/09/2025 07:32

Laurawhitty94 · 24/09/2025 14:35

The actual stick/applicator as well as the packaging. As if someone has inserted it in the passenger seat I guess ,I didn’t touch it though ,ew

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Anyone who would insert a vaginal pessary this way is asking for a pelvic infection. I cannot think of any situation where it would be necessary to do this is a car.

Are you sure this is what it is?

What is the brand name on the packaging?

Namechanged4today · 25/09/2025 07:11

Personally I’d switch his location back on, and take a good look at credit card and bank statements, in particular cash withdrawals. My ex’s affair partner left her knickers at the side of the bed for me. (Yes, I got rid of him Easter Grin).

JJZ · 25/09/2025 07:09

GertieLawrence · 24/09/2025 17:13

He’s going to have a job making use of a pessary 😂

Men are often very curious about vaginas and how stuff works. He probably had a play around with it.

JJZ · 25/09/2025 07:04

Sera1989 · 24/09/2025 16:07

I agree with others that maybe he wanted it for the cream. Not beyond the realm of fantasy to think a man might have wanted to see what the applicator was. I’ve known a few who would probably think it’s to put the pessary tablet down their throat to swallow it 🤦‍♀️.
I can’t imagine many women in long term relationships would insert a pessary in the passenger seat, let alone a woman doing that in front of her affair partner - and then putting it in the glove box instead of a bag/bin. Would be very surprised if he doesn’t casually say he was using the cream himself

This.

Some of you are just bonkers 😆

BlueJuniper94 · 25/09/2025 07:00

mrsrednose · 25/09/2025 06:54

Besides who would use a pessary in the car and also have sex? Doesn’t make sense

A prostitute is my thought. I'd get checked for stds

mrsrednose · 25/09/2025 06:54

Besides who would use a pessary in the car and also have sex? Doesn’t make sense

mrsrednose · 25/09/2025 06:53

sometimes those thrush treatments come in duo packs with a cream and a pessary. Is it possible he used the cream himself (like for irritation or fungal rash) and just chucked the pessary without thinking? Might be a silly explanation, but worth asking before assuming the worst.

landlordhell · 25/09/2025 06:48

Op you sau there was a used pessary. A thrush pessary dissolves . Do you mean applicator?
https://groceries.morrisons.com/products/canesten-thrush-combi-soft-gel-pessary-external-cream/104518630?srsltid=AfmBOoos6sPoeAOwWSq06F36707WWcv0U6xb1KiCXPWQnTvWGDInYrpm

landlordhell · 25/09/2025 06:46

OhNoNotSusan · 25/09/2025 06:45

jock itch?

Pessary?

OhNoNotSusan · 25/09/2025 06:45

jock itch?

OhNoNotSusan · 25/09/2025 06:45

it does sound more likely that he bought the box for his own thrush

landlordhell · 25/09/2025 06:44

didntlikeanyofthesuggestions · 24/09/2025 14:18

I wouldn't assume the worst. It can be used to treat various fungal infections. Does he have athletes foot?

Yeah but not the pessary DH had the cream for ring worm but a pessary is only used inside a vaginal!

carmak · 25/09/2025 06:43

GloryFades · 25/09/2025 04:09

I’m incredibly close to my husband, he’s bought this exact thrush treatment for me before, I’ve applied the pessary while he’s in the room and he’s applied cream for me. I have never and can’t ever imagine a scenario where I apply a pessary in his car.

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Your DH applied your thrush cream? That was helpful of him.

Planesmistakenforstars · 25/09/2025 06:42

didntlikeanyofthesuggestions · 24/09/2025 14:18

I wouldn't assume the worst. It can be used to treat various fungal infections. Does he have athletes foot?

Athletes foot doesn't cause men to grow vaginas on their feet. Unless there's new unfounded medical scaremongering from the US, which we can rule out anyway.

Iguessicoulddothat · 25/09/2025 06:22

Was the cream used? If so more likely hes messed up and bought the wrong thing and got confused with the pessary. If not it feels more how a woman would use it, the pessary is loads more effective than the cream I find.

WalkDontWalk · 25/09/2025 06:17

Theoturkeyistheonlyturkeyonmytable · 25/09/2025 05:33

Same thoughts here
Left deliberately for you to find

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My problem with that theory is that if you really want someone to happen to find something, the glove compartment of their partner’s car is a pretty long shot. In twenty-odd years of marriage, I don’t think I’ve ever opened the glove compartment of my OH’s car. It could be like Boot’s stockroom in there, for all I know.

Arlingtonchase · 25/09/2025 05:43

As a starter, you could ask him why he has 360 turned off and ask that he puts it back on. I'm sure you can think of a convincing-sounding "innocent" reason why you find it useful.

If he doesn’t want to, I would certainly wonder why. Either way, it would lead to me asking directly about what you found. An innocent man would hasten to reassure you and put the 360 back on (and I can’t think of an innocent reason for the pessary anyway).

Don’t let him deflect by trying to make you feel bad about looking in his car. It's a perfectly normal thing to do.

reversingdumptruckwithnotyreson · 25/09/2025 05:42

This + location being off… I’d go with cheating.

Ask him directly and don’t leave room for him to argue his way out of there. Don’t let him leave the room without giving you his phone. Check the notes app too.

Theoturkeyistheonlyturkeyonmytable · 25/09/2025 05:33

CharlieKirkRIP · 24/09/2025 14:15

That’s been left by a woman and possibly deliberately for you to find.

If he gave a lift to a female work colleague or even a known female friend they are hardly going to leave something so personal in his car.

Catch him off guard and ask directly and wait and watch .

’’Brian, I got some ibuprofen from your glove box and there is a used VAGINAL thrush pessary and cream in there.’

Same thoughts here
Left deliberately for you to find

Horses7 · 25/09/2025 05:24

What a disturbing and yukky find.
The sensible thing would be to do more digging and prepare for the worse case scenario - not sure I’d be able to keep quiet about this though.
Don’t worry or feel guilty about future ‘snooping’ you’re not doing anything wrong.
Good luck OP

CanadaNotAMum · 25/09/2025 04:57

CareerChange24 · 25/09/2025 00:50

I went to boots for the cream and a chemist and the only option was to buy the combi pessary as no creams on their own were available. I didn’t want the pessary. So maybe he wanted the cream for himself and just didn’t mention it?? I didn’t constantly tell my partner about all my health issues

But it was used. If he just wanted the cream portion fine. But the pessary got inserted somewhere by someone.