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To reject trainee surgeon?

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RunningThroughMyHead · 24/09/2025 13:54

My young child is on the wait list for eye surgery. It’s a complex surgery with risks of blindness or other permanent eye issues if not done correctly. These risks have been explained to us but the benefits outweigh the risks.

My husband took him to the last appointment and the surgeon explained that a student surgeon may undertake all or part of the surgery under his supervision. My husband nodded along as far as I can tell.

Whilst I fully understand that healthcare professionals need to practice, perhaps selfishly, I don’t want my son practiced on. I wouldn’t forgive myself if something happened and I want someone well experienced to do the full surgery.

AIBU to request/insist on this?

OP posts:
Kirbert2 · 24/09/2025 17:06

DeathNote11 · 24/09/2025 16:58

I never consent to students, no matter how experienced they are. If I'm not asked for consent, I question why I wasn't asked & order students out of the room. I once consented to a student anaesthetist, never again. I'd assumed there would be a certain level of competence before they're given actual humans. Unfortunately, I was wrong. No way would I let one near any person I value.

This is how I feel after a very bad experience with a surgical registrar involving my child.

RunningThroughMyHead · 24/09/2025 17:06

Moonlightbean123 · 24/09/2025 17:00

Exactly!! Op hasnt a clue , hence questions and misunderstanding!! 🤦‍♀️

What do you expect me to do then? Undertake a medical degree before my child has the surgery? Or just shut up and not ask any questions?

Have you never heard of patient advocacy? In other parts of the world, and often in the UK, patients are encouraged to ask questions, advocate for themselves and their families, think critically. It was just yesterday when a thread was supporting an OP to trust her instincts despite a GP saying nothing was wrong with her child.

Yet I’m being ridiculed for asking questions when I’m not a healthcare professional?

Im well within my rights to have concerns and ask questions. I’m so thankful for those who have passed on information in a kind way, it’s really helped.

Calling me clueless? No help at all.

OP posts:
Rosscameasdoody · 24/09/2025 17:06

WaxworkWarboys · 24/09/2025 17:00

So you think no patient should be able to ask questions? How do you expect them to give informed consent then? We ask so we can gain understanding.

I do expect them to ask questions. I have myself, most recently when I had surgery for breast cancer. But the op is making ridiculous assumptions that the doctor is not qualified and refers to them as a ‘trainee’ which is just ridiculous. Do you think they let just anyone loose with a scalpel ?

Gallopingfanjo · 24/09/2025 17:06

RunningThroughMyHead · 24/09/2025 13:57

Surgery isn’t the same as being a qualified ophthalmology though! It’s a whole different skills set, hence they’d need full supervision.

Why is it wrong that I want someone well experienced?

How do people get experience?

flowertoday · 24/09/2025 17:04

It wouldn't be someone unqualified OP. It will be a fully qualified doctor with years of experience who is on their way to qualify at consultant level.
I can understand why you are worried but I think it will be fine. We need our future doctors to have training and experience. Under the close supervision of a consultant of course. Which is what would be happening for your son.
Hope it goes ok 🙏🌻

TheSwarm · 24/09/2025 17:02

DeathNote11 · 24/09/2025 16:58

I never consent to students, no matter how experienced they are. If I'm not asked for consent, I question why I wasn't asked & order students out of the room. I once consented to a student anaesthetist, never again. I'd assumed there would be a certain level of competence before they're given actual humans. Unfortunately, I was wrong. No way would I let one near any person I value.

We aren't talking about students here.

Resident doctors (e.g. not consultants) are still highly trained and highly experienced. They just aren't operating completely independently yet.

RunningThroughMyHead · 24/09/2025 17:02

Needaglowup · 24/09/2025 16:31

OP , I’ve just had eye surgery myself the consultant who was doing it runs a fellowship training program and it was them who did my op … I was under local anaesthetic ,so I was able to know what was going on .. yes he watched and oversaw everything and yes they were both already ophthalmologist doctors.. but surgery was longer however, I had a better outcome as he was teaching and went the extra mile so to speak .. hope this helps

That’s really reassuring, I’m glad you had a great outcome!

OP posts:
PinkSparklyPussyCat · 24/09/2025 17:01

Rosscameasdoody · 24/09/2025 16:59

Probably not qualified, and yet questions how these things work ?

Why shouldn't someone ask questions? If someone is operating on me then I have every right to ask whatever I like. DH didn't like the answers he got from his consultant so changed to a different one, why should he have someone he doesn't trust operating on him?

WaxworkWarboys · 24/09/2025 17:00

Rosscameasdoody · 24/09/2025 16:59

Probably not qualified, and yet questions how these things work ?

So you think no patient should be able to ask questions? How do you expect them to give informed consent then? We ask so we can gain understanding.

Moonlightbean123 · 24/09/2025 17:00

Rosscameasdoody · 24/09/2025 16:59

Probably not qualified, and yet questions how these things work ?

Exactly!! Op hasnt a clue , hence questions and misunderstanding!! 🤦‍♀️

Rosscameasdoody · 24/09/2025 16:59

Moonlightbean123 · 24/09/2025 16:15

This is really silly what you've said. Of course doctors expect questions from someone other then the patient, especially as its a child. Of course it will be the parent who of course is probably not qualified. 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️

Probably not qualified, and yet questions how these things work ?

DeathNote11 · 24/09/2025 16:58

I never consent to students, no matter how experienced they are. If I'm not asked for consent, I question why I wasn't asked & order students out of the room. I once consented to a student anaesthetist, never again. I'd assumed there would be a certain level of competence before they're given actual humans. Unfortunately, I was wrong. No way would I let one near any person I value.

Rosscameasdoody · 24/09/2025 16:57

Horsie · 24/09/2025 16:49

One hundred percent NOT being unreasonable! I would insist on an experienced surgeon! You can't replace an eye.

FFS - they are experienced surgeons and they won’t be operating without a consultant present. How do you expect people to learn or are you just happy for that to be down to other people ?

CurlyCabbage · 24/09/2025 16:57

Why do you keep calling them a student? A student is someone still in medical school. The registrars are what the American system calls resident doctors or fellows. The term junior doctor has completely undermined a whole cohort of doctors for a generation.

Patients worry they are getting some nervous nelly operating when its usually someone whose wholly competent and actually well versed on the surgery having commited many hours to it.

With your csection you would've most likely had a registrar and a more junior colleague. Maybe even a gp trainee rotating onto the obstetrics and gynaecology for experience.

Rosscameasdoody · 24/09/2025 16:56

RunningThroughMyHead · 24/09/2025 13:57

Surgery isn’t the same as being a qualified ophthalmology though! It’s a whole different skills set, hence they’d need full supervision.

Why is it wrong that I want someone well experienced?

You are getting someone well experienced.

RunningThroughMyHead · 24/09/2025 16:54

@snappyshopper thank you so much for your support on this thread. The first few pages were pretty brutal, it’s comforting to know I’m not being “ridiculous” or “entitled”. Thanks 🙂

OP posts:
Irishpoppy · 24/09/2025 16:52

Sending love. I hope the surgery goes well. Can imagine how worrying this all is for you.

Horsie · 24/09/2025 16:49

One hundred percent NOT being unreasonable! I would insist on an experienced surgeon! You can't replace an eye.

Mischance · 24/09/2025 16:46

This happens in most surgery. The consultant or registrar will stand back for a period and let someone more junior take over - this is not unusual at all. It is how progress is made and new surgeons are available for the future. It is happening every day, everywhere.

The surgeon will not be handing your child over to some unqualified person to operate on unsupervised. Please be reassured about this. I know you are anxious - who would not be? - but I really do not think you have anything to worry about.

ByQuaintAzureWasp · 24/09/2025 16:43

Oneeyedonkey · 24/09/2025 14:01

You really have no idea how hospitals work do you?
If you want to choose a particular surgeon you go private and pay the associated costs.

You can choose to have a particular surgeon in NHS, I've done it. Amended tbe paperwork I was signing after discussion. Somebody had already buggered it up first time so wasn't risking it a second time.

Offloadontome · 24/09/2025 16:43

I wouldn't be happy with a student doing this either, if that's what they've said - and you can say no to students. Based on what other PP's have said though, I would call the secretary for his consultant and clarify who this student surgeon is, what his experience is so that you can have all the facts and information first. It might be that he's fully qualified.
I don't think it's unreasonable to have a preference who does your surgery and to voice this - many people do this in the NHS, and if it's possible I've seen it be accommodated. This is for things like elective surgeries etc but definitely on the NHS. if you have a concern about the person who's doing it I'd definitely be asking questions - I'd at the very least expect reassurance that they are qualified enough to do it, and if it's just a miscommunication then so be it - you can at least know for sure.

Fernticket · 24/09/2025 16:42

OP. Whilst I take your point, how do you think surgeon's get experience in surgery if not by operating on patients. The Consultant will be supervising them, they are not being left to do it on their own.

DBD1975 · 24/09/2025 16:41

RunningThroughMyHead · 24/09/2025 13:57

Surgery isn’t the same as being a qualified ophthalmology though! It’s a whole different skills set, hence they’d need full supervision.

Why is it wrong that I want someone well experienced?

How do surgeons become experienced without operating?
The procedure will be performed under supervision, he is not going to be left alone to get on with it.
The risk is no greater than with any other surgeon.
Fully understand your concerns around the surgery but the person doing the procedure doesn't need to be one of them.

bumblingbovine49 · 24/09/2025 16:40

RunningThroughMyHead · 24/09/2025 14:33

They went to trial and won. The operation was a complete balls up and the trust tried to cover their back. I appreciate it’s not common, but things do happen. There was a paediatrician in the news recently who was conducting unsafe procedures on children in the UK for years before it was stopped.

Maybe I’m just projecting my worries around how the operation will go. I’m taking on board the feedback and can see how two doctors would be better than one in lots of ways.

In both of these cases, I imagine it was one 'consultant' with little oversight doing the operation. I bet that paediatrician was less likely to conducted unsafe procedures when there was another surgical paediatrician in the room, even one slightly less qualified' than he was

You have no real idea if the experienced surgeon is actually a very good one. He very likely s but it is vanishingly unlikely that both the doctors will be poor ones or have malicious intent

When you have two doctors in the room, you have two people looking out for problems and sort of 'overseeing' each other. Whilst the more experienced surgeon will have the final say, the other surgeon will also be experienced and can act as an additional pair of hands to deal with any unforseen problems. The more experienced doctor will be more alert as well as he/she will want to be judged well by the other doctor.

Why do you think commerical planes have a pilot and a co pilot even on short flights where no break is necessary? Two people checking things is better than one at all times

EarthSight · 24/09/2025 16:39

PinkSparklyPussyCat · 24/09/2025 16:33

So why does the NHS website say you have the right to choose? As I said upthread DH has requested a different surgeon as he wasn't happy with the first one he saw.

Honestly, whenever something like this comes up, there's always a few righteous women who come along and seem to enjoy saying 'YOU'LL GET WHAT YOU GET'.

They come across like sour dinner ladies who enjoy sloping a horrible meal on a plate. YOU'LL GET WHAT YOUR GIVEN CHILD!!

Same with women who DARE say they would prefer a female gynaecologist - always a few who come along and make the poster seem unreasonable or ungrateful.

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