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To reject trainee surgeon?

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RunningThroughMyHead · 24/09/2025 13:54

My young child is on the wait list for eye surgery. It’s a complex surgery with risks of blindness or other permanent eye issues if not done correctly. These risks have been explained to us but the benefits outweigh the risks.

My husband took him to the last appointment and the surgeon explained that a student surgeon may undertake all or part of the surgery under his supervision. My husband nodded along as far as I can tell.

Whilst I fully understand that healthcare professionals need to practice, perhaps selfishly, I don’t want my son practiced on. I wouldn’t forgive myself if something happened and I want someone well experienced to do the full surgery.

AIBU to request/insist on this?

OP posts:
HMW19061 · 24/09/2025 18:44

RunningThroughMyHead · 24/09/2025 13:57

Surgery isn’t the same as being a qualified ophthalmology though! It’s a whole different skills set, hence they’d need full supervision.

Why is it wrong that I want someone well experienced?

Ophthalmologists are surgeons…they perform surgery on eyes. It won’t be a medical student doing it, it will be a fully qualified doctor who is likely almost a consultant ophthalmologist and will be performing the surgery solo very soon anyway and just needing/wanting extra supervised practice.

dammit88 · 24/09/2025 18:31

I can't believe some of the nasty comments here. I don't know the right thing to do OP but I hope your son's operation goes smoothly and they recover well. It must be really scary for you.

Strangesally20 · 24/09/2025 18:14

While I understand your concerns OP, and a lot of your concerns probably stem from the confusing language used for doctors, “trainee” and “junior” doctor for example are not necessarily very junior at all, it could very well be a very experienced doctor who is a year or two away from their consultant post and have spent 7+ years training in their field. Youre certainty within your rights to ask the level of experience and the level of supervision they will be given I don’t think you can insist the consultant does the surgery, Im assuming the hospital is a teaching hospital (as most are) and therefore this is just how it works.

For example in my work in intensive care, u can’t remember the last time I seen one of our consultants do a central line or chest drain for example, the “junior” (still very experienced) doctors do them with supervision. The first hint of concern they will step in or guide them.

Moonlightbean123 · 24/09/2025 18:14

RunningThroughMyHead · 24/09/2025 17:06

What do you expect me to do then? Undertake a medical degree before my child has the surgery? Or just shut up and not ask any questions?

Have you never heard of patient advocacy? In other parts of the world, and often in the UK, patients are encouraged to ask questions, advocate for themselves and their families, think critically. It was just yesterday when a thread was supporting an OP to trust her instincts despite a GP saying nothing was wrong with her child.

Yet I’m being ridiculed for asking questions when I’m not a healthcare professional?

Im well within my rights to have concerns and ask questions. I’m so thankful for those who have passed on information in a kind way, it’s really helped.

Calling me clueless? No help at all.

@RunningThroughMyHead op.. I wasn't trying to be rude. Not sure if you read my other posts.. sorry if clueless was offensive.. I was trying to highlight that your questions are reasonable and most parents are not professionals in these things, which is the post I had replied to at some stage if you care to check my posts. Ive just had major surgery myself, 5 weeks post surgery, open surgery hysterectomy so I get the importance of asking questions.

DriveMeCrazy1974 · 24/09/2025 18:11

Lanzarotelady · 24/09/2025 17:42

Maybe people shouldn't ask questions in AIBU if people cannot accept that not everyone will agree with them and that their views/choice of words will be challenged

The person answering the question said it was because she'd done 2 night shifts. She was rude and dismissive. There was absolutely no need for that. Manners cost nothing. Especially when the OP was clearly worried. It's just not necessary.

pinkstripeycat · 24/09/2025 18:09

My grandad agreed to a student doing his eye surgery. The student surgeon forgot to put the eye protector across the lense of his eye. He was screaming in pain every time we administered the eye drops as we didn’t know the surgeon had missed something.

My dad had cataracts removed by a student and they left half the cataract in his eye. It got infected and he couldn’t see out of his eye properly again.

WaxworkWarboys · 24/09/2025 17:57

Lanzarotelady · 24/09/2025 17:42

Maybe people shouldn't ask questions in AIBU if people cannot accept that not everyone will agree with them and that their views/choice of words will be challenged

It’s not so much the disagreements and differing options, though, It’s more the way some (not all) players have been unnecessarily mean and seem to enjoy sticking the boot in.

Health47 · 24/09/2025 17:57

Oneeyedonkey · 24/09/2025 14:05

Maybe because I have just come off 2 bloody night shifts

Maybe you should get off the internet then, being rude to someone because your tired is not an excuse

jkELG · 24/09/2025 17:57

This set up may well mean there is even more control, checking and follow-up than in a standard surgery.

Initially my gut reaction was no. Thinking about it more the supervision is a lot. As mentioned above ask the questions and see if you are happy then.

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 24/09/2025 17:53

RunningThroughMyHead · 24/09/2025 14:00

Experienced in what? This operation? How do I know that?

Even if it is the first time the surgeon has done this particular operation, @RunningThroughMyHead, they will already be experienced at all sorts of other ophthalmic surgeries. They will have worked up from simply observing operations to doing the easiest parts of simple procedures, under supervision, to doing all of a simple procedure under supervision. Then onto doing parts of more complex procedures, then doing them under supervision, and so on - basically building up their skills and knowledge.

If they are doing any part of this complex procedures, that means they have already learned a lot of less complex operations.

But, as I said earlier, I think the best advice is for you to contact the consultant’s secretary to ask for an email address, so you can send them the questions that are worrying you, and then you’ll have more information that might set up your mind at rest, or might make you decide to request that the consultant does your son’s surgery.

MixingMemoryAndDesire · 24/09/2025 17:48

OP, I'm not sure why you're subjecting yourself to this thread. I would unquestionably push for the most experienced and skilled surgeon possible for my child and would not feel in any way guilty about doing so. Never mind what random strangers think (including me :) !

Newbutoldfather · 24/09/2025 17:46

Why are so many on here making the assumption that all surgeons are great and as good as one another?

There are a few terrible surgeons, plenty of average ones and some outstanding ones, just like anything else.

If someone was cutting close to my child’s optic nerve, I would really want one of the latter group!

Of course, as people said, if the risks and complexity are relatively low and the resident has carried out the procedure several times successfully on a child, my feelings might be different.

But I would certainly be asking challenging questions before just agreeing.

Lunde · 24/09/2025 17:43

RunningThroughMyHead · 24/09/2025 14:00

Experienced in what? This operation? How do I know that?

"Junior" doctors can have 10+ years of experience

flobalobble · 24/09/2025 17:43

GoldMerchant · 24/09/2025 14:20

I would have more confidence in a more junior surgeon being supervised by a consultant. The consultant is going to be keeping an extra close eye and certainly wouldn't let the junior proceed if they weren't confidence. The trainee isn't going to have a momentary distraction, or get slapdash because they've done it a million times, or be called out for something half way through.

The most experienced surgeon is not necessarily the best one.

This 👆

Lanzarotelady · 24/09/2025 17:42

DriveMeCrazy1974 · 24/09/2025 17:25

That's not the OP's fault, is it? Maybe don't come onto a public forum if you can't respond politely. The OP is obviously worried, you're not helping matters by being so rude.

Maybe people shouldn't ask questions in AIBU if people cannot accept that not everyone will agree with them and that their views/choice of words will be challenged

Lanzarotelady · 24/09/2025 17:39

dynamiccactus · 24/09/2025 17:15

My mum had an operation last year where a "trainee" was supervised by the specialist. It was very close supervision.

The main issue was that it took much longer and was done under local, so it wasn't a great experience for my mum and she said she would have refused the trainee if she'd known how long it would take. However, it was done as well as it would have been done by the experienced consultant.

I think if it was my child I'd want the specialist doing it. But maybe have a chat. If it's just sewing up at the end, it's fine!

It was probably done under local as a GA was contra indicated - it could have taken the same amount of time even if the Consultant had done it - not everything can be seen on xray or scan and only when the operation has started can things be seen!

Anonybon · 24/09/2025 17:38

I think the word 'student' is the wrong choice here and makes them sound unqualified. They are qualified a qualified Doctor and likely have many years of experience under their belt. They're just not yet a consultant.
You can absolutely ask for reassurance around their level, experience in this procedure etc. But to insist on a consultant doing the procedure isn't really an option unless you choose to go privately, which is also your right to do. The consultant will be standing beside them overseeing every move. Majority of the time we have medical care in a public system we're treated by non consultant level doctors, but it doesn't mean they're unexperienced.

Lanzarotelady · 24/09/2025 17:37

DeathNote11 · 24/09/2025 16:58

I never consent to students, no matter how experienced they are. If I'm not asked for consent, I question why I wasn't asked & order students out of the room. I once consented to a student anaesthetist, never again. I'd assumed there would be a certain level of competence before they're given actual humans. Unfortunately, I was wrong. No way would I let one near any person I value.

Students do not administer anaesthetics!
A resident Dr may have, one who is in training and is heavily supervised. They are competent.

PeachySmile2 · 24/09/2025 17:34

RunningThroughMyHead · 24/09/2025 13:57

Surgery isn’t the same as being a qualified ophthalmology though! It’s a whole different skills set, hence they’d need full supervision.

Why is it wrong that I want someone well experienced?

It’s not wrong. Push for what you want, even if you have to wait a little longer for a fully qualified surgeon. It’s your son’s eyes. It would be an absolute no from me.

Newbutoldfather · 24/09/2025 17:31

I would consent if it were a minor operation with limited risks, but not a major operation on my child.

And again, I maybe would if they had completed multiple similar operations on adults but this was their first paediatric case.

But first operation, high risk factors, no way. I would be looking for a very experienced consultant. As would most on here were push to come to shove and they really had to face their child potentially losing their sight.

JasperTheDoll · 24/09/2025 17:30

RunningThroughMyHead · 24/09/2025 17:11

I literally acknowledged that it my OP. But I’m also a mum who wants the best for my child. I care about them much more than anyone else, obviously.

I had a student midwife deliver my third child, she did well and I had a great experience. But she posed my less risk to me as she was mainly just encouraging me and passing me the gas and air. It was low intervention and my third birth.

My son’s eye is small and the operation for his condition is very complex; long term problems from the surgery aren’t rare. A millimetre inaccuracy could render him blind in that eye, forever.

Yes, they need experience. Am I loving the fact it could be on my son who I love more than anyone? No. Although I’m starting to see the benefit of having two doctors present, as other posters have helped me see.

What is the operation that it is so complex? It could be something that the suitably trained and experienced registrar carries out multiple times a day. They could have even carried out more of that procedure recently than the Consultant.

Lougle · 24/09/2025 17:30

IneedtheeohIneedtheeeveryhourIneedthee · 24/09/2025 14:38

Please at least let your husband take your child the day of his op to be his appropriate adult. You will drive the staff mad.

I think that's really mean. The language in health care is really confusing. 'Junior', 'Trainee', 'Student' all sound like they have very little experience. Would you trust your finances to a 'trainee advisor'? The fact that these surgeons are actually very experienced isn't obvious.

@RunningThroughMyHead I used to work in a specialist theatres recovery, so spent a lot of time in theatre, and I also did my return to practice placement in general theatres.

Firstly, know that the theatres team is a lot bigger than the surgical team. You'll have an anaesthetist and an OPD who are caring for your DS's physical state during the operation. Before surgery starts, the whole team will have a 'Time Out' where they agree who the patient is, what operation is planned, any complications to be aware of, and who everyone in the team is.

You'll have a scrub nurse who is handing the surgeon everything they need and supporting them as they operate. A circulating nurse makes sure that if anything extra is needed, or equipment is needed, it's available.

Surgical trainees start by observing surgery. Then they may be invited to do a layer of stitching, or a defined part of a surgery. They never just dive in and operate.

The fact that you've been told this surgery is tricky and delicate, means that the surgeon who operates will be experienced. They may be a 'trainee', but all that means is that they have a formal contract with the hospital to give them the training they need to qualify in their speciality. Specialist training contracts are competitive and they will have done huge amounts of study and gained lots of experience to even qualify as a candidate.

Ask the questions - the Consultant's secretary would be a good place to start. They'll be able to give you the information and reassurance you need.

Allergictoironing · 24/09/2025 17:29

snappyshopper · 24/09/2025 17:10

Really?

They carry on doing exams even though they are working.

If you want to look at it that way, ALL doctors are "students", as they have to undergo CPD which usually has some form of test or exam at the end to ensure it was done properly. Plus as new techniques and instruments are developed, they need to train on those so are still "trainees" using your thinking.

From an academic point of view, is someone who has their degree and masters and is working towards a doctorate at the same level of "student" as someone who is working towards their degree?

Kirbert2 · 24/09/2025 17:28

ClawedButler · 24/09/2025 17:25

Blimey, some people.

Of course more junior doctors have to learn. But if it were me, I wouldn't really want them to learn on my child, where if it went wrong there would be no coming back from it.

She's having to consent on her son's behalf - that adds a LOT of weight to the decision.

I might consent to it being done on me. You might consent to it being done on you, or one of your loved ones.

The OP wants proper assurance that if she gives this consent, it is fully informed and is genuinely in the best interests OF HER CHILD. Not in the best interests of a registrar's career.

Exactly.

I'm sure the surgical registrar involved with my son learned a lot and will never make the same mistake again but it was almost at the expense of my child's life.

JasperTheDoll · 24/09/2025 17:27

DeathNote11 · 24/09/2025 16:58

I never consent to students, no matter how experienced they are. If I'm not asked for consent, I question why I wasn't asked & order students out of the room. I once consented to a student anaesthetist, never again. I'd assumed there would be a certain level of competence before they're given actual humans. Unfortunately, I was wrong. No way would I let one near any person I value.

Let's just be glad that not everyone thinks like you or else in around 10/15 years there will be no medical professionals left to treat people.

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