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To think that becoming wealthy changes a person

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Munichfam5 · 24/09/2025 08:55

I have a few family members and friends that have gone from a living a normal lifestyle to becoming very wealthy

They have gained their wealth from hard work and a bit of luck - think business sales, property development…

AIBU to think that when people become wealthy they start to move and socialise with people who have similar wealth as them ?

The family members for instance are what I would call social climbers, and socialise with people that are basically millionaires - I guess this is also to do with the DC’s being at a very expensive private school

I’m not trying to be negative - just asking AIBU to think this and why does this happen ?

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OhMyGiddyAnt · 24/09/2025 09:21

Some of it will be that they will be doing things where they run into other people who are wealthy. If their kids go to expensive private schools then the other ‘school mums’ are likely going to be wealthy too. Same with pastimes like golf or the gym. Or living in expensive houses and being friends with neighbour who will also live in expensive houses. That’s not social climbing that’s hanging out with the people you hang out with.

Autumn38 · 24/09/2025 09:15

I should think any big change in economic status will change someone. Not sure you have to be particularly insightful to realise this.

Thepeopleversuswork · 24/09/2025 09:08

Up to a point yes. Having money opens certain social doors.

I dont think it follows that people erase all connections to their roots if they become wealthy though.

Suddenly having a lot of money wont change your psychology overnight and many people struggle with the change that can bring, particularly when it involves subtle social cues which your upbringing hasn’t prepared you for.

TeenToTwenties · 24/09/2025 09:03

AIBU to think that when people become wealthy they start to move and socialise with people who have similar wealth as them ?

That isn't surprising though is it?
Their wealth gives them more options - move to nicer area, take up more expensive hobbies etc.

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Munichfam5 · 24/09/2025 09:00

Hi - yes absolutely agree - but I guess what I am saying is that they have forgotten where why come from .., totally

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shhblackbag · 24/09/2025 08:57

It's natural, isn't it? Especially with children in school. Doesn't mean they have to forget where they came from.

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