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Going to the shop with Chicken Pox?

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DesTeeny · 24/09/2025 07:18

DD4 may have chicken pox, I don't know for certain because apart from the spots, she is absolutely fine, no rash, no upset, nothing. I can't tell if it's chicken pox or a viral rash, as she had a stomach virus last week (thank you so much primary school, she's never been ill so often).

I've kept her off school just in case but I need to go to the pharmacy, and a shop. Is she OK to come with me if we go when it's quiet and keep her away from other people? And thoughts on going for a walk/ feed the ducks /outdoor play area if there aren't any other kids?

AIBU to take her out?

OP posts:
Allthings · 24/09/2025 08:25

User987439 · 24/09/2025 08:14

Just take her. The chicken pox vaccine exists so you can assume anyone who doesn't want it will have gotten their children vaccinated. Anyone who moans about catching it but can't be arsed to vaccinate their kids deserve to be exposed to the risk. Sorry, but true.

How selfish.

You do realise that the CP vaccine is new and will launch on NHS in Jan 26? So unless children were vaccinated privately…adults have not generally been vaccinated and not all adults have had chickenpox.

So you think those who have not had chickenpox and those who could not afford the vaccine are fair game?

User987439 · 24/09/2025 08:24

CarterBeatsTheDevil · 24/09/2025 08:19

This is incorrect. It's a live vaccine, so people with severe immunodepression can't have it. Obviously there's always a risk of catching something from someone before it's obvious they have it, but I wouldn't take my child to a place like a pharmacy with a rash that might be chicken pox if I could avoid it.

MN always tends to bring out people who belong in the 0.1% group of medical anomalies who have severe immunosuppression or rare genetic reasons why they cannot have a baseline medical treatment that has been proven effective for 99% of the population.

The point is that the vaccine exists and works well for the vast majority of healthy children. If ALL healthy children received the vaccine then it would essentially stop the transmission of chicken pox, which has a much stronger protective effect for those children who cannot have the vaccine. This is the concept behind herd immunity and the best option for all those who cannot have vaccines.

So instead of yelling at individual parents for taking their potentially infected children out, it makes far more sense to have as many children protected from the illness as possible before they are even at the risk of being infected.

DesTeeny · 24/09/2025 08:24

DoinFineIThink · 24/09/2025 08:12

She's got a rash, what's there to be confused about?!
Stay at home. Not sure why you're even asking if you're not going to listen to people?
I'm currently taking medicine to suppress my immune system, hope you're not anywhere near me.
Most pharmacies do some kind of service now, why not ring up and explain the situation? I'm sure they'd rather that than you potentially go in and infect half of them!

Well there are lots of different rashes and not all of them are contagious and would require her to be off school for a week?

It's a small, local Pharmacy, not sure what services they offer but as I said previously, I'd wait outside until no one was in there just in case. It's not like she's going to go in and touch everyone and everything?

But crikey if I knew it would cause this much upset I wouldn't have asked! I only asked a question and I'm being called selfish and all sorts! You all need to calm down a little bit.

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TheNightingalesStarling · 24/09/2025 08:21

Also have you checked her rash against other illnesses like Scarlet Fever? That would need Antibiotics for example.

CarterBeatsTheDevil · 24/09/2025 08:19

User987439 · 24/09/2025 08:14

Just take her. The chicken pox vaccine exists so you can assume anyone who doesn't want it will have gotten their children vaccinated. Anyone who moans about catching it but can't be arsed to vaccinate their kids deserve to be exposed to the risk. Sorry, but true.

This is incorrect. It's a live vaccine, so people with severe immunodepression can't have it. Obviously there's always a risk of catching something from someone before it's obvious they have it, but I wouldn't take my child to a place like a pharmacy with a rash that might be chicken pox if I could avoid it.

DoinFineIThink · 24/09/2025 08:18

User987439 · 24/09/2025 08:14

Just take her. The chicken pox vaccine exists so you can assume anyone who doesn't want it will have gotten their children vaccinated. Anyone who moans about catching it but can't be arsed to vaccinate their kids deserve to be exposed to the risk. Sorry, but true.

Angry Biscuit

User987439 · 24/09/2025 08:17

BeastAngelMadwoman · 24/09/2025 08:16

Just to clear up something that keeps getting mentioned on this thread- you can't catch shingles from someone with chicken pox.

Incidentally the shingles vaccine also exists and it's highly effective. So anyone genuinely concerned about catching it should just get jabbed instead of moaning at strangers for taking their children, who may not even be infected, out and about.

MyCatPrefersPeaches · 24/09/2025 08:17

I’m curious as to why you think it’s chickenpox if she doesn’t have the distinctive blisters? Is it known to be doing the rounds where you are or has she been in contact with someone who has it? I would ring the pharmacy, explain, and ask whether someone could pop outside to take a look when you go down to collect your medication - if it isn’t, you can go in, and if it is, they may be able to bring your stuff out for you. Alternatively, do an e consult with your GP if they offer that. You can’t keep her off for ten days just in case and it could be another virus or even an allergic reaction.

If she hasn’t got it, I’d seriously consider vaccination. We have just done this - it’s £150 for the two jabs from Boots and gives 98% protection. Those under a certain age will get it as part of pre-school boosters from next year, I think, but they aren’t running a catch-up programme. It’s more unpleasant the older you get, so would definitely consider the vaccination - it’s been around for years.

BeastAngelMadwoman · 24/09/2025 08:16

Just to clear up something that keeps getting mentioned on this thread- you can't catch shingles from someone with chicken pox.

DoinFineIThink · 24/09/2025 08:15

CarrotVan · 24/09/2025 07:57

I had a 13 week miscarriage due to catching chickenpox. Call the pharmacy and ask for advice but don’t go in

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CarterBeatsTheDevil · 24/09/2025 08:15

Twice with my little girl she came out in a rash just after playdates with kids who then got full CP, but it never blistered and disappeared very quickly. She did then get full CP in Reception. I think sometimes they might get it very mildly but not enough to develop immunity.

User987439 · 24/09/2025 08:14

Just take her. The chicken pox vaccine exists so you can assume anyone who doesn't want it will have gotten their children vaccinated. Anyone who moans about catching it but can't be arsed to vaccinate their kids deserve to be exposed to the risk. Sorry, but true.

rainbowstardrops · 24/09/2025 08:12

Even if your child doesn’t have chickenpox, they clearly have something going on, so of course you wouldn’t take them out! It would be totally selfish if you did. Have you got a partner that can pick you up your meds?

DoinFineIThink · 24/09/2025 08:12

DesTeeny · 24/09/2025 08:01

Well she has a rash so or course I know something is wrong, but she doesn't feel ill and is absolutely fine. Which, along with the fact she doesn't itch and the rash isn't the little blisters, has me very confused.

She's got a rash, what's there to be confused about?!
Stay at home. Not sure why you're even asking if you're not going to listen to people?
I'm currently taking medicine to suppress my immune system, hope you're not anywhere near me.
Most pharmacies do some kind of service now, why not ring up and explain the situation? I'm sure they'd rather that than you potentially go in and infect half of them!

CarterBeatsTheDevil · 24/09/2025 08:12

Cantgetausername87 · 24/09/2025 07:27

I mean just for a bit of balance. If you need to take her to the pharmacy then you need to take her. A lot of MN live in a world where there are lots of helpful neighbours and friends and family but it's not always the case. If you have no option then you're going to have to take her - I'm guessing pharmacy is for medication either for you or her which sounds pretty essential and not something which can be ubered to you.

I agree. I would phone the pharmacy and ask them how they would manage this. Though I will say OP that once CP has started to blister it's very clear what it is.

Overthebow · 24/09/2025 08:11

DesTeeny · 24/09/2025 08:05

So... The baby can still go to nursery, even though she's potentially infectious for the next two weeks because she's got no symptoms currently? Why would she be so far behind the big girl with symptoms etc.?

I'm really confused.

Because your baby hasn’t got chickenpox. Being in close contact with chicken pox doesn’t mean they’ll actually get it. You don’t have to keep your baby off nursery for an illness they may or may not develop.

Mummyratbag · 24/09/2025 08:10

DesTeeny · 24/09/2025 07:52

No they aren't, she's just come up in a rash over the last few days. No fluid filled blisters which is why I'm confused. Also baby at home with no symptoms, and I've never had chicken pox and I also don't have any symptoms which is why I wanted someone to look at her (and collect my medication).

You'd have to talk to the nursery, but it takes a couple of weeks for symptoms after contact. You are most infectious before the spots appear until they crust over.

Sorry meant to quote your post about keeping the baby home from nursery...

ShowOfHands · 24/09/2025 08:06

My Dh can't make immunity to chicken pox. Last time he had it, we only found out because he was in hospital with meningitis and the lumbar puncture showed chicken pox to be the cause. It gets worse each time. I dread the next time.

Ring the pharmacy and no you don't need to go to a park or to feed the ducks FFS.

Allthings · 24/09/2025 08:06

Meep2024 · 24/09/2025 07:53

I'm sorry to hear that Allthings. My Sister got shingles earlier this year and was off work for over a month. She was really poorly with it.

Shingles is a whole new ball game. I know 2 adults who have had it recently and despite antivirals they felt very grim. The second person is still off work 4 weeks later with only statutory sick pay, so they will be feeling the repercussions for a long time. One is in her 70s, but not otherwise vulnerable and the other in her 50s and not vulnerable. The younger one is fairing worse than the older one did. I hope your sister has now recovered.

DesTeeny · 24/09/2025 08:05

Mummyratbag · 24/09/2025 07:57

The incubation period is about a fortnight so your baby won't show symptoms yet. The spots look like "dew drops on a rose petal" but if in doubt send a photo to your GP surgery as others have suggested. Please don't go out, for someone immune compromised chicken pox could be serious/fatal.

Phone pharmacy - ask then to have prescription ready and then call taxi to collect (along with Virasoothe) ... remember NO ibuprofen!!

So... The baby can still go to nursery, even though she's potentially infectious for the next two weeks because she's got no symptoms currently? Why would she be so far behind the big girl with symptoms etc.?

I'm really confused.

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TheNightingalesStarling · 24/09/2025 08:02

Allthings · 24/09/2025 07:52

No, it should not be used. The child should not be going anywhere indoors and also be a distance away from anyone outside.

What I was told to do by a DOCTOR for medication and food. As a last resort.

DesTeeny · 24/09/2025 08:01

Meep2024 · 24/09/2025 07:54

So call your GPs or Pharmacy then. You can send photos who'll confirm or say otherwise. You know something isn't right or you wouldn't be keeping them off school.

Hope the little one is feeling better soon.

Well she has a rash so or course I know something is wrong, but she doesn't feel ill and is absolutely fine. Which, along with the fact she doesn't itch and the rash isn't the little blisters, has me very confused.

OP posts:
Allthings · 24/09/2025 08:00

You have loads of options without having to resort to taking your infectious child out.

For your meds phone the pharmacy and see what they suggest. I am sure that you know at least one person or have one neighbour who would be willing to collect your meds if the pharmacy can’t deliver or offer to bring the meds out to you in the carpark.

If you feel you need a diagnosis, you can send a photo via GP, 111 or perhaps the pharmacy. But I get the feeling that you already know that she has chicken pox. If you are questioning if she can go to a park, she is well enough not to require any medical intervention.

Shopping, if a friend, associate or neighbour can’t help, local facebook pages will have someone who will help, delivery options are numerous from deliveroo, Amazon and many more.

In the meantime keep your child away from anyone until no longer infectious. Any adult or child can end up very ill with chickenpox, not just vulnerable people.

Meep2024 · 24/09/2025 07:59

CarrotVan · 24/09/2025 07:57

I had a 13 week miscarriage due to catching chickenpox. Call the pharmacy and ask for advice but don’t go in

I'm so sorry CarrotVan 😪