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Going to the shop with Chicken Pox?

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DesTeeny · 24/09/2025 07:18

DD4 may have chicken pox, I don't know for certain because apart from the spots, she is absolutely fine, no rash, no upset, nothing. I can't tell if it's chicken pox or a viral rash, as she had a stomach virus last week (thank you so much primary school, she's never been ill so often).

I've kept her off school just in case but I need to go to the pharmacy, and a shop. Is she OK to come with me if we go when it's quiet and keep her away from other people? And thoughts on going for a walk/ feed the ducks /outdoor play area if there aren't any other kids?

AIBU to take her out?

OP posts:
SilverCamellia · 24/09/2025 09:33

DesTeeny · 24/09/2025 08:05

So... The baby can still go to nursery, even though she's potentially infectious for the next two weeks because she's got no symptoms currently? Why would she be so far behind the big girl with symptoms etc.?

I'm really confused.

2 weeks incubation for chicken pox. You are often unwell a few days before the spots.

Meep2024 · 24/09/2025 09:32

DesTeeny · 24/09/2025 08:36

Haven't actually gone anywhere, haven't actually done anything, not ignored anyone, asking other people what they'd do and talking it through.

Not selfish, you're being rude. Thanks though.

She's not being rude at all. You said you need to go to the pharmacy for your essential meds now saying it's to check the rash. Whether it's either or both you can do both of those things remotely. As I said before uber now has a courier service where they can run errands for you. There won't be not anyone in the pharmacy when you go because the workers are in there too. Workers can be vulnerable too.

blueskydays45 · 24/09/2025 09:28

dementedpixie · 24/09/2025 09:24

Chickenpox is very definitely airborne!
Not sure this sounds like CP though if they aren't blistering, arent itchy and arent scabbing over

Sorry, it is airborne but through coughs and sneezes, which it doesn't sound like she has. I would have thought a 4 year old, on a buggy with the hood up, could practice good enough hand hygiene to quickly grab needed medication or essentials from the shops

Wkanznjs · 24/09/2025 09:27

DesTeeny · 24/09/2025 07:52

No they aren't, she's just come up in a rash over the last few days. No fluid filled blisters which is why I'm confused. Also baby at home with no symptoms, and I've never had chicken pox and I also don't have any symptoms which is why I wanted someone to look at her (and collect my medication).

Send the blister pics to chat gpt or put them on here so someone can do it for you.

The bigger issue here is you - you haven’t had chicken pox. You need a vaccine or if you catch it from your kids at some stage, you will be really quite ill. It might be too late as it can take 3 weeks to show up after infection. But please watch out for yourself

re your meds - call up the pharmacy and ask if anyone can deliver them to you. It isn’t great having a child with chicken pox in a pharmacy, but if nobody will deliver and you need your meds, then you will have to go in. It’s all very well people saying don’t - but there isn’t anyone helping the OP, so she runs out of options.

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 24/09/2025 09:26

You don’t need to take her to the pharmacy to check if it’s chicken pox - you can look up what chicken pox look like on line if you need to. I suspect it’ll soon become clear if it’s chicken pox of a viral rash.

If you need to get your own medication, is there no other adult who could watch her for a while or couldn’t your partner or another adult get the medication for you?

Outdoor walks are fine but not where anyone else will come into contact with her.

When you say “thank you primary school” re the bugs, did she not go to nursery?

dementedpixie · 24/09/2025 09:24

blueskydays45 · 24/09/2025 09:22

Chicken pox is not airborne so you could put her in a buggy if you still have one, put the hood up and a blanket on her so she is well covered and make sure she isn't touching anything in the shops and it will be fine. I'd also say a walk is fine, especially if it's somewhere quiet. Play park, I'd say no as she would be touching all the surfaces which would then be touched by other kids.

Chickenpox is very definitely airborne!
Not sure this sounds like CP though if they aren't blistering, arent itchy and arent scabbing over

ClaraLane · 24/09/2025 09:23

If they’re not itchy/fluid fills then it’s probably a viral rash as you’ve said she’s been ill. Quite common to get a viral rash, my 63 yo mum has had one recently following a cold and was surprised when I said what it was as she was thinking shingles but wasn’t in pain/itchy.

dementedpixie · 24/09/2025 09:22

They dont sound like chickenpox spots. They would scab over rather than just fade away.
I'm guessing a post viral rash rather than chickenpox

Tiredofwhataboutery · 24/09/2025 09:22

My pharmacist has a bell so you can ring them they will come and take a peek. Then on minor ailments can give calamine/ paracetamol. It may very well be a post viral rash and pharmacists are excellent at knowing. I also found with chicken pox it goes a couple of spots to lots very quickly so might be apparent later on.

blueskydays45 · 24/09/2025 09:22

Chicken pox is not airborne so you could put her in a buggy if you still have one, put the hood up and a blanket on her so she is well covered and make sure she isn't touching anything in the shops and it will be fine. I'd also say a walk is fine, especially if it's somewhere quiet. Play park, I'd say no as she would be touching all the surfaces which would then be touched by other kids.

DesTeeny · 24/09/2025 09:21

LiliLena · 24/09/2025 09:20

Did they develop gradually staring with one or 2 pox at first? Have they been insanely itchy to the point of having to have an oat bath?

They don't itch at all, she doesn't feel unwell or poorly. She did develop one or two slightly before the others but the majority all came up in a matter of hours.

OP posts:
LiliLena · 24/09/2025 09:20

DesTeeny · 24/09/2025 09:18

This is the third day, no blisters have developed at all, the spots seem to be getting smaller.

Did they develop gradually staring with one or 2 pox at first? Have they been insanely itchy to the point of having to have an oat bath?

DesTeeny · 24/09/2025 09:20

LiliLena · 24/09/2025 09:16

did they all come on at once or did it start with one or 2 then spread? That kind of looks like cp. I'm not a medic though.

All at once, maybe one or two slightly before but mainly all together.

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DesTeeny · 24/09/2025 09:18

FlyingUnicornWings · 24/09/2025 08:56

IMO that does look chicken poxy. When did she come out in the spots? When both mine had it, both woke up with spots and by the end of the day they had little white pin prick blisters on. They usually start of stomach and trunk, come in batches (so you might find a new cluster of spots later/tomorrow morning), and will crust over in a few days. So for example, these ones might blister later, then you might find some new spots elsewhere (they can appear anywhere on the body - my youngest had one on the edge of his nostril!), then they’ll blister etc etc.

You can’t go out until all the clusters of spots have crusted over. She will have been contagious for a few days before spots appeared, and until all are crusted. Generally an incubation period of 14 days, so expect the baby to come down with it in a couple of weeks.

I’ve never had chicken pox, but an immune so might be the case for you too, if not you might get it and it’s generally worse in adults. Might be good to stock up and prepare for that happening.

It really is a pain in the arse, I know, but you really should stay in. If you’re worried, give the drs a call and send the pic, but unless your daughter has other health issues and is otherwise well, I wouldn’t bother. Not all kids get poorly with it, and it did make me laugh that she’s climbing the walls already. Buckle in, you’re in for a fun and itchy few days!

Edited to add: if it doesn’t follow the normal course for chicken pox - then it could be a viral rash. You’ll know by later if those spots develop little blisters in.

Edited

This is the third day, no blisters have developed at all, the spots seem to be getting smaller.

OP posts:
RubySquid · 24/09/2025 09:17

stichguru · 24/09/2025 07:33

Unless she needs to see a doctor. anywhere she might meet people outside your household are COMPLETELY out of bounds until ALL her spots are totally scabbed. Chicken pox can be a serious illness and shingles is even more likely to be, and you can't just look at someone and know whether they will catch it and how bad it will be.

Hmm how does that work with siblings then? My eldest had the pox. So I could keep her away from other people outside the household but not away from her sister who she shared a room with. And seeing as sister didn't have pox she was still experienced to be at school etc

Though it was contagious before spots appeared anyway

BTW DD2 didn't get the pox until nearly 2 years later

LiliLena · 24/09/2025 09:16

DesTeeny · 24/09/2025 08:49

Happy to! I just want someone other than me to look at her (preferably medical but happy for other grans and mums).

It's just little bumps, they almost look like insect bites? but where she'd have gotten them I don't know. This is her tummy (cropped for obvious reasons) where the most spots are. She has a few on one leg and one on her lip, that's it.

did they all come on at once or did it start with one or 2 then spread? That kind of looks like cp. I'm not a medic though.

CarterBeatsTheDevil · 24/09/2025 09:14

User987439 · 24/09/2025 08:24

MN always tends to bring out people who belong in the 0.1% group of medical anomalies who have severe immunosuppression or rare genetic reasons why they cannot have a baseline medical treatment that has been proven effective for 99% of the population.

The point is that the vaccine exists and works well for the vast majority of healthy children. If ALL healthy children received the vaccine then it would essentially stop the transmission of chicken pox, which has a much stronger protective effect for those children who cannot have the vaccine. This is the concept behind herd immunity and the best option for all those who cannot have vaccines.

So instead of yelling at individual parents for taking their potentially infected children out, it makes far more sense to have as many children protected from the illness as possible before they are even at the risk of being infected.

Edited

I'm aware of herd immunity and why it's important, but (a) all healthy children and adults are not vaccinated because until literally a month ago it was not part of the national inoculation programme, (b) it still won't be offered to everyone who is fit to have the vaccine because it will be offered to a particular cohort of children and (c) thanks to the inexplicable rise of anti-vaccine bullshit many people who could have their kids vaccinated won't.

It's really basic social etiquette not to take your infectious child to places where other people who are vulnerable to disease might catch it from her. Really, really basic.

LiliLena · 24/09/2025 09:13

DesTeeny · 24/09/2025 08:01

Well she has a rash so or course I know something is wrong, but she doesn't feel ill and is absolutely fine. Which, along with the fact she doesn't itch and the rash isn't the little blisters, has me very confused.

A rash isn't chicken pox?

Call the GP, 111 or do an online triage, often you can submit a photo and they triage / diagnose remotely.

You shouldn't go to the shops if you suspect CP.

Does she actually have that typical pox @DesTeeny ? It almost always starts with one or 2 significant pox and then become more but thes pox are very distinct looking.

GAJLY · 24/09/2025 09:12

When I wasn't sure one of mine had chicken pox I rang the doctors. They told me to wait outside around 6.30pm until they rang me to go in. This was to avoid contact with other patients at the end of the day. They confirmed it was chicken pox. So no you can't take her into shops but you could ring the chemist when you're outside and explain. They might come outside to check it.

Longtimelurkerfinallyposts · 24/09/2025 09:11

there are lots of possible reasons for a rash - and this doesn't look like it's definitely chickenpox at all.
It coul be something like scabies - which nobody's even mentioned yet, but might have been picked up at school.

OP I don't understand why you're getting so many rude responses on here and people accusing you of being selfish, when all you've one is ask for advice!

It's fine to walk (or drive) to the pharmacy, and for your dc to stand outside! You could ask the staff to bring your prescription out to you, and also ask if the pharmacist could please pop out to look at the rash, to see if they can identify it.

Even more laughable is the poster who went off on one about the selfishness of parents who hadn't had their children vaccinated vs chickenpox. Even though this is NOT available to everyone on the NHS, and many parents presumably can't afford to have it done privately.
www.nhs.uk/vaccinations/chickenpox-vaccine/

PurpleThistle7 · 24/09/2025 09:07

User987439 · 24/09/2025 08:17

Incidentally the shingles vaccine also exists and it's highly effective. So anyone genuinely concerned about catching it should just get jabbed instead of moaning at strangers for taking their children, who may not even be infected, out and about.

This also isn't true. You can only get it where I'm from if you're over 50. I had shingles at 38 and chicken pox (for a second time) at 39 and I have never felt so unwell. This puts me at a higher risk for having shingles again but they still won't let me get the shingles jab even if I pay for it - firm rule for over 50s only and I'm 45.

FlyingUnicornWings · 24/09/2025 08:56

DesTeeny · 24/09/2025 08:49

Happy to! I just want someone other than me to look at her (preferably medical but happy for other grans and mums).

It's just little bumps, they almost look like insect bites? but where she'd have gotten them I don't know. This is her tummy (cropped for obvious reasons) where the most spots are. She has a few on one leg and one on her lip, that's it.

IMO that does look chicken poxy. When did she come out in the spots? When both mine had it, both woke up with spots and by the end of the day they had little white pin prick blisters on. They usually start of stomach and trunk, come in batches (so you might find a new cluster of spots later/tomorrow morning), and will crust over in a few days. So for example, these ones might blister later, then you might find some new spots elsewhere (they can appear anywhere on the body - my youngest had one on the edge of his nostril!), then they’ll blister etc etc.

You can’t go out until all the clusters of spots have crusted over. She will have been contagious for a few days before spots appeared, and until all are crusted. Generally an incubation period of 14 days, so expect the baby to come down with it in a couple of weeks.

I’ve never had chicken pox, but an immune so might be the case for you too, if not you might get it and it’s generally worse in adults. Might be good to stock up and prepare for that happening.

It really is a pain in the arse, I know, but you really should stay in. If you’re worried, give the drs a call and send the pic, but unless your daughter has other health issues and is otherwise well, I wouldn’t bother. Not all kids get poorly with it, and it did make me laugh that she’s climbing the walls already. Buckle in, you’re in for a fun and itchy few days!

Edited to add: if it doesn’t follow the normal course for chicken pox - then it could be a viral rash. You’ll know by later if those spots develop little blisters in.

user2848502016 · 24/09/2025 08:56

A walk outdoors when it’s quiet should be fine but not a shop, and not the playground.

Maybe you could call the pharmacy and ask if they can look at her and what time is best to come- then you won’t be hanging around? Going to a pharmacy isn’t any different from going to a GP surgery really, unless we’re talking one in a supermarket or big Boots.

The rash really doesn’t look like chicken pox though, the blisters come up quite quickly too so if she’s had it a couple of days I doubt that’s what it is.

Clockstops · 24/09/2025 08:56

I think if OP phones they'll tell her to take her in...

Allthings · 24/09/2025 08:54

DesTeeny · 24/09/2025 08:50

Yes but I could have then asked someone to have a look and they could decide for themselves whether they wanted to get close to her if they'd had it before or not...!

if you phoned them in the first instance you would be sorted. Once you have taken your child in it’s too late as CP is highly contagious. Are you not able to use the phone?