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To ask where do mums find the time?!

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Yoyomelon · 23/09/2025 18:44

I'm going on a girls holiday with my friends. It's the first time we have done this since our twenties and now we are all turning 40. In prep for the holiday because all my friends are babes I've been getting my nails, waxing, highlights etc done (which is not something i ever do anymore as i work full time and have kids) but it amazes me how some mums manage to stay so put together getting their roots/nails done every 6 weeks. I was 3 and half hours getting my highlights done yday plus another 2 hours getting my nails done today, I can handle the cost but where on earth are you getting the time!!!!

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Thepeopleversuswork · 23/09/2025 19:06

People have different schedules/budgets/priorities. Some people don’t have the money, some do. Some people dont particularly care about that, others put a great deal of stress on it.

I like to look reasonably well put together and need to look smart for work but I don’t think I would bother with all of that for a girls’ weekend, personally.

Each to their own.

Trafficwardentina · 23/09/2025 19:02

Springadorable · 23/09/2025 18:45

None of my mum friends get their hair or nails done. Zero time. Or inclination.

Agree. Neither me or anyone I know finds the fake hair / nails look at all attractive / aspirational. There’s more to life OP.

Iwantmyoldnameback · 23/09/2025 19:00

My nail tech is in my hairdressers it's really useful. My nails are done while my hair is taking.

MumChp · 23/09/2025 18:56

I have the time if it was important to me to go to the hairdresser or get nails done.
Tomorrow afternoon I spend 4 hours being a girl guide leader. My choice.

TinyTempest · 23/09/2025 18:55

Presumably they find time on their days off or in the evenings when their partners are home?

padso · 23/09/2025 18:55

I do eyebrows monthly on my day off. Facial maybe every 3 months. Nails do myself & keep pedicures to the summer.

padso · 23/09/2025 18:53

People just prioritise differently. I see family & friends a lot & work (p/t) plus dd are still young so I don't have time to for weekly beauty treatments. My highlights & balayage takes hours, I only do it every 4 months as it's a whole Saturday gone.

MoreDangerousThanAWomanScorned · 23/09/2025 18:53

I don't get either highlights or nails done - but if I did, work, not the kids, would be the main barrier/thing I'd have to schedule around. I'd have to do it at the weekend, so I'd just leave the kids with DH, just like I do if I want to go out at the weekend for any other reason.

Outlookqueen · 23/09/2025 18:51

My husband parents his daughter whilst I get my hair done/ eyebrows done etc. If he’s working or not around for whatever reason, I’ll see if my mum can watch her for a couple of hours or whatever.

This would be a lot harder with multiple kids/ as a single parent obviously.

Crushed23 · 23/09/2025 18:48

I presume the children’s second parent looks after the children while they’re getting their hair and nails done.

Mydadsbirthday · 23/09/2025 18:47

I simply don't have time for this - I get a blow dry every couple of weeks by a hairdresser that does it in 20 minutes flat a few minutes walk from my house and I get my eyebrows done every month or so. I work full time in a senior role and this keeps me looking fairly groomed. I never get my nails done but one of my colleagues has someone come to her house to do her nails.

casualcrispenjoyer · 23/09/2025 18:46

My husband looks after them whilst I go to the salon?

I make appointments at weekends, stick it in the calendar and then announce I am going?

Springadorable · 23/09/2025 18:45

None of my mum friends get their hair or nails done. Zero time. Or inclination.