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WTF IS THIS ENTITLED MESSAGE FROM FRIEND!!!

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Iamthequeenoftheworld · 23/09/2025 16:59

I get a text message from old friend from work who lives abroad I talk briefly to like once a year or once every 2 years, we were never close at all, more like Facebook friends

“hey, I gave your number to these people from Ukraine. Can you please explain uk pensions to them. What they are and how they work, how they can get them etc. They will call you tomorrow”

i dont helping people, at first thought it was just a question or two and when I heard Ukraine I thought some vulnerable refugees.

I didn’t think and just agreed.

my husband and son and daughter are now telling me off. Going wtf is this entitled

what do you think, is my husband right?

I don’t mind helping, but it’s the way she told me is the problem

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mumofoneAloneandwell · 23/09/2025 17:07

Yanbu, its entitled and dickish to do it in that way

PleaseGoodNews · 23/09/2025 17:07

I don’t give out anybody’s number to anybody else without seeking their permission. Even in a work setting. Sometimes I am being overcautious but I would rather get it wrong this way.

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Iamthequeenoftheworld · 23/09/2025 17:06

Also dd just looked them up on this woman’s friends list and these people are Ukrainian but from Spain, according to Facebook lived 20 years in Spain, so not refugees and look well off! If this is themI don’t understand why they’d need my help

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Arlanymor · 23/09/2025 17:05

She shouldn't be giving your number to anybody without your express permission first - never mind assuming you will do a favour that you might not be either inclined or able to do.

Tastaturen · 23/09/2025 17:05

Make sure she knows not to give your number out to anyone else.
Whether you help or not is up to you, if I was able to I might, but while I'd try to give accurate information, I wouldn't spend a lot of time on it!

ElfAndSafetyBored · 23/09/2025 17:05

Can you even help them? There’s so many variables.

Just send them a link to the UK Government info about Ukrainians getting help in UK.

And ask acquaintance not to give your number out to anyone in future.

Shedmistress · 23/09/2025 17:03

What do you mean you agreed? What was your response? What do you know about UK pensions for Ukranian people?

MyMilchick · 23/09/2025 17:02

She should certainly not have given your number to anyone without asking your permission first. I'd be pissed off about that part and I would tell her that however if you know a lot about pensions and were originally happy to help i probably would anyway as really it's not the poor Ukrainian peoples fault that your friend went about it the wrong way!

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