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WTF IS THIS ENTITLED MESSAGE FROM FRIEND!!!

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Iamthequeenoftheworld · 23/09/2025 16:59

I get a text message from old friend from work who lives abroad I talk briefly to like once a year or once every 2 years, we were never close at all, more like Facebook friends

“hey, I gave your number to these people from Ukraine. Can you please explain uk pensions to them. What they are and how they work, how they can get them etc. They will call you tomorrow”

i dont helping people, at first thought it was just a question or two and when I heard Ukraine I thought some vulnerable refugees.

I didn’t think and just agreed.

my husband and son and daughter are now telling me off. Going wtf is this entitled

what do you think, is my husband right?

I don’t mind helping, but it’s the way she told me is the problem

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blacksax · 23/09/2025 21:46

AngelicKaty · 23/09/2025 18:17

Well they'd have to pay at least 10 years worth of NI contributions to be eligible for any UK state pension at all and it wouldn't even be close to a full state pension.

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Quite. But they don't know that... yet.

Crazyworldmum · 23/09/2025 21:44

It’s very entitled and very rude . I have this all the time , I’m not originally from the uk and a solicitor so often have people from my home country messaging and calling telling me …….. gave them my contact because they think I can help them, people I never even meet assume because they have the same nationality I should help them . Often is stuff I don’t even deal with . I started ignoring every message and call . I once even got invited to dinner at someone’s house just to get there and she had 2 friends who needed my help .
Its the epitome of entitlement imo .

HevenlyMeS · 23/09/2025 21:30

I'm so sorry you've been put in this predicament
Your friend /acquaintance should never give out your number without your permission 1st
Hope she now comprehends this completely
Wishing You&Yours all the utmost very best

Namechangerage · 23/09/2025 21:03

Iamthequeenoftheworld · 23/09/2025 19:58

The cleaner one is my mom. She had that problem at work and I posted as if I were her asking for advice.

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Sure, Jan!

Sure Jan GIF
Hmmmnmmn · 23/09/2025 20:59

If you work in pensions and your friend is sending people your way she might expect you can broker a deal to make money from them and she's crafty enough to already have made money from it. Apart from her being presumptuous What's the big deal and why are you saying it's a scam- you work in pensions so it's reasonable to send people your way.

Deerfolk · 23/09/2025 20:47

All these troll hunters ruining an interesting thread. I want to know more

CremeEggsForBreakfast · 23/09/2025 20:39

I don't think it's that weird to post from the point of view of the person for whom you're seeking advice. You get better advice that way rather than a ton of people asking why you're sticking your nose on your mum's business or telling you that you doubt over involved or other such unhelpful nonsense.

I think it's more weird that people go to the effort of searching someone's previous posts and picking holes.

PuggyPuggyPuggy · 23/09/2025 20:32

Well for once, this is genuinely a post that could identify OP in real life. Bet there's not many people being nominated by distant acquaintances to advise wealthy Ukrainians from Spain about UK pensions 😂

gamerchick · 23/09/2025 20:31

3 pages and it's clear as mud.

Why are you swerving the question as to WHY your friend has set this thing up. WHY does your friend think you're the person ?

Thehop · 23/09/2025 20:25

I hope you bloody told them! What a CF!

MrMucker · 23/09/2025 20:22

I really don't believe a word of this.
So many slip ups.

I'll stop now 🙄

Arlanymor · 23/09/2025 20:15

Iamthequeenoftheworld · 23/09/2025 20:14

you’re right. I won’t be doing that anymore. at the time I just really needed quick advice for my mom and didn’t think I’d be coming back to mumsnet anymore in future/start threads

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Fair enough. I just think it’s better to be upfront about things. And as for your situation it is nuts and your ‘friend’ is appalling. Hopefully not a friend after this.

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Iamthequeenoftheworld · 23/09/2025 20:14

Arlanymor · 23/09/2025 20:11

Is it? I think it makes you look dishonest because people can see your previous posts. Why should they believe you now?

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you’re right. I won’t be doing that anymore. at the time I just really needed quick advice for my mom and didn’t think I’d be coming back to mumsnet anymore in future/start threads

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Arlanymor · 23/09/2025 20:11

Iamthequeenoftheworld · 23/09/2025 20:07

Why? When you quickly need advice and from your account, posting I, is simpler than my mom is having this problem! She said this, she told me, she feels this etc Especially to get traffic on post in the title. I just thought it was simpler that way

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Is it? I think it makes you look dishonest because people can see your previous posts. Why should they believe you now?

nomas · 23/09/2025 20:09

Why would Ukrainians who don’t live here be entitled to a UK state pension?

FairKoala · 23/09/2025 20:08

Tell them to send you all their money and you will invest their pension pot for them

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Or just tell them that all they have to do is move to the UK get a visa to work here then after 35 years of working and paying Tax and National Insurance they can claim their “free” money and have the luxury of choice.

Do they prefer Eating or Heating

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Iamthequeenoftheworld · 23/09/2025 20:07

Arlanymor · 23/09/2025 20:06

Ok. That’s quite odd.

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Why? When you quickly need advice and from your account, posting I, is simpler than my mom is having this problem! She said this, she told me, she feels this etc Especially to get traffic on post in the title. I just thought it was simpler that way

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Arlanymor · 23/09/2025 20:06

Iamthequeenoftheworld · 23/09/2025 20:05

Yes. My mom is a cleaner. It’s my mom story. She was having a problem at work and asked for my advice and I posted on here looking for advice and I posted as if I were her

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Ok. That’s quite odd.

Studyunder · 23/09/2025 20:06

Don’t answer. It sounds like you’d be opening a can of worms and while you may well have knowledge you could share. At the end of the day, you’re not best placed to actually help, other than signposting them to the correct website.

You should message your friend and say you’ve looked into it some more but don’t feel you’re able to advice accurately for their situation and she/they need to go along more official channels for up to date information. Or something along those lines 🤷🏼‍♀️

This is one of those classic situations when you try to be helpful and do the right thing to be nice. Yet it ends up causing you lots of stress. If it’s your actual jobs and paid professional- they can get their info from you through proper process. otherwise, it’s someone else’s actual job to do.

Also bear in mind, if you help this time, your number could end up getting passed onto others in future! If your friend persists then I’d be blocking them (after letting them know it’s not ok to give your phone number to strangers).

Good luck whatever you do! Keep up posted!

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Iamthequeenoftheworld · 23/09/2025 20:05

Arlanymor · 23/09/2025 19:43

Hmmm… care to explain OP?

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Yes. My mom is a cleaner. It’s my mom story. She was having a problem at work and asked for my advice and I posted on here looking for advice and I posted as if I were her

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Agapornis · 23/09/2025 20:05

Elliania · 23/09/2025 20:01

So you're in the UK, work in the field of UK pensions but you call your Mum "Mom"? That's a bit weird.

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Regional differences - could be in the west midlands.

Elliania · 23/09/2025 20:01

Iamthequeenoftheworld · 23/09/2025 19:58

The cleaner one is my mom. She had that problem at work and I posted as if I were her asking for advice.

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So you're in the UK, work in the field of UK pensions but you call your Mum "Mom"? That's a bit weird.

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Iamthequeenoftheworld · 23/09/2025 19:58

Shakemesexy · 23/09/2025 19:33

You said you’re a cleaner working nights on another post. Are you that and a pensions expert for Ukrainians too? Must be a tough juggle.

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The cleaner one is my mom. She had that problem at work and I posted as if I were her asking for advice.

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MrMucker · 23/09/2025 19:58

So OP is looking for pensions advice herself.

Happy to apologise if wrong, of course.
OP, come back and correct me...

Agapornis · 23/09/2025 19:57

If this is real and you work in pensions you'll know who to report this to.

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