WTF IS THIS ENTITLED MESSAGE FROM FRIEND!!!

Iamthequeenoftheworld · 2025-09-23T15:59:08+00:00

I get a text message from old friend from work who lives abroad I talk briefly to like once a year or once every 2 years, we were never close at all, more like Facebook friends “hey, I gave your number to these people from Ukraine. Can you please explain uk pensions to them. What they are and how they work, how they can get them etc. They will call you tomorrow” i dont helping people, at first thought it was just a question or two and when I heard Ukraine I thought some vulnerable refugees. I didn’t think and just agreed. my husband and son and daughter are now telling me off. Going wtf is this entitled what do you think, is my husband right? I don’t mind helping, but it’s the way she told me is the problem

Bumcake · 22/04/2026 13:22

Zombie thread!

Dinggirl · 22/04/2026 05:36

Iamthequeenoftheworld · 24/09/2025 16:08

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this turned out to be a scam. This friend was scamming them. They thought they were getting professional pension advice.

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Was it actually your friend, it could be her phone was stolen?

Dinggirl · 22/04/2026 05:34

mzpq · 23/09/2025 23:48

Pretending to be your own mother on an internet forum doesn't seem odd to you?

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People change details all the time on here to keep things anonymous

NotThisShitAgain121 · 21/04/2026 14:54

Block them all or even better change your phone number.

TheBaneOfLife · 24/09/2025 23:49

@Iamthequeenoftheworldid be reporting this 'friend' to action fraud asap!

JimPanzee · 24/09/2025 23:45

SemiRetiredLoveGoddeess · 24/09/2025 23:14

How does she know what these so called people are from the Ukraine and not scammers?

They may be after your UK address next. They already have your phone number.

She had no right to give your phone number to them. Does she even realise what she has done?

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Well she's the scammer, so if they are too I hope they've taken her for a ride!

SemiRetiredLoveGoddeess · 24/09/2025 23:14

JustStopItNorasaurus · 23/09/2025 17:08

As a solicitor (no longer practicing) i am very used to people deciding I can give information for them or their friends and family. I am also used to them getting shitty and saying 'where is the harm if you just answer the question?'. Because either I don't know (my speciality was in family law not fucking conveyancing / criminal law/ etc etc etc) or because there are strict regulations against providing ad hoc advice.

I always say 'Can I direct you to this [website]. It's not my area'.

Then I would seriously bollock your friend for giving out your contact details. If they do not have enough respect for you, then stuff em.

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How does she know what these so called people are from the Ukraine and not scammers?

They may be after your UK address next. They already have your phone number.

She had no right to give your phone number to them. Does she even realise what she has done?

NotThisShitAgain121 · 24/09/2025 19:08

Err why can't she explain it? Cheeky cow. Block her on social media and via phone and any other method of contact. Block any unrecognisable numbers. Have a stern word with your family about their attitude. If anyone should be pissed off it should be you. The bloody cheek of it!

Isinglass20 · 24/09/2025 18:47

I’d refer them to the Ukrainian embassy or consulate. No one else will know about pensions for Ukrainian who are now only allowed to stay in UK for a limited period.

I would fear your mobile number being handed on to other Ukrainians by these Ukrainians.

You don’t know who they are and why are they leaving Europe?

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Iamthequeenoftheworld · 24/09/2025 16:08

pestowithwalnuts · 24/09/2025 12:25

They probably want to know how they can get benefits.
Have they rang you yet ?

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this turned out to be a scam. This friend was scamming them. They thought they were getting professional pension advice.

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pestowithwalnuts · 24/09/2025 12:25

They probably want to know how they can get benefits.
Have they rang you yet ?

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Iamthequeenoftheworld · 24/09/2025 12:22

Silverbirchleaf · 24/09/2025 11:05

It may sound obvious, why can’t they just look on the internet? The info is all there.

That’s what I thought!!

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JimPanzee · 24/09/2025 11:19

Iamthequeenoftheworld · 24/09/2025 10:17

Yep she blocked me

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Not just a CF so, but an actual lying, cheating, scumbag, bitch!! You're better off without her @Iamthequeenoftheworld.

As for the poor people she scammed - I hope they report her and sue her for their money back.

NewYorkSummer · 24/09/2025 11:14

Iamthequeenoftheworld · 24/09/2025 10:05

I am sharing this the same reason anyone on mumsnet shares anything

She said Ukrainian/from Ukraine, didn’t just say people who need pension advice. Why mention their nationality? That’s why I thought refugees.

and because more settled/well off people are less likely to need some random stranger free help and would know how to google

yes it does change things because I thought I was offering free help to vulnerable refugees/people who need it. Yes I am a pension advisor.

And i turned out to be right to think this she later texts me they are poor Ukrainian refugees who don’t speak English working in uk and need help they really need a pension.

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So they’re not the wealthy couple living in Spain you DMd? How did they manage to respond if they don’t understand English?

Silverbirchleaf · 24/09/2025 11:05

It may sound obvious, why can’t they just look on the internet? The info is all there.

Nimbus3000 · 24/09/2025 10:33

Iamthequeenoftheworld · 24/09/2025 10:17

Yep she blocked me

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seems like she's done you a favour there!

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Iamthequeenoftheworld · 24/09/2025 10:17

Nimbus3000 · 24/09/2025 10:09

Have you told your friend you know she was scamming them?

Yep she blocked me

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Iamthequeenoftheworld · 24/09/2025 10:16

banananas1999 · 24/09/2025 04:26

Dont get involved at all. Most ukranian “refugees” are from Lviv Kiev etc areas not affected by the war,I have EU family members doing business in Ukraine,sometimes 45min drive from the front line, it is not Gaza there. I once couldnt huy Pellegrino water from Tesco,shop assisstant said its due to ukranian war (lack of Italian water??), so asked family member to pop into supermarket near the front line and tell me if they had it- of course and many more,shops are better stocked than shops in the UK, restaurants are open,nightclubs are open,hotels are open,life is usual minus occasional air sirens but russians are targetting military sites only theres very low risk to civilians. The refugees in Europe have had a great chance for something that was impossible for an average ukranian before the military operation, access to EU, UK, Canada etc- their average salary there is 180USD a month, with tight visa requirements before and small incomes like this,its a golden ticket now to move out.

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sorry but this sounds like a Russian bot posts, calling it millitary operation and not war.

Not affected?? That’s just not true. my husbands friend has a Ukrainian wife and her sisters live in Kiev and it’s horrific what they are going through/the stories we hear

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Nimbus3000 · 24/09/2025 10:09

Have you told your friend you know she was scamming them?

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Iamthequeenoftheworld · 24/09/2025 10:05

Hedgehogbrown · 24/09/2025 01:32

Why are you even asking us? Why did you expect them to be refugees? Why does that change the fact you offered to help them. Just block them and tell them to ask Chat GPT if you don't want to help? Are you an expert in pensions or something? Strange post.

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I am sharing this the same reason anyone on mumsnet shares anything

She said Ukrainian/from Ukraine, didn’t just say people who need pension advice. Why mention their nationality? That’s why I thought refugees.

and because more settled/well off people are less likely to need some random stranger free help and would know how to google

yes it does change things because I thought I was offering free help to vulnerable refugees/people who need it. Yes I am a pension advisor.

And i turned out to be right to think this she later texts me they are poor Ukrainian refugees who don’t speak English working in uk and need help they really need a pension.

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TheMeasure · 24/09/2025 09:30

Regardless of all the rest of it, why on earth would a Ukrainian living in Spain (or a Spaniard living in Ukraine) qualify for a UK pension anyway?

ZlaMavka · 24/09/2025 09:18

banananas1999 · 24/09/2025 04:26

Dont get involved at all. Most ukranian “refugees” are from Lviv Kiev etc areas not affected by the war,I have EU family members doing business in Ukraine,sometimes 45min drive from the front line, it is not Gaza there. I once couldnt huy Pellegrino water from Tesco,shop assisstant said its due to ukranian war (lack of Italian water??), so asked family member to pop into supermarket near the front line and tell me if they had it- of course and many more,shops are better stocked than shops in the UK, restaurants are open,nightclubs are open,hotels are open,life is usual minus occasional air sirens but russians are targetting military sites only theres very low risk to civilians. The refugees in Europe have had a great chance for something that was impossible for an average ukranian before the military operation, access to EU, UK, Canada etc- their average salary there is 180USD a month, with tight visa requirements before and small incomes like this,its a golden ticket now to move out.

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The russians have been bombing / murdering civilians in Ukraine ever since the invasion started.

Okrr · 24/09/2025 08:29

Silverbirchleaf · 23/09/2025 17:17

What a weird request, and why does she think Ukrainians living in Spain are entitled to UK pensions?

Exactly, have they ever lived in the UK would be my first question.

Epidote · 24/09/2025 08:26

Tell her you don't know we'll about the system and block.

Catwalking · 24/09/2025 07:32

Can you block unknown callers somehow?