Aibu to think this is a good salary?

Yanbi. I'd settle the argument by agreeing to increase my hours to bring home the same salary and faux-naively sit him down to split drop offs, food shops etc

Tell him he can do all school drop off, or organization of them, all cooking cleaning if you up your hours, tell him you will emplor a cleaner ( I pressed wring on the vote ) I voted yanbu

I'd also point out, "we always said" is on the past, possibly in different circumstances.

What was the reason then?

Money - you are doing fine for money. Was the plan to save more (and if so, for what? Safety cushion? Bigger house? More holidays?)

Your career prospects? Does doing 30 hours prevent you from being promoted?

Whatever the reason was then, does it still hold? Is it still important to you both?

Unless you have a career you're genuinely really interested in and want to go back to, there's no way I'd consider it. There's nothing wrong with wanting to spend time on family life! You shouldn't have to justify that to your husband or anyone else.

I also work 3 days a week and OH is FT, and wouldn't change it, despite the fact we are very low on money. If we could afford to, both of us would work less and spend more time with our 4 and 2yos. Luckily my OH is on the same page as me.

It is plenty. We are outside London, mortgage 700, less spare money but still over 1000. I am not changing anything right now

Why on earth would anyone give up precious time if they are already financially comfortable. Wonder if he's jealous and actually doesn't appreciate how he benefits from the discrepancy between yours and his hours- surely family life would be harder/more hectic- needing to rush around in the evenings, needing to catch up on housework more at weekends.

I completely agree :)

The point is that perhaps "getting by" is not enough for him? Perhaps he wants you to save for a rainy day? No-one can blame him, it's just two different views on how to live. I'd be more thinking like him. You sound more laid back. You should try to compromise I think.

I agree with other comments, even if you increased your hours would you be spending it on childcare anyway? If you are managing on your wages then I would stay as you are.

I currently work 34 hours and once DC2 starts school will be keeping my 1 day off a week. For me increasing my hours isn’t worth it, if I can have some breathing space from week of constantly juggling I’m having it.

YANBU!! Honestly, I’d choose time over money any day. I increased my hours from 29 to 33.5 but still remained at 4 days and it wasn’t worth it, I work much longer days, have shorter lunches and I lost holidays because our leave system works in hours and barely got much more for it. I’m going to request I go back to 30.
is your husband giving you a hard time about this? Do you do the majority of the care/ domestic stuff/ house and life admin? That’s a job in itself.

I wouldn't say good, no.

Doable, yes

Since when is 38 hours not full time? 😂

It is for me. I work for 35 hours which is classed as FT hours for my entire (massive) company.

Our financial position is remarkably similar. I do slightly longer days but only work 4. On my day off I do the laundry, chores and food shopping. It means at the weekend when the kids are off school and we aren't working we can actually do stuff together and not waste the time on house stuff. I won't be giving up my day "off" for anything. We're very comfortable financially and there's more to life than money.

I would agree, OP. I work only 20 hours per week but dont have family help really and school doesn't offer any extra hours, so id have to get a childminder and then every school holiday would also be a nightmare. It's just not worth it, so we muddle along on less. If you are managing now then keep doing what you're doing. My husband is on €39k and im on €20k in ireland which has a high cost of living but we are relatively lucky as we have a small mortgage compared to some. I know if we had a bigger mortgage id have to rethink and realistically we'd have to upskill and our life would be more stressful. I admit I like the slower pace but I know that's a luxury in this day and age.

I think it depends on your end goal.

If your kids are at school now, it’s extra cash to save for earlier retirement or higher pension. Gives you more options later in life.

I am a planner. I always like to save for a rainy day or a ‘what if’. If my health is good now and I can make the money now, I feel that gives me security for a time when I may not have that. Plus I don’t want to work until the bitter end.

I've got 1 dc in primary, one in secondary, and my brain is bamboozled by the homework and all different schools platforms I need to keep up with. I would cut hours if I could

But the OP said they have enough money, so in her case it does more than cover the bare minimum.

It's plenty. There's more to life than money - time is far more precious.

It’s not like you have 8 hours extra to yourself which is probably what he thinks.

I would point out that if you worked 8 hours more then he would need to adapt. He would need to do school drop offs and clubs, maybe do more household chores like cooking etc

THIS

Is he planning to do some school runs and life admin? I bet not.