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Going into the office 5 days a week!

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Honeybunnny · 23/09/2025 10:58

Hi

Im REALLY struggling with a good job offer which would probably kick start my career as it requires me to be fully office based. The office is a 2 minute drive so will have practically 0 commute but I have worked hybrid for a few years and I just love it. It changed my life so much and I am so much more relaxed at home, and more productive in general. It was a game changer for me.

The thought of returning to an office 5 days a week makes me feel queasy and I just can't shake it off.

It would be a shame to turn down the role purely because I can't bear to be in an office, they do not offer hybrid at all.

Any thoughts or has anyone gone from remote to office work?

Thank you

OP posts:
chattyness · 23/09/2025 13:10

Take the job, you may find that you really enjoy it and also being on your doorstep like that so you can walk to and from the office in minutes is a gift especially in shite weather. You'll save money on fuel from not having to drive and your power bills too with being out of the house all week.
I really do understand them not offering hybrid , if I was the boss paying the rent, rates, lighting, heating and all the rest of it I'd want my workers in there all the time.

WitchesCauldron · 23/09/2025 13:03

TattooStan · 23/09/2025 11:55

A 2 minute commute would mean I could pop home to see the dog at lunch time and still go to the gym after work, so would be worth considering at least.
However I think the culture of an employer that didn't even offer 1 day of wfh a week would be a culture I wouldn't enjoy.

Hey maybe the employer believes that you work for them and not the other way around. That's what your salary is for rolls eyes

PumpkinsAndCoconuts · 23/09/2025 13:01

A 2 minute commute? Take it!

Plastictreees · 23/09/2025 13:00

I would struggle with this. I’m only part time but I can do my job perfectly well from home, so I see no reason to add a commute on top of the working day. It’s one of the reasons I left my last post, the expectation that we’d need to commute in to attend meetings at 3pm (until 5pm) in person, that were perfectly fine being held over Teams. No thanks!

I completely understand this is very job dependent though, and I do miss the social aspect of going into work occasionally but working from home suits me for now.

WitchesCauldron · 23/09/2025 12:59

Philipthecat · 23/09/2025 12:57

And people who can't do it are so jealous!

Weird conclusion to jump to... maybe their jobs mean they can't work from home. Like the people who kept the country afloat during the pandemic.

2025emanresu · 23/09/2025 12:59

i took a job a (less than) 5 min walk away. With the thought process being I could go home at lunch and still keep on top of things. This element worked really well. Plus not using my own heating/electricity! Getting out the house and being around people it was actually the best of both worlds.

the job could be done remotely but I didn't question this because of the proximity. It turns out the reason they wanted someone in full time is because they really really did not trust their staff. It was so stiflingly and I left quite quickly.

so to summarise, being in the office with such a short commute is actually nicer than WFH but id be thinking carefully about why there is no option to work remotely, if it is technically possible

Philipthecat · 23/09/2025 12:57

WitchesCauldron · 23/09/2025 12:56

Oh FGS. WFH people are so entitled.

And people who can't do it are so jealous!

WitchesCauldron · 23/09/2025 12:56

AnxietySloth · 23/09/2025 11:54

I would never go back to full time office work - not for anything.

I think it also indicates that the employer has regressive and non-inclusive work practices and doesn't trust its staff. Avoid.

Oh FGS. WFH people are so entitled.

IneedtheeohIneedtheeeveryhourIneedthee · 23/09/2025 12:56

Take it! It sounds like you are quite low down on the career ladder if you need to 'kick start' your career. Get some experience and then you can be more flexible in the future.
People have got far too used to cushy home working. As for all this 'I could never', well the would have been reality for most within most of our lifetimes at one point.

Comtesse · 23/09/2025 12:54

Honestly it’s a tiny commute. If it’s a good role it’s worth it.

Would they allow you to do the odd day at home if say the boiler needed to be serviced? Zero flex would be quite annoying. And how would they feel about working with a stinking cold? Eg today I’m not sick enough to be off work but I’m sneezing/ coughing too much to be in the office so WFH.

IHaveAlwaysLivedintheCastle · 23/09/2025 12:54

Praying4Peace · 23/09/2025 12:49

A shining example of the many people I know who are WFH and clarifies just how much it is abused

Exactly. And chancers like that are being spotted.

Antimimisti · 23/09/2025 12:53

If it's a 2 minute drive, can you walk it? Saving money and giving a health benefit?

How certain are you that hybrid is there to stay with your present employer? It would be annoying to turn this job down only to be asked to go back to the office full-time later on.

gtx1797h · 23/09/2025 12:52

I could never OP

IHaveAlwaysLivedintheCastle · 23/09/2025 12:51

I hated working from home. I went back to the office as soon as it was possible and work 5 days in the office.

From experience as an employer I don't believe the "oh I'm so much more productive working from home" guff. The stats don't bear it out and flexibility almost only goes one way.

We're also going to be cracking down on employees working from home who aren't using childcare.

Poirot1983 · 23/09/2025 12:51

My job is a 2 minute drive but I walk it (17 minutes to be precise!). After a few years of 30 minutes driving to work, I love it!

I started this job in January and for a year before that I noticed hip pain (I am in my early 50's). Since walking to walk, this has complete gone.

I would give it a year as a PP suggested and see how it goes.

Philipthecat · 23/09/2025 12:49

I'd be really reluctant to go back in to the office full time. A 2 minute commute would make it a little more playable but even then I'd be seriously on the fence.

Praying4Peace · 23/09/2025 12:49

vivainsomnia · 23/09/2025 12:27

It depends on what WFH is currently like. If it's 8 hours in front of the co.puter being monitored, then I'd definitely take the job. If it is one of those jobs you can do in 2 hours so you get the rest of the day to do stuff as you wish, then no, I wouldn't take it.

A shining example of the many people I know who are WFH and clarifies just how much it is abused

ItWasTheBabycham · 23/09/2025 12:48

2 minute drive? You can pop home at lunchtime, do it

RaininSummer · 23/09/2025 12:48

Assuming you actually work properly when working from home, how will your life change in reality if it's such a short journey to work as you won't lose any time at all which I thought was the best thing about working from home?

RickertyRocker · 23/09/2025 12:46

WFH benefits everyone. You either work or you don't. Some people find they are more productive in the office, for others, the opposite is true.

Bums on seats 9am to 5pm company culture would not align with my values. Of course there need to be flexibility, especially for new starters. Flexibility goes both ways or not at all.

WFH is a much better for working around my disability. It is better for my company because I am flexible with them. If there is a deadline, I will work longer hours to meet it.

BeMellowAquaSquid · 23/09/2025 12:45

K0OLA1D · 23/09/2025 12:25

I couldn't go back to full time in the office again. Unless the pay is a vast amount more than I am currently getting I wouldn't even consider it.

I only work around an 8 min drive away from the office, but its not the travel that puts me off, it being in the office!

Sorry to hijack but can I ask you what puts you off being in the office? Would there be anything not of monetary value that would see you come in more? Am trying to increase footfall and I’m genuinely interested to hear from people who have this mindset.

ParmaVioletTea · 23/09/2025 12:43

WFH rarely benefits the.company. Especially for new starters. There is a world of differences between being on teams calls and informal discussions and conversations around desks, or being in a canteen where you meet people you don't directly work with.

This.

I feel really sorry for young people starting out in new jobs or careers and having to deal with a rigid Teams/WFH culture and/or colleagues. There is so much informal knowledge & information that gets communicated by in-person working and the sociability that goes with it. We are social animals after all.

And I feel sorry for the companies & institutions where people aren't present. I don't mean a blanket "presenteeism" - I just mean, a workplace culture with employees who resent being there or talking to their colleagues!

CanSeeClearlyNowTheRainHasGone · 23/09/2025 12:43

throwaway20262025 · 23/09/2025 12:20

"There are many companies where some people have to be onsite all the time. It seems pretty reasonable to treat all employees the same, doesn't it?"

There are many companies where some people have to work night shifts, are you suggesting they make everyone in the company do that too for the sake of 'fairness'? No, because different roles have different requirements.

Putting a blanket decision across the entire company might be a business' prerogative, but it doesn't make it reasonable.

That's not a good analogy. -- People on night shifts have enhanced wages to compensate..

I dont see people here saying "pay me less than my peers and I'll WFH" which might be a reasonable proposition. .

AmpleLilacQuail · 23/09/2025 12:42

Definitely take it, being able to go home for lunch is such a treat! You’ll get back into the routine of being in the office 5 days a week pretty quickly. I’m jealous, I hate wfh but can’t seem to escape it 😩

deydododatdodontdeydo · 23/09/2025 12:42

If it's definitely going to boost your career then yes I would.
The commute is a dream, and it doesn't have to be permanent.
Lots of people make sacrifices for their career - even working away from home during the week.
As far as sacrifices go, this is a minor one.
You can return to wfh some time in the future.