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Going into the office 5 days a week!

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Honeybunnny · 23/09/2025 10:58

Hi

Im REALLY struggling with a good job offer which would probably kick start my career as it requires me to be fully office based. The office is a 2 minute drive so will have practically 0 commute but I have worked hybrid for a few years and I just love it. It changed my life so much and I am so much more relaxed at home, and more productive in general. It was a game changer for me.

The thought of returning to an office 5 days a week makes me feel queasy and I just can't shake it off.

It would be a shame to turn down the role purely because I can't bear to be in an office, they do not offer hybrid at all.

Any thoughts or has anyone gone from remote to office work?

Thank you

OP posts:
RisingSunn · 23/09/2025 15:01

Tigerthatcametobrunch · 23/09/2025 13:44

For me it would be a sign that the employer is rigid and inflexible and being a massive red flag. Requiring 5 days with no real business need beyond "because we say so" just seems backwards to me.

I agree with this - shows unnecessary inflexibility. I wouldn't work for a company like that unless I had just graduated or was in need of a job asap.

CherrieTomaties · 23/09/2025 14:54

Id take the job, it sounds perfect.

I work from home 95% of the time, my office is about a 45 min drive away.

But if my office was only a 2 minute drive (10-15 min walk?) I would go 5 days in the office in a heart beat. I think it’s good to separate work and home, have a change of scenery everyday.

Toooldtopretend · 23/09/2025 14:49

K0OLA1D · 23/09/2025 14:42

Disability

That’s different then and not the scenario that the OP is suggesting. I hope that the change in work landscape from COVID has really helped disabled people have greater opportunities to work in an environment that works for them.

Plastictreees · 23/09/2025 14:46

throwaway20262025 · 23/09/2025 14:36

I've worked several. Sorry you can't imagine anything you haven't personally experienced yourself.

In any event, with any job there comes an end of the day even if there is more to do the following day- why is 8 hours the magical cutoff point for you to down tools? Because some guy in the 1920s decided so?

Indeed. I’m an NHS Consultant and my day consists of planned appointments and meetings. I wouldn’t be doing more if I was in the office. In fact it’s often harder to get things like admin done then, because people are always wanting to chat and discuss things. I’m far more effective WFH.

80smonster · 23/09/2025 14:42

2 minute commute sounds bloody dreamy.

momtoboys · 23/09/2025 14:42

I can understand your perspective but more and more jobs are requiring full time in the office. Unless you are really happy in your job, WFH full time employment is getting harder and harder to come by.

K0OLA1D · 23/09/2025 14:42

Toooldtopretend · 23/09/2025 14:01

Because…?

Disability

K0OLA1D · 23/09/2025 14:41

YourBrickTiger · 23/09/2025 13:35

I have never been able to work from home due to the nature of my job and I am admittedly very intolerant of people who complain about having to come into the office. In my line of work, I have seen so many people say they are working from home, then posting pictures of themselves on a day out. Throughout Covid, myself and others had to listen to people saying 'oh I'm a lady of leisure now' or 'I can't do that my kids wouldn't like it' - it was too much. There are also a number of people who just spend time moving their mouse around so they look as though they are working - it's even got a new name in the dictionary.

Covid is gone - people should be back at the office. A day working from home is ok, but I do believe a lot of people are taking the piss now. Not saying you OP, just my views on it, but I am highly suspicious of this new trend of 'oh I work from home on a Monday and Friday'. How convenient!

Very convenient for disabled people. I agree. Would you prefer I not work?

throwaway20262025 · 23/09/2025 14:36

IHaveAlwaysLivedintheCastle · 23/09/2025 14:11

If someone can get their work done in 4 hours and then put a wash on, I'd argue they're a more valuable and productive member of your team than someone who needs 8 hours of presenteeism in the office to produce the same work.

What exactly are these jobs where there are specific and finite amounts of work to be completed each day and nothing more to be done that day once that number is reached?

I've never been in any office where I've been allocated say 10 files per day and my work is "done" that day.

I've worked several. Sorry you can't imagine anything you haven't personally experienced yourself.

In any event, with any job there comes an end of the day even if there is more to do the following day- why is 8 hours the magical cutoff point for you to down tools? Because some guy in the 1920s decided so?

Plastictreees · 23/09/2025 14:33

DappledThings · 23/09/2025 14:28

I don't do childcare and WFH at the same time. But WFH allows me to do the school run and use wraparound care that I wouldn't be able to if I was a full day in the office.

E.g. I can start at 8.45 after normal school run but if I had to commute after that I couldn't start till after 10. And I can leave DC in after school club till 5.30 having worked till 5.15 but if I left the office at 5.15 I wouldn't be home till at least 6.30, an hour after ASC kicks out.

I agree. This is the main reason I work from home.

DappledThings · 23/09/2025 14:28

IHaveAlwaysLivedintheCastle · 23/09/2025 14:02

My workplace takes a very dim view of anyone not using child care when they're "working" from home.

I don't do childcare and WFH at the same time. But WFH allows me to do the school run and use wraparound care that I wouldn't be able to if I was a full day in the office.

E.g. I can start at 8.45 after normal school run but if I had to commute after that I couldn't start till after 10. And I can leave DC in after school club till 5.30 having worked till 5.15 but if I left the office at 5.15 I wouldn't be home till at least 6.30, an hour after ASC kicks out.

ShesTheAlbatross · 23/09/2025 14:26

Hmm for me it wouldn’t be the office work itself, especially with that commute. But why is it full time in the office? I assume your job can be done from home (since you’ve been hybrid until now), so are they old fashioned? Inflexible? Focused on presenteeism?

Full time in the office makes me question the management.

Plastictreees · 23/09/2025 14:23

IHaveAlwaysLivedintheCastle · 23/09/2025 14:02

My workplace takes a very dim view of anyone not using child care when they're "working" from home.

Indeed. I work fully remotely and have young DC, there is no way I could work and look after them at the same time and I wouldn’t want to try!

NoSoapJustUseShowerGel · 23/09/2025 14:23

IcedPurple · 23/09/2025 14:12

It's an employer's market these days. Most employees are easily replaceable. Including 'the best'.

Believe me, many employers are aware they need to offer more than just a competitive salary.

Pollqueen · 23/09/2025 14:22

I wfh 3 to 4 days but don't mind going into the office. Hate the hour + commute though, so in your shoes, with a great job and zero or minimal driving in, I'd snap it up

Purplecatshopaholic · 23/09/2025 14:22

A two minute commute is nothing. It’s more of a mindset thing I think because with that short a drive you can pop home for lunch to do the sort of thing you did while WFH. I’d take the job for sure - you won’t get a better commute than that!

PumpkinSparkleFairy · 23/09/2025 14:18

I wouldn’t take a job that was full time in the office. We need one of me or DP at home every day for nursery pickups once DC starts in Jan!

I'd assume it’s not a very progressive company / potentially controlling culture if they don’t trust employees to work from home like adults.

To echo PPs - surely a 2min drive = walkable??

Isobel201 · 23/09/2025 14:16

I'd say YANBU if its a 45 minute commute like my workplace was, but as its only two minutes down the road, YABU. Have you got any medical conditions that could make it a reasonable adjustment?

IcedPurple · 23/09/2025 14:12

NoSoapJustUseShowerGel · 23/09/2025 14:10

Except these days employers need to offer more than just salary to recruit and retain the best people. Culture and flexibility are a large part of people deciding whether to take a job, not just how much they'll get paid 🙄

It's an employer's market these days. Most employees are easily replaceable. Including 'the best'.

IHaveAlwaysLivedintheCastle · 23/09/2025 14:11

If someone can get their work done in 4 hours and then put a wash on, I'd argue they're a more valuable and productive member of your team than someone who needs 8 hours of presenteeism in the office to produce the same work.

What exactly are these jobs where there are specific and finite amounts of work to be completed each day and nothing more to be done that day once that number is reached?

I've never been in any office where I've been allocated say 10 files per day and my work is "done" that day.

NoSoapJustUseShowerGel · 23/09/2025 14:10

WitchesCauldron · 23/09/2025 13:03

Hey maybe the employer believes that you work for them and not the other way around. That's what your salary is for rolls eyes

Except these days employers need to offer more than just salary to recruit and retain the best people. Culture and flexibility are a large part of people deciding whether to take a job, not just how much they'll get paid 🙄

NoSoapJustUseShowerGel · 23/09/2025 14:04

JediNinja · 23/09/2025 13:29

Those of you judging OP for saying that she would drive 2 minutes, instead of mentioning walking as an alternative, please consider that there might be reasons why one decides to do that. It might not be the case but OP might be able to drive just fine and sit at a desk but perhaps might not be able to walk for 15 min. Or the drive is into and through an industrial park that is really not that suitable to walk around. Or the road cuts through muddy fields and streams in an area without pavements. Or she needs to carry a lot of tools/big laptop and files/folders/whatever and it would be too heavy each way for her back. Who knows! It might not be the case and it's just a frivolous reason, like she wears very high heels and can't do all that walk rushing to get to work... Or she might rather drive and stay warm and dry now we are going into winter. But she might also have very good reasons because of health issues or safety concerns. So many people rising an eyebrow...

OP, take the job. Get the experience. Go back home for lunch. See how you feel in a few months. You can search for another job whenever you feel it's not what you want. The lack of commute would be a winner for me, though, as it's a saving and you can probably arrange GP and dentist appointments around your lunch hour without much issue.

Edited

Wearing high heels is a choice, not a necessity. So not a good enough reason to avoid walking.

throwaway20262025 · 23/09/2025 14:02

A lot of people here assuming that anyone who WFH is a workshy chancer, which is incredibly incorrect.

Time spent working is not the measure of a productive member of staff, output is. If someone can get their work done in 4 hours and then put a wash on, I'd argue they're a more valuable and productive member of your team than someone who needs 8 hours of presenteeism in the office to produce the same work.

The 8 hour workday was invited by a man several hundred years ago, based on societal norms, the hormones and body clock of men, and the types of jobs available then. We have come on a long way and yet we still hold this up as the gld standard of productivity- why?

I also don't think you have to be sat at your computer for 8 straight hours to be providing value to your bosses, unless that is what your role specifically requires. I am self employed, I work 5 hours a day 4 days a week and produce more work and earn more money than I ever did in a full time employed position.

Yes you're going to get people who take the piss, as you do in any job, with any working location requirement. That's a hiring and a management problem, not a remote working one.

IHaveAlwaysLivedintheCastle · 23/09/2025 14:02

Praying4Peace · 23/09/2025 13:43

So you don't use cc on the days you wfh?

My workplace takes a very dim view of anyone not using child care when they're "working" from home.

Toooldtopretend · 23/09/2025 14:01

K0OLA1D · 23/09/2025 13:33

It would massively inconvenience me. It could be next door and I'd still choose to wfh.

Because…?